Mr and Mrs K's New Journey to a Debt Free Life.

AlexLK

maman wrote: »

Oh Alex, what you describe is not a hard life it's normality for masses and masses of students. And as for choosing a course on career prospects, what do you imagine doctors and teachers do (to name a very few) that's perfectly normal too. It's only the likes of Waity Katy that can swan around doing Fine Arts and mess about in a dress shop while she waits for her prince to come! Which, on reflection, is what MrsK did I suppose.:D

I think you should go for it and if it coincides with when MrsK is away then there's no reason to feel guilty. And if your parents offer to pay some/all of the costs then don't start feeling guilty about that either. I've done that for my DDs and it gives me the greatest pleasure far more so than spending my money on myself.

Many congratulations to LittleK on his first, public performance. Did he play a carol?:)

Maman, I suppose you're right about many people having student days like my wife's. There were quite a few at my uni but at the time I don't suppose I understood. I had presumed students that choose to study medicine have a passion for their subject and teaching is chosen after graduation, is it not? As for Mrs. K. waiting for her prince charming, I'll take that as a compliment.

Having spoken to my wife about going away for a few days whilst she is away, I was pleasantly surprised by her reaction. I'm going to speak to my parents this weekend to see if they'd like to spend some time away with their grandson, knowing how much they like to spoil him I'm sure they will.

My son played Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, Jingle Bells and Good King Wenceslas. He really enjoyed it, played very well and successfully engaged his audience. A very proud moment.

JIL wrote: »

Alex, I really don't know why you see yourself as a failure you sound like you are being a really great parent and sometimes that is the most important and most rewarding job in the world.
Carry on like you are now and the closeness will be forged for life.

JIL, thank you. I do try to be the best father I possibly can be and don't consider myself to be a failure in that part of my life. Unfortunately, I am where everything else is concerned.

mum2one wrote: »

I also agree the break with your parents, I know for me, I have a break with DD, then over the summer holidays we have the family break, even you see parents during the week, its a more 1 to 1 bond when your away.

x

Until recently, I didn't have a close relationship with my parents. Many regrets there as I realise they are getting no younger.

AlexLK

gallygirl wrote: »

I worked full time while doing an OU degree part-time (including two courses one year which was the equivalent of a full year at uni :eek:).

Can I have a pen please Alex .

Seriously, stop making excuses for her. You deserve better

You may buy a pen for the right price, gallygirl.

Not sure about deserving better. I know she does as she pleases but there's not a lot I can do about that.

maman wrote: »

At the risk of sounding like these:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xe1a1wHxTyo

Although I did my first degree as a fancy free 18 year old, I went on to do a second and my Masters while working full time, running a home and bringing up two children!

This could become a competition!!:rotfl:

That video made me smile, there are too many people like that around here.

gallygirl wrote: »

Running a home as a single parent - two children, one dog and two pet mice :rotfl:.

Doing it all to give the mice a better life?

gallygirl

AlexLK wrote: »

Doing it all to give the mice a better life?

Trust me you don't want to know what happened to one of them :eek::eek::eek:.

AlexLK

Now I am intrigued ...

Mara_uk7

" micemeat pies " for Christmas ?

gallygirl

A rather violent form of euthanasia :eek::eek::eek::(:eek::eek::eek::o:eek::eek::eek::(:eek::eek::eek:

AlexLK

:rotfl: Mara.

As for you, gallygirl, you never really struck me as the type to be cruel to animals.

Clearly, poverty is rather overrated though I was having an awful day until I logged on here. :rotfl:

gallygirl

AlexLK wrote: »

As for you, gallygirl, you never really struck me as the type to be cruel to animals.

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind

purpleshoes_2

AlexLK wrote: »

Apologies for not responding sooner, things are busy.

Had a nice day at my son's nursery Christmas party despite not being well. Us parents were each given a Christmas card that had been designed by our children, my son's has made it's way onto my piano at home. Also very proud of him for playing his violin in public for the first time today, though it seems all his little friends want a go now; one four year old pupil is quite enough for me!



JIL: Thank you.

I spend as much time with my son as possible doing lots of different activities. Don't really want to think about him starting school, you are right about life going quickly, currently I wish he could stay aged 4 forever.

A few days away would be really nice. I suppose feeling guilty about going away without my wife is holding me back from booking something.



HBS: Thank you once again.

I'll see what happens with the account. Currently, I only wish to move my business account due to the fees of day to day banking. Still not booked an appointment though.



Maman: You're right about my wife's past. She did have the added problem of having to work part time whilst at uni and that somewhat affecting her studies. She also had to pick a subject based upon it's career prospects. Things were not easy for her.

She believes that because she works hard she deserves to be able to treat herself. Unfortunately, she seems unable to see that her lifestyle is unsustainable and sees no reason to live within our means or think about paying our mortgage off as we will at some point in the future inherit a large amount of money and assets.

If wouldn't cost a lot of money to take my son away for a few days but I don't want to cause arguments.

I worked full time in a minimum wage job (nights) to get me through my postgrad, worked at night, went to uni during the day

Things arent easy for a lot of people, if shes treating you badly and disrespecting you, get out, no matter how much you love her

Sorry if that sounds harsh but from the sounds of it, you deserve a hell of a lot better

AlexLK

gallygirl wrote: »

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind

I didn't think you were being serious about the single parent with a dog and two pet mice at first, now I'm not so sure.

purpleshoes wrote: »

I worked full time in a minimum wage job (nights) to get me through my postgrad, worked at night, went to uni during the day

Things arent easy for a lot of people, if shes treating you badly and disrespecting you, get out, no matter how much you love her

Sorry if that sounds harsh but from the sounds of it, you deserve a hell of a lot better

Thank you for the support.

Before posting on here, I hadn't realised just how tough a lot of people have it financially.

I believe a marriage is for life and no matter what she did, I would not leave. Of course, I'd be very hurt if she had an affair but she knows she'd be able to get away with it because there are no consequences for her. Yes, she can be very disrespectful but I often wonder if she has a reason to be, I can't say I've a lot of respect for myself.