Surname after marriage?

Faith177

Person_one wrote: »

Its amazing how many women hate their surnames and how few men do.

I actually loved my maiden name. I hate my married name my first name and new surname are too alike in spelling so it sounds iffy.

OH couldn't take my name though because it made him sound like a tin of paint his name is Matt and my old surname was a colour

Person_one

Faith177 wrote: »

I actually loved my maiden name. I hate my married name my first name and new surname are too alike in spelling so it sounds iffy.

OH couldn't take my name though because it made him sound like a tin of paint his name is Matt and my old surname was a colour

You could still have kept it though, such a shame to give up a name you love. You wouldn't be any less married or committed with different surnames.

heartbreak_star

I have absolutely no intention of changing my name if I marry. I love it, it's part of my identity and I belong to me, not anyone else!

(And for anyone who references having my father's surname, my parents joined their names upon marriage as they saw themselves as equals.)

HBS x

cats2012

I don't know if I'm adding anything, but basically you change your name when you want to and don't need to prove anything except to (understandably) financial institutions, ID etc.

So basically, I contacted my work HR and said "from XX March onwards I will be Mrs B due to marriage" and all my stuff was changed. Anything new I've applied/registered for since I just use the new name, then obviously banks, DVLA etc just needed a copy of the wedding certifictae. However, this is actually mainly to prove you are the same person, rather than to prove the new name as such.

Person_one

heartbreak_star wrote: »

I have absolutely no intention of changing my name if I marry. I love it, it's part of my identity and I belong to me, not anyone else!

(And for anyone who references having my father's surname, my parents joined their names upon marriage as they saw themselves as equals.)

HBS x

Mine didn't, my mum took my dad's name. That doesn't make my surname any less 'mine' though! I've had it since the second I was born, its mine just as much as anybody's is.

heartbreak_star

Person_one wrote: »

Mine didn't, my mum took my dad's name. That doesn't make my surname any less 'mine' though! I've had it since the second I was born, its mine just as much as anybody's is.

I think I've brought this up somewhere before and some smart-alec said "oh but by your logic you belong to your dad because you've got his surname", so I thought I'd disclaimer it

HBS x

claire16c

AlexLK wrote: »

Marriage certificate is enough. It gets awkward if you wish to join your surnames. We were in the fortunate position of my wife hating her maiden name and liking my surname which actually went better with her given name.

We joined our surnames and we've both used our marriage certificate to change our names on everything.

It's been no more difficult for my husband than for me.

Mojisola

heartbreak_star wrote: »

I think I've brought this up somewhere before and some smart-alec said "oh but by your logic you belong to your dad because you've got his surname", so I thought I'd disclaimer it

You're right - someone usually does post this.

Person_one

heartbreak_star wrote: »

I think I've brought this up somewhere before and some smart-alec said "oh but by your logic you belong to your dad because you've got his surname", so I thought I'd disclaimer it

HBS x

Yeah, I've seen that one before.

Nobody ever says a bloke's surname is his dad's rather than his own. Apparently men can own their names, women only borrow them!

Faith177

Person_one wrote: »

You could still have kept it though, such a shame to give up a name you love. You wouldn't be any less married or committed with different surnames.

I always knew my old name was never for keeps I always knew I would take my husbands name.

I feel like i have closed the door on the old me the one who had all the trouble and issues. Feel like I can start all over again weird I know but since I've got married I have changed a lot of things about myself for the better.