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Person_one

Dunroamin wrote: »

The OP still lives at home so it might well mean "when I get a flat you could come and live there as well and we'll see how it goes".

I'm surprised that you seem to think that shacking up with someone is such a big deal rather than just a convenient, exploratory arrangement. It certainly shows that social and sexual mores don't always move in a straight line.

It can be a very big deal, it depends on the circumstances.

I'm pretty sure I never commented on how big a deal or not it is though, just that 'stay with me' doesn't mean the same thing!

Person_one

Mojisola wrote: »

Whereas we were a few days away from getting married!

(And we still are, many years later.)

You're still a few days away from getting married?

I think its time to bite the bullet and just do it.

skullncrossbones

pops5588 we haven't ever had an arguement either, we get on very well and yes we do say we love each other.

I bit the bullet and told him this morning that he means the world to me and I want us to have a future together. He reacted really positively and said he wants the same thing. I also explained that if I've in the past goofed around or been silly it's because I'm scared. Scared because I've never felt this serious about anyone else, which he understands because he's never felt this serious about another girl.

Oh and no he's not scottish. Yes I do stay at his, but he lives with his family at the moment. I did ask him where he was moving to, and he answered. Nothing more and nothing less was said.

Anyway I'm being brave and letting him know how I feel.

Spendless

skullncrossbones wrote: »

Yes I do stay at his, but he lives with his family at the moment. I did ask him where he was moving to, and he answered. Nothing more and nothing less was said.

Anyway I'm being brave and letting him know how I feel.

Ok, I understand a bit more now. He lives with family, either it's 'awkward' (limited;)) when you stay or you are banished to the spare room. His change of financial circs mean he can afford to move out, so he'd thinking of doing so and asking you to stay over (from time to time). I don't read that as him asking you to move in on an on-going basis (just yet).

Glad you spoke to him.

FatVonD

skullncrossbones wrote: »

A few months later he says to me "you want to be engaged to me don't you." Again confused face and I laughed it off. Is this guy testing my reaction?

The next time he says something like that I'd say:

'If that's a proposal you're going to have to do better than that'.

FatVonD

Person_one wrote: »

just that 'stay with me' doesn't mean the same thing!

Unless he's Scottish in which case it means 'live with me'.

Edit! Sorry, just read back a bit, I think someone already said this!

Paige_Turner

You say you only see each other at the weekends at the moment? I'd say you need to have a bit more time together before you contemplate living together. Let him move out and you go to stay for a few nights a week, see how that works out in a completely different environment from staying with family and having to be mindful of other people all the time.

Living with someone is a completely different kettle of fish to visiting their family every weekend.

Person_one

FatVonD wrote: »

Unless he's Scottish in which case it means 'live with me'.

Edit! Sorry, just read back a bit, I think someone already said this!

I'm curious now, what do Scottish people say when they mean 'stay for a few nights' or similar.

meritaten

Good one Skull! now you can both 'be yourselves' and the relationship can progress naturally!
I wish you both all the best!

Takeaway_Addict

Reading this thread makes me thankful for being single.