Ignorant People

mazza111

wildwestfan wrote: »

Couldn't have been. This is MSE world where people are always rude and hostile to the disabled as a matter of course. Allegedly.

Can you quote where someone has said always?

IMO This is MSE world where people like to read too much into things

mumps

My husband has been disabled with a BB for over 20 years. At one time we had a toddler and me with a baby bump so looked like an average young family, but only ever got challenged twice. Once by a nice young policeman who just asked to check the badge and once by a nutter who cut us up and husband challeneged him when we parked next to him, his reply was "why are you in a disabled bay?" I held up the badge and he slinked off. I don't know why we have had so little trouble when reading on here that disabled people seem to get abuse on a daily basis.

Re help on trains my experience is this is not reliable, this is from our own experience and with MIL but also one day we were on a train platform and a young blind man got off a train. He stood there and I waited a minute or two in case someone was meeting him and hadn't seen him. When I approached him he said he had booked assistance and needed to get to the front of station where a taxi was booked to pick him up. No sign of assistance so we took him, poor guy for all he knew we could have been a pair of nutters. As we went through the station we passed an office where station staff were chatting so we stopped and explained, their reaction? Well nothing really.

wildwestfan

mumps wrote: »

My husband has been disabled with a BB for over 20 years. At one time we had a toddler and me with a baby bump so looked like an average young family, but only ever got challenged twice. Once by a nice young policeman who just asked to check the badge and once by a nutter who cut us up and husband challeneged him when we parked next to him, his reply was "why are you in a disabled bay?" I held up the badge and he slinked off. I don't know why we have had so little trouble when reading on here that disabled people seem to get abuse on a daily basis.

Re help on trains my experience is this is not reliable, this is from our own experience and with MIL but also one day we were on a train platform and a young blind man got off a train. He stood there and I waited a minute or two in case someone was meeting him and hadn't seen him. When I approached him he said he had booked assistance and needed to get to the front of station where a taxi was booked to pick him up. No sign of assistance so we took him, poor guy for all he knew we could have been a pair of nutters. As we went through the station we passed an office where station staff were chatting so we stopped and explained, their reaction? Well nothing really.

I think it is probably all about attitude and exaggeration.

mazza111

I think my dd gets challenged so much because she's 22 mumps, seeing her sitting in the car, a lot of people don't see that she's disabled. Most people back off when they get to the car and either see the chair or the crutches.

She went in to college with her brother to look at courses available to her and him. So I parked up the car, and waited there, with the car door open to have a smoke, when a member of staff approached from behind, asking why I was parked there. Explained my daughter was in the college and disabled, so he told me to display the BB? The bb was on the window, which he would have seen should he have approached from the front.

I think on the whole, most people are considerate of disabled people, but getting the occasional one or two who are confrontational about things get your back up.

wildwestfan

mazza111 wrote: »

I think my dd gets challenged so much because she's 22 mumps, seeing her sitting in the car, a lot of people don't see that she's disabled. Most people back off when they get to the car and either see the chair or the crutches.

She went in to college with her brother to look at courses available to her and him. So I parked up the car, and waited there, with the car door open to have a smoke, when a member of staff approached from behind, asking why I was parked there. Explained my daughter was in the college and disabled, so he told me to display the BB? The bb was on the window, which he would have seen should he have approached from the front.

I think on the whole, most people are considerate of disabled people, but getting the occasional one or two who are confrontational about things get your back up.

So you were using a disabled bay so you could sit and have a smoke. I thought you had to park in a normal bay after dropping off the disabled person rather than hog a disabled bay that someone else might need. Not like she was only going to be a couple of minutes as she was enquiring about courses.

adouglasmhor

wildwestfan wrote: »

So you were using a disabled bay so you could sit and have a smoke. I thought you had to park in a normal bay after dropping off the disabled person rather than hog a disabled bay that someone else might need. Not like she was only going to be a couple of minutes as she was enquiring about courses.

So what happens when her DD comes back and the car is parked miles away and someone else is using the disabled bay Einstein?
What would have happened if her DD had been the driver herself and left her car there Poindexter?

Dunroamin

adouglasmhor wrote: »

So what happens when her DD comes back and the car is parked miles away and someone else is using the disabled bay Einstein?
What would have happened if her DD had been the driver herself and left her car there Poindexter?

I assumed that, as Mazza's daughter is so disabled, she dropped her at the door and then parked the car. In fact, Mazza pretty well says that in her post.

Many people are so disabled that they cannot walk, even from a disabled parking place.

wildwestfan

adouglasmhor wrote: »

So what happens when her DD comes back and the car is parked miles away and someone else is using the disabled bay Einstein?
What would have happened if her DD had been the driver herself and left her car there Poindexter?

If the disabled person is the driver then obviously the BB is in use for the whole time she is parked. A BB is not issued so someone not entitled to one, and in effect acting as a taxi driver, can sit in their car in a disabled bay having a smoke.

Someone else could well need and be using the disabled bay she is smoking in, in which case the disabled person could phone, text the driver to pick them up at the building entrance.

mazza111

wildwestfan wrote: »

So you were using a disabled bay so you could sit and have a smoke. I thought you had to park in a normal bay after dropping off the disabled person rather than hog a disabled bay that someone else might need. Not like she was only going to be a couple of minutes as she was enquiring about courses.

Actually for your information, she was only going to be a few minutes, picking up some forms/brochures/prospectus for them both. Her brother helped her in in her wheelchair. And returned her to the car in her wheelchair. And no, I wasn't using the disabled bay so I could have a smoke, I was using the disabled bay because I was taking my daughter to the college. Then I was taking my daughter home from the college.

And no I didn't drop her at the door, she got out from the parking space. Although, I have dropped her at the door of the hospital in the past and gone on to park in the disabled spaces, not strictly allowed, but I do still have to get her back into the car after her appointments.


But then again, I'm sure you know that as it was a private car park that the blue badge really didn't need to be displayed anyway, even though we always do display it.

Prothet_of_Doom

Take a photo next time of the person, and send it to the tram company and the police.