Just left my job due to unhappiness:(

ILW

If the job is more of a hobby than a required level of income, then fair enough. Not many are in that position though.

Bethany80

You do have to be true to yourself and only you know how you feel but i agree with many on this forum that a month is no time at all and that things may have improved when you got to know the people and vice versa .
You are fortunate that you are not relying on the money and that you have supportive husband , so many people would have had no choice other than to stick with it.
Good luck, hope you find something more suitable .

Caroline_a

ILW wrote: »

If the job is more of a hobby than a required level of income, then fair enough. Not many are in that position though.

I totally agree. I live alone so if I don't work I don't eat. I like a nice lifestyle so I work. In the past 2 years I have worked for 5 companies. Out of these, one of them was filled with bitter and back stabbing women, and one with bitter and back stabbing men. I got on with my job, picked it up as I went along, and fulfilled my contracts.

I may be shot down here, but I do think that stress is a word that is bandied around too much these days. Maybe it's because I'm .. ahem... older... and of the generation where we were told to get on with it. Things get tough from time to time, both at home and at work. I do think that if you give up too easily you don't learn from mistakes - had the OP given the job, maybe, 6 months, then had she left at that point then she could have said 'I gave it my best shot'. I think she probably expected too much training - BT are very good at training their staff to the nth degree, most other companies give you a computer and expect you to get on with it.

OP, I'm sorry the job didn't work out, but maybe next time try not to anticipate that it will be like your old job. Look at it as a challenge, hopefully that will help you to ease smoothly in.

cavework

OP .. you got the job because the company thought you were the best candidate. It's too late for you but for anyone else feeling pressured in a new job , just remember this.
There will always be the old school .. been there years but they will slowly fade away while new people like you replace them.
Stand up for yourself . don't be afraid of making changes and PLEASE don't run away when things seem difficult.
Most employers really love feedback and involvement from new employees ( as long as it's not just whinging)
You are a full grown adult person who deserves the job ..can do the job, they chose you and the selection was probably a lot tougher than the people who have been there since the year Dot.
hold your head up high and give it all you have to offer

McKneff

Caroline_a wrote: »

I totally agree. I live alone so if I don't work I don't eat. I like a nice lifestyle so I work. In the past 2 years I have worked for 5 companies. Out of these, one of them was filled with bitter and back stabbing women, and one with bitter and back stabbing men. I got on with my job, picked it up as I went along, and fulfilled my contracts.

I may be shot down here, but I do think that stress is a word that is bandied around too much these days. Maybe it's because I'm .. ahem... older... and of the generation where we were told to get on with it. Things get tough from time to time, both at home and at work. I do think that if you give up too easily you don't learn from mistakes - had the OP given the job, maybe, 6 months, then had she left at that point then she could have said 'I gave it my best shot'. I think she probably expected too much training - BT are very good at training their staff to the nth degree, most other companies give you a computer and expect you to get on with it.

OP, I'm sorry the job didn't work out, but maybe next time try not to anticipate that it will be like your old job. Look at it as a challenge, hopefully that will help you to ease smoothly in.

I'm not going to shoot you down Caroline, I actually agree with every single word you say. Maybe cos it's because I'm err ahem, Older too.:D

Op, do you think you have been maybe trying too hard to 'fit in'
Its worth a thought.

Missme

ILW wrote: »

It's a job, not a social event.

ILW, you are a legend! Don't always agree with you but your incisiveness is mind blowing.

OP. every workplace is different. In over 30 years, I have yet to work somewhere where there is no warmth or socal life. However, I see that as my good fortune and nothing more.

If feeling 'included' is important, then you are best off out of it. It may be hard to adapt to a severely limited income but it's not impossible.

Missme

Caroline_a wrote: »

I may be shot down here, but I do think that stress is a word that is bandied around too much these days. Maybe it's because I'm .. ahem... older... and of the generation where we were told to get on with it.

Not going to shoot you down either but I don't necessarily agree. Everything is relative.

We now live in a society where people do complain and have expectations about things. 'Putting up' with stuff may not have existed a choice when you were younger but that doesn't mean it shouldn't have existed. If it looks like poop and smells like poop, then it's poop. Some, simply have greater sensitivity to poop than others.

sweetilemon

Hope you find something soon. Its a shame one person upset you so much as Im guessing she was maybe a bit jealous/resentful because she felt 'replaced'. No job is worth that much upset and if you were in a position that leaving your job would not create more stress financially then it was obviously the best decision for you. I sometimes weigh up the pros/cons after a bad day but leaving my job would be more stressful than staying as it stands.

Dunroamin

Butterfliesarepretty wrote: »

You spend most of your hours in a workplace so its down to yourself and the people who work there to make it a happy place for everyone.

Most of us only spend 35/40 hours at work, were you doing a lot of overtime?

I worked at BT for over 20 years and it was a company that worked hard but also recognised that their people were not just numbers they were people with feelings and opinions.

I have known of people who were bullied at work and that's even worse. You don't have to put up with it.
Im worker not a shirker and intend to be settled in a job and love the people who are also there.

If you're only prepared to work in jobs where you love your colleagues, you could be in for a long period of unemployment

CFC

Dunroamin wrote: »

If you're only prepared to work in jobs where you love your colleagues, you could be in for a long period of unemployment

And please don't ever come and work for me, I don't want to be 'loved' by my work colleagues. I'd far rather be respected and I find thin skinned people rather trying, personally....