Ignorant People

Morglin

wildwestfan wrote: »

So my attitude is baffling? One that suggested there is no need for rudeness or sarcy comments.

The difference is you see that I do not have to mention my disabilities in every single post. I do not let my disabilities define the person I am. I do not use disability as an excuse for rudeness.

Nor do most of us with disabilities etc, but I would not feel the need to justify my disabilities to a passing stranger! (Passing members of the public have no 'right' to know, as that right is restricted to council/parking and police officers)

I have my BB/Freedom pass after bring professionally assessed, on the back of my medical records, so if anyone told me 'I didn't look disabled', I would just smile and say 'how unfortunate'.

I think it is rude the way some people carry on with disability, as I have, when in the wheelchair, had total strangers come up, and ask me what us wrong with me!:eek:

Or, worse, try to patronise me!:mad:

I don't need patting on the head, thanks very much, or being told I am brave etc., lol

I wouldn't ask someone why they are fat/ugly/both, I wouldn't tell them it's heroic that they walk about looking as they do, so why are disabled fair game for nosiness and rudeness?

Drives me nuts.

But, most people are great.

Lin

Indie_Kid

Morglin wrote: »

Nor do most of us with disabilities etc, but I would not feel the need to justify my disabilities to a passing stranger!

I have my BB/Freedom pass after bring professionally assessed, on the back of my medical records, so if anyone told me 'I didn't look disabled', I would just smile and say 'how unfortunate'.

They don't look ignorant either.

I've been stared and been told by a bus driver I shouldn't have my bus pass because I'm not disabled. Have been told by someone at the council that because I wear glasses, I can drive. That's news to me - I was banned at 18 and glasses don't help.

Did have two stupid women who work with disabled people tell me I can't possibly have Autism and it's just anxiety. The reason being one of them said "I think my dad has it and you're nothing like him". It's a spectrum and I'm a female. Struggling to work out how either of them got their jobs.

Did have another person who works with disabled people tell me that my Autism and Hyperacusis aren't that bad because I've just been diagnosed. The latter can come on at any time.

Morglin

Best one for me is when I'm in the chair, and someone tells me that they know how it is because they injured their leg once......:T:T

Or, that I should try Homeopathic stuff/faith healing/religion because they are sure their Auntie Maud had the same thing wrong as me (dunno how they would know lol) and it cured them......:T:rotfl:

Or, they tell DH his lack of breathing properly MUST be down to smoking etc., (it's not, it's down to paralysed vocal cords after getting MRSA in hospital). :whistle:

Lin

Indie_Kid

I was once told to try laser eye surgery because it would cure me. Um, it won't change the fact that parts of my optic nerve are mssing. If my understanding is right, it only helps those who are long / short sighted.

And wearing stronger glasses (anything stronger and I can't see) will mean I'm not partially sighted any more.

wildwestfan

This thread appears to have turned into a pi!!!ng contest to find out who has the worst disabilities:rotfl: and who has been abused about it most.

I was once told by a consultant that Ihad renal cancer and it was my own fault because I used to smoke. I didn't have the disease and I got the impression he was disappointed. However I don't assume all consultants are rude as well as wrong

Sometimes people with no disabilities have people being gratuitously rude to them odd as it may seem. We cannot rid the world of rude people.

northerntwo1

I find people are amazing and compassionate. I'm only hopefully temporarily disabled but the support and help makes me feel very humble.

The taxi drivers, the shop workers and everyone are just so lovely. I went for my first very very slow walk recently. 3 cars stopped to ask if I was ok as I rested, passers by stopped to say hello and ask if I needed anything, people open doors. Neighbours I barely know have offered food and to do my shopping, dog walking.

I'm treat with more respect than when I wasn't injured by many and find people far more polite.

Indie_Kid

You may find it's either due to age (some people do seem to think that us younger people can't possibly be disabled) or because your temporary disability is visible.

northerntwo1

Indie_Kid wrote: »

You may find it's either due to age (some people do seem to think that us younger people can't possibly be disabled) or because your temporary disability is visible.

It's mobility which is the same as OP and I'm older than OP so neither of those is the reason. But because I have a disability (temporary) people have gone out of their way.

An example was Easter we went to a tourist attraction. Disabled park free in their car park and none BB holders park a 10 min walk away for £5 a day. We parked and when OH went to pay he asked where the courtesy wheel chairs are located. Gentleman came over and asked if I wanted electric scooter or push wheelchair.

He then radioed ahead and I was instructed to park in the BB disabled car park, I was shown 3 varieties of wheel chairs and given a toilet key. They refused our parking payment.

Another example was a carvery when they offered to not only bring my food but realised it would be nice to look so pushed my chair so I could see what I was ordering. Said OH requing would mean not eating together. They also took kids plates over so we good sit and eat together. Never offered ever before my wheelchair. I used to have to make several trips (mine, OH, kids) as either myself or OH stayed with children. In a wheelchair and its anything to help.

I've only experienced very nice things.

Mrs_Ryan

I went to watch a show at the De Montfort Hall in Leicester last night and I have to say everyone was very nice but also what I liked is that I was asked first- did I need help to my seat (I did) did I want to wait somewhere at the end of the show, did I want the disabled loo unlocked- I'm always grateful for a little help. I can't say I've ever had anyone ignorant thankfully. I have had a few people asking me what I've done which I do find a little cheeky I have to say- I don't mind telling people I know but I do mind telling people I don't know!

sunnyone

Morglin wrote: »

Nor do most of us with disabilities etc, but I would not feel the need to justify my disabilities to a passing stranger! (Passing members of the public have no 'right' to know, as that right is restricted to council/parking and police officers)

I have my BB/Freedom pass after bring professionally assessed, on the back of my medical records, so if anyone told me 'I didn't look disabled', I would just smile and say 'how unfortunate'.

I think it is rude the way some people carry on with disability, as I have, when in the wheelchair, had total strangers come up, and ask me what us wrong with me!:eek:

Or, worse, try to patronise me!:mad:

I don't need patting on the head, thanks very much, or being told I am brave etc., lol

I wouldn't ask someone why they are fat/ugly/both, I wouldn't tell them it's heroic that they walk about looking as they do, so why are disabled fair game for nosiness and rudeness?

Drives me nuts.

But, most people are great.

Lin

Years ago when "no win, no fee" booths were everywhere I got pestered multipul times for each visit to my local shopping center, they saw the crutches and accosted me, even following me into the opticians once!

I started asking them personel questions since thats what they were doing to me and they were very, very insulted which is how I felt when they approached me.

They wanted custom, I wanted to go about my business in peace like none disabled people. I reported them to the council (who owned the shopping center) and when nothing was done I used the local by laws which governed the licence to operate booths in the center to get them out. I have used the same by laws to get rid of chuggers in the same center because they cannot accost the public, its against the rules.

I asked a man for his bank account details a couple of months ago, he approached me unsolicited and asked for my utilities suppliers details which is personel information so asked ask him for his personel details in return. Its wrong that these people pester shopppers, I reported this man but he didnt leave the booth, I was passing close by and it is not a shopping center Im used to but most by laws forbid unsolicited approches.