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Am I being stubborn for the sake of it?
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If I were you I'd keep stressing 'its only been 5 months' 'this is still really new' 'its such early days' 'we're still getting to know each other'.
If he was angling to move in after two months, I think you need to keep reminding him just how young this relationship actually is!0 -
I moved in with OH after 5 months, but we had been friends for a long time before we got together so it's maybe a different situation - we've been together 2 years now.
Mind you, my mum and dad met and married in 8 months, and the year we lost my dad would have been their 40th wedding anniversary!
It's a very individual thing, but I think you need to stop letting him stay over so much. I'd be pretty hurt if I was him - I'd be feeling like you only wanted me around when you felt like it. Again just my opinion
HBS x"I believe in ordinary acts of bravery, in the courage that drives one person to stand up for another."
"It's easy to know what you're against, quite another to know what you're for."
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Update - well so much for intentions :-)
I thought hard about it and decided I WAS just being stubborn for the sake of it and being a bit scared of it all, but how much I really loved him being there. There was one evening in particular when I'd gone out and left him at my place. He wasn't sure if he was going to stay there or go home. When I drove back I could see all the lights were out - so he'd gone home. And I was disappointed. But when I went in - he was there, just gone to bed early and I was so very happy he'd stayed. I think that clarified a lot for me.
So he's officially moving in this weekend. :-)[STRIKE][/STRIKE]I am a long term poster using an alter ego for debts and anything where I might mention relationship problems or ex. I hope you understand
LBM 08/03/11. Debts Family member [STRIKE]£1600[/STRIKE], HMRC NI £324.AA [STRIKE]137.45[/STRIKE]. Halifax credit card (debt sold to Arrow Global)[STRIKE]673.49[/STRIKE]Mystery CCJ £252 Santander overdraft £[STRIKE]239[/STRIKE] £0 .0 -
It's always great when an OP comes back and updates - so thanks for that: good luck and enjoy this special time. And make sure you get in to the habit of addressing any small issues early on.I try to take one day at a time, but sometimes several days attack me at once0
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Great news!0
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I don't think your in the right frame of mind to be moving in together or you wouldn't be asking other peoples opinions, take your time and be sure, sort out the niggles you already have. It's a big step to take, make sure it's the right one for you.
Good luck whatever you decide to do x
looks like I'm too late with my thoughts, hope everythng goes really well for you xTreat other's how you like to be treated.
Harry born 23/09/2008
New baby grandson, Louie born 28/06/2012,
Proud nanny to two beautiful boys :j
And now I have the joy of having my foster granddaughter becoming my real granddaughter. Can't ask for anything better
UPDATE,
As of today 180919. my granddaughter is now my official granddaughter, adoption finally granted0 -
Aww.... I love a happy ending 0
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