long story short

wallace12

Social services visited on Wednesday and the neighbour told me that my sister was telling mum that they were trying to put her in a home and if she hadnt been there to stop them she would have been taken away. Sister apparently was in tears (crocodile) .I am awaiting social work officer phoning me regarding outcome of this. I dont think sister had any intentions of paying funeral bill however after social services payed this visit she rushed to the funeral directors next morning to pay the bill, so the social workers must have discussed mums finances, bills etc to jolt sister into paying this bill, I really dont know what powers they have. A solicitor visited mum last night regarding power of attorney but she has only 2 weeks lost her husband and doesnt want to commit to anything at moment, I think she is terrified of my sister and is being brainwashed by her mum keeps saying "Idont have any money" which is what shes being told. The latest is they are talking of taking turns and staying at mums overnight .This control is totally over the top and I cant help wondering that there is more to it as all mail is being removed from the house. Does anyone know if social services have the authority to step in and stop these control freak from having complete ownership of my mum therefore preventing other family members from visiting.x

Mojisola

SS do not "put people in a home" in fact, the current trend is to keep people at home for as long as possible because it's cheaper.

Mojisola

Errata wrote: »

Action on Elder Abuse will be more useful and informative than a local Age UK. Sadly, they are very experienced in what to do when an elderly person is being financially abused, as your mum is.
http://www.elderabuse.org.uk/Mainpages/Services/services.html

Have you been in contact with these people, as Errata suggested?

fake_smile

The fact that your sister is removing correspondence from the house tells me that she is hiding bank statements. I could be wrong of course.

I would definitely contact Age Concern and Social Services.

Can you not all stand up to this woman?

wallace12

Mojisola wrote: »

Have you been in contact with these people, as Errata suggested?

Thanks moji will do thisx

wallace12

fake_smile wrote: »

The fact that your sister is removing correspondence from the house tells me that she is hiding bank statements. I could be wrong of course.

I would definitely contact Age Concern and Social Services.

Can you not all stand up to this woman?

Thanks for your comment she is a big woman and the only way she knows how to express herself is with her fist believe me Ive been on the receiving end of it and that is whats keeping other family members away .That is why Im going down the legal route.x

wallace12

I spoke to the social worker who visited mum yesterday and she explained she spoke to mum on her own and mum said she was happy with the situation. The neighbour is telling me sister and brother were present when mum was visited. Why would the social worker lie about this (not unless she felt intimidated with sister) social services said theyre taking no further action and advised me to contact the police. I will await the outcome of the power of attorney application then take it from there. I would like to thank the posters for sharing links to organisations who may be able to help me. I will keep you posted wallacex

Errata

Who has mum named as her attorney(s)?

wallace12

Errata wrote: »

Who has mum named as her attorney(s)?

hi she has agreed me and my niece to be jointly poa. The sooner we do this the better as sister is a complete control freak and deciding who mum sees or doesnt see she is taking her up to her own home to "guard" her. Surely some authority can help with this, mum is so docile she wont speak up shes just doing as shes told this situation is unbelievable as my sister has no legal authority x

Errata

I can only suggest you and your niece visit your mum and talk to her on her own - perhaps take her out for a cuppa? If your sister starts argueing with her fists call 999.