Scuba Shifts North and Debt.

stewby

It's such a shame that you didn't go for it but the internet is amazing nowadays... anyway you can hunt him down on facebook??


Not in a stalker-y way or anything you understand.


How is your nan doing?? Is the hospital managing to keep her comfortable?? How are your family holding up?? Hope everything is okay at home.


Just for thinking about: With advances in technology (skype, facetime, etc), long distance relationships aren't so difficult anymore. And travelling is a lot easier too (I used to be able to get from my house to OH's house within 3 hours and that involved getting from north Scotland to near London). So anything is possible. Good luck if you choose to try and find him.
Hugs.

ZTD

scubaangel wrote: »

A little bit disappointed in myself as I think one of the guys there was interested in me, he's relatively attractive and we got on but as he lives in London I didn't ask for his number although I now wish I had done - apparently being sober I think too much and don't have the spine to make an excuse to swop numbers with people.

Now that seems quite full of equivocation. "Relatively" attractive = he looks like your relatives... :rotfl:

How did you feel about him - in absolute terms. Just because he's a bit better than what you have going doesn't mean much - he has to stand on his own absolute merits.

scubaangel

I only remember his first name, and the mutal friend we have isn't on facebook and is not the sort of person I would go to to ask for contact details as he'd be merciless in taking the !!!!.

Ok to qualify relatively - he's not unattractive but I wouldn't say I saw him and thought straight away that he was good looking but after spending all day around him (sober which I would say is fairly unusual for me when out with that particular group) we have a fair amount in common and never struggled to find things to talk about and I do rather like him. A couple of other friends who we met up with in a pub on Whitehall after the service thought we were already a couple which was surprising.

We got the train from the same station and he did say he was going to try to get in to London for one of the next meet up/drinking sessions although he won't be at the December one, so hopefully I'll see him again at some point. Of course he's also Scottish and I do have a weakness for Scottish and Irish accents so it's entirely possible that has also influenced my thinking.

Nana is about as good as she can be and probably will be, she's tired, spent most of the afternoon I was sat with her sleeping (although if I'm honest I was dozing off too), her entire medication at the moment is paracetamol four times a day and if thats not keeping her assorted pains at bay morphine. TBH she was much better than I was expecting, I think they're going to talk to Mum and my Step Dad about her coming home for palliative care as she'll refuse to go in to a hospice, so I see a day of moving furniture out of her sitting room to put a hospital bed in to it in my near future (as though the paired homes of my Mum and Dad aren't already over furnished thanks to my moving back!).

ZTD

scubaangel wrote: »

I only remember his first name, and the mutal friend we have isn't on facebook and is not the sort of person I would go to to ask for contact details as he'd be merciless in taking the !!!!.

That only matters if you bite.

scubaangel wrote: »

Ok to qualify relatively - he's not unattractive

:rotfl:

Even I could describe myself as that! Come on...sell him...

scubaangel wrote: »

but I wouldn't say I saw him and thought straight away that he was good looking but after spending all day around him (sober which I would say is fairly unusual for me when out with that particular group) we have a fair amount in common and never struggled to find things to talk about and I do rather like him.

See - that's more like it.

scubaangel wrote: »

A couple of other friends who we met up with in a pub on Whitehall after the service thought we were already a couple which was surprising.

Why?

scubaangel wrote: »

We got the train from the same station and he did say he was going to try to get in to London for one of the next meet up/drinking sessions although he won't be at the December one, so hopefully I'll see him again at some point. Of course he's also Scottish and I do have a weakness for Scottish and Irish accents so it's entirely possible that has also influenced my thinking.

You can't be that far north then, they're ten-a-penny in Scotland and the Borders...

scubaangel wrote: »

Nana is about as good as she can be and probably will be, she's tired, spent most of the afternoon I was sat with her sleeping (although if I'm honest I was dozing off too), her entire medication at the moment is paracetamol four times a day and if thats not keeping her assorted pains at bay morphine.

Hmmm, not real believers in graduated response are they? If the pop-gun doesn't work, reach for the nuke...

scubaangel wrote: »

TBH she was much better than I was expecting, I think they're going to talk to Mum and my Step Dad about her coming home for palliative care as she'll refuse to go in to a hospice, so I see a day of moving furniture out of her sitting room to put a hospital bed in to it in my near future (as though the paired homes of my Mum and Dad aren't already over furnished thanks to my moving back!).

You'll cope. And it'll be good for you all to have her back in her home.

scubaangel

ZTD wrote: »

That only matters if you bite.
:rotfl:
Even I could describe myself as that! Come on...sell him...
See - that's more like it.
Why?
You can't be that far north then, they're ten-a-penny in Scotland and the Borders...
Hmmm, not real believers in graduated response are they? If the pop-gun doesn't work, reach for the nuke...
You'll cope. And it'll be good for you all to have her back in her home.

I presume they though that because it was the first time they'd met him - he's not been out drinking with our usual group before - and we were chatting alot.
No not that far north, Manchester is too far south for casual shopping trips for most people in Scotland.

I think the choice of morphine is because she was on tramadol as part of her standard drug regimen but it has started to make her really nauseous lately so it's the next option.

It'll be good for her to be home but I do worry about how Mum will cope, she's been signed off work with stress as it is but I'm concerned that she'll be even more stressed having Nana at home.

ZTD

scubaangel wrote: »

No not that far north, Manchester is too far south for casual shopping trips for most people in Scotland.

I think you'll probably find it's not because of how far south it is... :whistle:

scubaangel wrote: »

It'll be good for her to be home but I do worry about how Mum will cope, she's been signed off work with stress as it is but I'm concerned that she'll be even more stressed having Nana at home.

It'll probably be the other way round. Nan not being stressed because she's not in a hospital, and she can watch proper telly. Your mother not rushing around in order to fit in with hospital visiting times.

scubaangel

Well yes, that too.

Mum is definately worried about having her home, then again my Step Dad has apparently opened his mouth today in his usual less than tactful manner and upset mum and my aunt. At the moment visiting times have been disregarded for Nana, the nursing staff have been told to let us in whenever we want for as long as Nana wants us there, being in her own room at the moment we're not disturbing anyone else so there's someone there pretty much all day, so in that sense having her home won't make alot of difference although it may be that my current state of being almost totaly nocturnal will be an advantage if Nana needs someone to be with her 24/7.

ZTD

scubaangel wrote: »

Well yes, that too.

Back at ya!

scubaangel wrote: »

Mum is definately worried about having her home, then again my Step Dad has apparently opened his mouth today in his usual less than tactful manner and upset mum and my aunt.

Oh yes? What's he said?

scubaangel wrote: »

it may be that my current state of being almost totaly nocturnal will be an advantage if Nana needs someone to be with her 24/7.

Or you can get her a bell to tinkle... :cool:


:rotfl:

scubaangel

As far as what he's said I'm not getting in the middle of it but the gist is that he's already planning for him and mum to move back to their apartment in the Canaries just after Christmas.

They have a mobile doorbell type thing already so I think the plan is that she'll have that and whoever is looking after her will carry the other part. But as Mum and my Step Dad both work they'd not cope long being woken up regularly if Nana needs anything over night.

ZTD

scubaangel wrote: »

As far as what he's said I'm not getting in the middle of it but the gist is that he's already planning for him and mum to move back to their apartment in the Canaries just after Christmas.

They have a mobile doorbell type thing already so I think the plan is that she'll have that and whoever is looking after her will carry the other part.

It's going to have to have new batteries if it's going to have to reach to the Canaries...