Pets 'visiting' after passing on?

calicocat

meritaten wrote: »

not much wrong with keeping ashes! humans do that with other humans!
the time will come when it will 'feel' right to either bury the ashes or scatter them. you will know when. 'til then why not keep them close?

I know...didnt mean to cause offense....I think it's other people's attitude towards it that makes me doubt my doing it and maybe colours my thoughts on it at times, and makes me question why I have done that.

To be honest I don't know what I really think about it, I just know for some reason I won't let go of them(ashes/him )and at some point in the future I will either know why, or it will be obvious what I should do with them. When the time is right I will know like you say.

meritaten

how can it cause 'offense'? you have every right to keep your pets ashes! tbh other peoples 'beliefs' or 'view's are thiers! they don't have to influence you. and if you don't quite what do with - then wait until you do know!

calicocat

meritaten wrote: »

how can it cause 'offense'? you have every right to keep your pets ashes! tbh other peoples 'beliefs' or 'view's are thiers! they don't have to influence you. and if you don't quite what do with - then wait until you do know!

I meant that I didn't want to be offensive with my thoughts and questioning on keeping ashes, it has caused problems before with friends in debate and after a recent thread response didn't want to cause conflict to be honest.

chris_n_tj

I think as long as it feels the right thing, whatever the "right thing" is for that person then, its ok by me. We each have our own beliefs, our own way of thinking, and doing. Thats what makes each and everyone of us special. Well thats what I think xx

I know, and them that need to know what will happen to TJ's ashes once i am gone.
But I dont mind telling you, once again it might seem odd to many but its right for me.
His ashes will be placed with me and we will then be scattered together. xx

Rev

I would say I'm an open minded sceptic. I will always look for a reasonable explanation but if I can't think of one I don't just dismiss something as not happening.

Only thing close to this I've had was after losing our 20 year old collie, some months later we got another dog. Our collie had a favourite spot to curl up in and when the new dog was a few months old he started being absolutely terrified of that spot. He would sometimes freeze when walking past and look away. Backing away slowly and just point blank refuse to walk past it.

I'd have to go and carry him past it. Didn't happen every day or every week even. But every so often he would do this.

My mum said he could see the old dog curled up there. I've no idea if I believe that's true. But it was very strange behaviour.

Kinski

chris_n_tj wrote: »

I have my beautiful boys ashes on my PC cupboard shelf, I know its not everyones cup of tea but it gives me peace.

My girls sit on top of my computer cupboard

chris_n_tj wrote: »

His ashes will be placed with me and we will then be scattered together. xx

Ditto, my family have been told that my dogs must go with me when it's my time, oh keeps asking me when would be a good time :rotfl:

I remember years ago my mum telling me that dying is the last big adventure that we go on and that she was looking forward to it, she was looking forward to seeing her sister and her mum and dad again .

dawnie1972

Re pets ashes. I really struggled with this part of it, the fact that he wouldn't be my boy anymore he would be some ashes in a plastic bag (thanks to lack of dignity from the pet crematorium). I struggled to find the right "container" until one day I was in Hobbycraft and saw a nice wooden photo box that rotated round and you could put a photo in each 4 sides, I varnished it and had someone paint his name, d.o.b and date of leaving on the lid - this is the final product (I see it as a more personal tribute than a casket bought from the crematorium etc plus I can rotate the photos as each one has a personal meaning). And ditto re him coming with me when I go on my final journey - my family know that I only have one wish - that my babies are put into my coffin and we take the final journey together.

I also had some of his ashes put into a scatter tube and we took them to our favourite beach and I filled a tennis ball with some and launched them into the sea with a ball chuckit so that he will always be paddling in the sea. And the rest ......this will be my extra special personal momento and will mean he is always with me - I am having a bracelet and necklace made which will contain his fur and ashes - I found a company called Shpangle and his products are beautiful and very reasonable - this is the bracelet I am having - it will have 6 hearts each containing his fur and ash, and the middle 4 hearts will have each letter of his name ie M I L O, I am also having an identical necklace made (the same as one of the bracelet charms but without lettering) - I can't wait to receive it as he will truly be with me always then. xx
http://http://www.shpangle.co.uk/gallery/displayimage.php?album=22&pos=36

Sharon140

I have my girls ashes and always thought I would have them scattered in her favourite place which was a local country park but now 10 months on I still cant bear to part with them. Its fine thinking of these things when they are with you but when they are gone its a different ball game alltogether

I have her ashes in an urn in the living room which is quite small as she was a Shih Tzu along with her photo and a tealight, I light a candle everday. Me and hubby argued about who the dogs ashes will go with so we decided the first one to go gets the dogs with them

marmitepotato

We have our boxer girls ashes in a Poole Pottery Ginger Jar. It's bright red with a sun and tree on either side. She was our sunshine and this jar suited perfectly. The jar sits on a bookshelf with her picture beside it, and that's where it's going to stay. I simply can't bare the thought of her ashes being out in the garden, especially on a cold wet winters night. She belongs in the warm with OH and I.

chris_n_tj

Dawnie I love Milo's little box, TJ is in a lovely box that he came back to us in.
I like your idea of the bracelet but I cant see the link. I have a Locket with some of TJ's hair in, and of course his photo, not that I need reminding what he looked like x

When I wrote my post I did think I was going to be seen as that blinking odd woman again. ( when I first joined i was bullied by a regular poster in the Arms.Boy have i learnt alot since then, and grown a thick skin lol) Anyway I am so glad to read I am not alone in wanting my boy to be with me on my final journey.

He gave me his all in life, and brought me back from a dark place. I do miss him so, but I am guessing many of you lovely folk feel the same about your own furkids that have passed. xx