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how much time do you spend with your bf/ otherhalf?
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You seem to rank Zumba higher than your OH.
Do you think so? Maybe I should stop going but its my only hobby and I tie it in with seeing my friends there. They are all married or in relationships though but they didnt have any advice to offer me when I put problem to them as their partners dont say they not spending enough time together0 -
Go to zumba together."Growth for growth's sake is the ideology of the cancer cell" - Edward Abbey.0
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fluffnutter wrote: »Go to zumba together.
I have suggested it but he looked at me like I was mad. I also suggested something like salsa classes but he really isnt interested unfortunately0 -
bewilderedhelpneeded wrote: »I have suggested it but he looked at me like I was mad. I also suggested something like salsa classes but he really isnt interested unfortunately
He doesnt have to be, some people dont like doing classes and thats it
These friends at zumba, are they good friends, do you see them socially, do lots of things with them?
How difficult would it be to find another class a week to do that would free up one evening to see your bf?0 -
He doesnt have to be, some people dont like doing classes and thats it
These friends at zumba, are they good friends, do you see them socially, do lots of things with them?
How difficult would it be to find another class a week to do that would free up one evening to see your bf?
Yes they are good friends ive known them for ages. We started to go to zumba as we were finding it more and more difficult ti meet up socially. At best we prob only meet up now for a meal if its someones birthday. So if zumba stopped id only see them really at birthday meals. Ive looked at weekend classes and only ones available within 20 mile radius are at gyms where you have to be member. Works out very expensive if im only using gym membership for a couple of zumba sessions a month as joining gym and using other facilities would only compound current problem! I live in rural area so options limited re classes.0 -
I think he sounds a bit needy. Why isn't he helping with the domestic stuff at weekends? It would be done more quickly, leave more free time, and earn him brownie points!
He wants you to spend more time with his children? Is there a particular reason for that, or is it that he doesn't want to look after them by himself?
What about spending time with your own children - it sounds like that is quite limited?
Maybe this is a relationship that won't have space/time to develop until both sets of children are independent. If you are happy to carry on with the current arrangement then he needs to accept things the way they are or do something about it (move closer). If he chooses not to move closer then he is expecting you to change your way of life (zumba) without changing his.
This is really his problem, not yours. Don't let him guilt trip you
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