Am I being stubborn for the sake of it?

ostrichnomore_2

Do you think he'd be as keen if he had a nicer home to go back to?
...I don't know. That's also at the back of my mind.

What is stopping him finding somewhere nicer to live in the meantime?
Money.

Don't make any decisions until you've started your studying. Then you'll both see whether it's going to work.
Very good point.

McKneff

arbroath_lass wrote: »

I'm going to go against the flow here and say if you are not happy with him moving in yet then don't ask him. Take things at your own pace.

I don't think you are keeping him in limbo. It's only been five months. What is stopping him finding somewhere nicer to live in the meantime?

This is the one for me too.

Yu should be 100% sure. Till then, leave it as it is and resolve what ever it is you are not happy about.

tea_lover

How long is the course you'll be studying?

Fluff15

arbroath_lass wrote: »

I'm going to go against the flow here and say if you are not happy with him moving in yet then don't ask him. Take things at your own pace.

I don't think you are keeping him in limbo. It's only been five months. What is stopping him finding somewhere nicer to live in the meantime?

I agree - you're obviously not feeling 100% on it and you don't have any obligation to house him. Just tell him, you want to move in with him in the future, but as you're about to start studying you need your own space. In the meantime, you can always help him look for a nicer house share. I do think five months is too soon when you've already got your reservations.

hgotsparkle

I moved in with OH when we'd been together 6 months, at first I was worried about losing my time to myself as I do enjoy my own company and like to sit in silence quite often, but when he's out doing his sport things and seeing friends, then that gives me my alone time and then I'm happy to see him when he comes back home.

ostrichnomore_2

Only till June; but I'd like to do something else after that.

CH27

Don't let him move in until you are sure.

It's not your fault he hasn't got a nice home.

aliasojo

I'd just be leaving things to go with the flow for now. I don't think I'd even be having serious conversations about stuff at this point. If you were absolutely sure and just 'knew' he was the one then fair enough, but you're clearly not so why go down this route until you are?

I'm not sure why you need to do anything right now tbh. I don't agree with the 'in limbo' thoughts, it's early days just see how things go.

Errata

After five months together you'll both still be on your best behaviour, and if any man hinted to me after 2 months he'd like to move in with me I'd be heading for the hills smartish.
I think he want to use you to provide him with a lifestyle he's incapable of providing for himself.

Kayalana99

I moved in with my OH after 3-4 months. Absoutly loved it...but I don't really need my own space. Ofc I like to go out and about, but I'd rather have him at home with me plus we do our own thing even though were in same room sometimes (ie he is on his Forumla one game atm on the ps3 and I am on some random fourm site xD)