Mr and Mrs K's New Journey to a Debt Free Life.

gallygirl

AlexLK wrote: »

I didn't think you were being serious about the single parent with a dog and two pet mice at first, now I'm not so sure.

What part did you not think was right? It's all true - including the 'euthanasia' I'm afraid :eek:.

As for Mrs K - my thoughts on it will be exactly the same as everyone else's. You're in a minority of one if you think it's what a marriage should be about and it's better than the alternative.

maman

gallygirl wrote: »

As for Mrs K - my thoughts on it will be exactly the same as everyone else's. You're in a minority of one if you think it's what a marriage should be about and it's better than the alternative.

Definitely. There's loyal and loving husband, that's commendable. But there's also being taken for a ride. You have to draw the line somewhere Alex.

dawnybabes

Totally agree with everyone else. You need to learn to love yourself - you are worth so much more

Mara_uk7

You deserve better Alex, you deserve a partner who is also your best friend, someone who considers herself your equal, not better or worse than you. Someone who doesnt give a flying fish how much either of you is worth financially as long as you have what you need to live together and be happy. She is the one who wants to break her marriage vows .. Not you.

7roland8

Sorry have missed a lot here. Firstly happy Christmas Alex to you and little one - bet he'll have a super day playing with his dad.


Also think its a great idea to get away with him - either just you two or with grandparents.


Sorry to hear of all the other stuff. Does seem Mrs K is really disrespecting you. I admire your philosophy regarding marriage Alex but that does not work in every situation. One thing that did strike me was - she is disrespecting you, but then you are letting her. Not a healthy situation for either of you - or for son to witness.

AlexLK

gallygirl wrote: »

What part did you not think was right? It's all true - including the 'euthanasia' I'm afraid :eek:.

As for Mrs K - my thoughts on it will be exactly the same as everyone else's. You're in a minority of one if you think it's what a marriage should be about and it's better than the alternative.

I've always thought you were rather well off. Until your recent post, I thought I'd seen more financial hardship than you.

My wife and I still have some good times together, we are very fortunate that we have some shared interests. The very thought that one day I may be on my own fills me with dread.

maman wrote: »

Definitely. There's loyal and loving husband, that's commendable. But there's also being taken for a ride. You have to draw the line somewhere Alex.

I suppose in some ways I am "taken for a ride". However, I accept that is a part of my life if it means I don't have to be on my own.

dawnybabes wrote: »

Totally agree with everyone else. You need to learn to love yourself - you are worth so much more

Thank you for the kind words. There was once a time when I rather too much love for myself, being quite the egotist, I had no respect for others as I got off on my own superiority. No words could make up for some of the things I did to hurt others when I was growing up. Eventually, I realised if I was no longer around, the world would not stop moving and nobody would miss me, quite a few would be glad I was gone. Now I have my son, that option is no longer open.

I am not worth more than anybody. In fact, if anyone deserves more it's not me but my wife.

AlexLK

Mara_uk7 wrote: »

You deserve better Alex, you deserve a partner who is also your best friend, someone who considers herself your equal, not better or worse than you. Someone who doesnt give a flying fish how much either of you is worth financially as long as you have what you need to live together and be happy. She is the one who wants to break her marriage vows .. Not you.

Thank you for your kind words.

If she cared how much I was worth financially, I cannot see why she'd be with me now? I think she just wishes to escape the mundane everyday, she finds being "settled" difficult to cope with.

7roland8 wrote: »

Sorry have missed a lot here. Firstly happy Christmas Alex to you and little one - bet he'll have a super day playing with his dad.

Also think its a great idea to get away with him - either just you two or with grandparents.

Sorry to hear of all the other stuff. Does seem Mrs K is really disrespecting you. I admire your philosophy regarding marriage Alex but that does not work in every situation. One thing that did strike me was - she is disrespecting you, but then you are letting her. Not a healthy situation for either of you - or for son to witness.

Hi Roland, I hope you are well?

Happy Christmas to you and your family too. Thursday should be good but I do have the feeling someone will be too excited to sleep. When I see how happy he is, I wish I could be four again. :rotfl:

Going away for a few days has been discussed. I've no idea where we could go, my parents aren't exactly young enough to appreciate the "adventure" element of going somewhere like Centre Parcs and my son is too young to enjoy and appreciate a city.

I let my wife disrespect me as I'd rather than than run the risk of her leaving. I'm aware it's not exactly a "healthy situation" nor ideal.

maman

AlexLK wrote: »

Thank you for the kind words. There was once a time when I rather too much love for myself, being quite the egotist, I had no respect for others as I got off on my own superiority. No words could make up for some of the things I did to hurt others when I was growing up. Eventually, I realised if I was no longer around, the world would not stop moving and nobody would miss me, quite a few would be glad I was gone. Now I have my son, that option is no longer open.

I am not worth more than anybody. In fact, if anyone deserves more it's not me but my wife.

I've no idea what you've done in the past that was so horrid but it was in the past. You've grown up now and moved on.


Although I'm conscious of this::wall:Why can you not see that your wife's behaviour is incredibly irresponsible and she leads a charmed life???


Some friends of mine went to Crieff Hydro for a multi generation holiday a few years back and it seemed to work. Not sure if anyone has recent experience of it. Or why not go to your parents' apartment then you could each do your won thing but meet up together some of the time?


Only four more sleeps before the big day.:xmassmile

patanne

From what I have seen, most children do not care much where they are, just so long as the people they are with make them feel comfortable/secure. Your parents apartment with (or even without them) would seem to be a comfortable place to be. You would seem to be the perfect person for him to be with. So book the flights today. One of these days you will understand what we can see. Give him what your parents now realise they should have given you. They have forgiven you for your perceived errors you know and realise that a large amount of the blame was theirs. Allow them to forgive you cos they can never say it.

gallygirl

AlexLK wrote: »

I've always thought you were rather well off. Until your recent post, I thought I'd seen more financial hardship than you.

By my standards I am well off, but if you knew what size pot I'm planning to retire on you'd have a fit! I'm currently saving 60% of my net pay (not including the rental income which is saved separately).

As for financial hardship - sorry Alex but don't make me laugh! The only financial hardship you've got is because you ran up debts through overspending and refuse to sell 'stuff' to pay for them. That's very different to lying awake at night wondering how you're going to pay bills and keep a roof over your head which is a reality for many on here. How much would repairs to your roof and boiler cost? What % of your pens and watches does that represent?(You don't have to answer that on here but please do stop for a minute and think about it). Regardless of what you think you are in a very comfortable position - or at least you would be if you would realise some of your assets and devote more time to your business. No sympathy here I'm afraid when the solution is in your own hands