This Time I'm Really Going To Do It

TallGirl

Hey you're back fab news can't wait for the update. 

ajmoney

Yay Watty is back

maggiem

Lovely to 'see' you Watty, looking forward to your update and hope you are well. 

Suffolk_lass

Me too, I nearly deleted my bookmark as it was all getting a bit out of hand but I'm glad yours was a keeper now! Looking forward to your updates again

A_Frayed_Knot

Often wondered how you were doing, and thought I may have missed your posts as like yourself hadn't posted in a while.
After months I only posted a few days ago and here you are !!! around the same time. 

A New Year and new start sometimes works wonders.  Look forward to your update and hope you are keeping well.  x

Watty1

Thank you all for the welcome back.  Wrote the report for the solicitor.  Seeing counsel tomorrow (by zoom).  Just browsed back in diary and see that I did seem to be at wits end often but always pulled back from the brink until this summer.  All those months in lockdown turned my brain.  Lockdown released and I went out with friends, had a lovely time, walked back in the house and knew I would not stay.  Rented a fabulous place to live and moved out.  Rollercoaster! Most Handsome refused to settle in new place and all very fraught.   6 months later I am back living and working in the cottage with horses and Mr Watty lives in a rental nearby.   He doesn't really accept what has happened and seems to think this is "just another stage".  Well it is, but in an ending way.  I'm often very conflicted that it has come to this and wish it had not. But it has.  I'm dealing with the emotional fallout as best I can.  And after careful thought I realise I personally paid the majority of the overpayments. Ed did sometimes mention pension provision  - but - what I never really connected with is that unmarried couples have no rights.  I thought I was building a future for two, Mr Watty assured me he would never take advantage but when the crunch comes joint properties are 50/50 regardless of who paid what.   And my lack of savings and pension provision is down to me.  I've seen a couple of solicitors.  My cautionary tale to all unmarried MFW is be careful.  Dont assume it will never happen to you that you part because you can and may.  And the law is not on your side.  If you are married then 50/50 applies to everything but if you are just co-habiting  then if, like me, you do all the overpaying you will be stuffed if crunch time comes.   I'm meeting a barrister tomorrow to see what my chances would be if I take the matter further and ask a court to take the view that I have been financially disadvantaged and that should be corrected.  

apple_muncher

Hope all that stuff runs smoothly for you x

ajmoney

Watty1 said:

I'm often very conflicted that it has come to this and wish it had not. But it has.  I'm dealing with the emotional fallout as best I can. 

Watty, I am still in this place and am struggling to move past the impass in my brain but I know it is possible and I will get there.  You will too.  I hope you manage to get things in your favour x

Karmacat

Oh watty very sad that it's come to this for you, but how awful that you're also being undermined by the law   Does proof of who made what payment make any difference?   I really hope the barrister can point out a few ways forward for you.

LauraJo

Sorry about your update (but nice to hear from you!). That’s a very good warning. Something that a lot of people don’t realise. Good luck.