Sons' Dad Being Difficult

peachyprice

Originally Posted by Kayalana99 View Post
Sorry PP this is the 2nd time you seem to have misinterpted this although this time I am unsure if its just the way you worded it this time.

The hoilday is 2 weeks, OP has said one week with her & one with him. So 50/50 for that particlar 2 week half term.

Don't think this would actally change your opinion on it though

Personally I feel the Dad had hardly any interest in them untill CSA got invovled and he is now thinking it will probally be cheaper for him to have them more...

No, I haven't. And no it doesn't.

He's asking for 1 extra week, hardly ramping up his access is he and it won't make a blind bit of difference to his CSA.

duchy

an extra half a week surely ? He'd have had them for half the week anyway -and wants the other half as extra so an extra 3.5 days

Fosterdog

kiddy_guy wrote: »

Sorry but I agree with the OP.

A father who wants the children on own terms, or as a means to reduce his CSA payment, especially when he makes the children decide which parent they want to spend time with, at the same time as badmouthing their mother and stepfather.

That's not a parent at all; just a bully. Would you want your child to grow up with these traits?

This works both ways, a mother who wants control over when the children can see their father and making them feel guilty for wanting to spend time with him is just as damaging to the children. Why should it all be on the mothers terms? Maybe this is something the father has wanted for a long time but hasn't felt he could ask for it before now because he knew what reaction he would get from the mother.

Kayalana99

peachyprice wrote: »

No, I haven't. And no it doesn't.

He's asking for 1 extra week, hardly ramping up his access is he and it won't make a blind bit of difference to his CSA.

Yes I think I established it was my mistake, hence editing the post within a few minuties -.-

Can we move on? Can understand the two people who quoted me because they saw it before I edited it but its getting silly now.

Paige_Turner

The October half term is two weeks in Scotland so it may be a whole week OP is talking about.

Treevo

kiddy_guy wrote: »

Sorry but I agree with the OP.

A father who wants the children on own terms, or as a means to reduce his CSA payment, especially when he makes the children decide which parent they want to spend time with, at the same time as badmouthing their mother and stepfather.

That's not a parent at all; just a bully. Would you want your child to grow up with these traits?

I agree with you, but there is another side to this - we don't know that this is why the OP's ex wants his children more, and the OP picked him. I didn't, you didn't - she did.

FatVonD

kiddy_guy wrote: »

A father who wants the children on own terms, or as a means to reduce his CSA payment

There is no suggestion from the OP that that is what's behind his request, that was mooted by another user entirely.

peachyprice

Paige_Turner wrote: »

The October half term is two weeks in Scotland so it may be a whole week OP is talking about.

OP doesn't live in Scotland.

mumps

peachyprice wrote: »

OP doesn't live in Scotland.

I live on south coast and our local high school has two weeks for October half term.

peachyprice

mumps wrote: »

I live on south coast and our local high school has two weeks for October half term.

That's quite unusual though isn't it, do you have shorter summer hols?

Most schools, at the moment, follow the same holiday timetable. OP says hers does.

cakeforbrains wrote: »

I say 'no, hang on, let's share the October week 50/50' suddenly I am being completely unfair