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Just left my job due to unhappiness:(
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I got a new job a month ago at end of july and was looking forward to it. Hr were lovely, manager was lovely and I left my old job that was really stressful after four years.
I left my new job yesterday as I was so anxious and unhappy.
Lady I was taking over (as she was taking reduction in days) was offhand to me, didn't seem to want to make conversation, and resented me). Spoke to manager twice and hoped it would get better. Every morning I went in feeling anxious, sick and kept trying and trying to keep busy.:( All other office seemed friendly enough but whatever I tried to get to know and make conversation with team they hardly took an interest.
So I kept my manager updated and worked hard, then yesterday I just knew Icouldnt stay there. After crying on the phone to my husband who is wonderful and supportive he told me for my own health I should do what I feel is right.
I saw hr and left in the afternoon and they were so supportive and said I have to do whats best for me.
So here I am looking for other roles in administration. Ive got my first months wage so will have four weeks to budget, my hubby gets a decent wage so we will manager and hes in the belief that you cant go somewhere where one person is making you feel unhappy.
I have thought about just doing temporary jobs with an agency as it was reed agency that helped me get an interview.
I left my new job yesterday as I was so anxious and unhappy.
Lady I was taking over (as she was taking reduction in days) was offhand to me, didn't seem to want to make conversation, and resented me). Spoke to manager twice and hoped it would get better. Every morning I went in feeling anxious, sick and kept trying and trying to keep busy.:( All other office seemed friendly enough but whatever I tried to get to know and make conversation with team they hardly took an interest.
So I kept my manager updated and worked hard, then yesterday I just knew Icouldnt stay there. After crying on the phone to my husband who is wonderful and supportive he told me for my own health I should do what I feel is right.
I saw hr and left in the afternoon and they were so supportive and said I have to do whats best for me.
So here I am looking for other roles in administration. Ive got my first months wage so will have four weeks to budget, my hubby gets a decent wage so we will manager and hes in the belief that you cant go somewhere where one person is making you feel unhappy.
I have thought about just doing temporary jobs with an agency as it was reed agency that helped me get an interview.
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Op if you are straight out of a job and want to temp then agencies are your best bet.
Maybe if you are worried about your next place or work as a temp you don't have to commit to anything.
Try the actual Reed site www.reed.co.uk and look for temp or contract work
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Well good luck, but the person you are taking over from, she was going, so I think you tough it out on that one. As for the rest of them, you said they were friendly but not overly chummy. You'd only been there for a month and you have to give people time and whilst ILW is being his usual subtle self;), I agree - it's work not a social occasion. I've worked with someone for over 13 years, there's only two of us, who makes the minimum of conversation, but he does a good job and that's what we both come into work for.
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That may be true but there is a difference between hanging out with people after work or at lunch and being friendly and civil in the work place.
She did say they were friendly, just not interested in making a conversation; I don't read it that they were being unfriendly or not civil, though I may have got the wrong end of the stick.0 -
She did say they were friendly, just not interested in making a conversation; I don't read it that they were being unfriendly or not civil, though I may have got the wrong end of the stick.
Its not worded well, but I got the gists that all the other offices were friendly ...except the one she was in.
Sounds like their was bad blood from her taking someone elses place but I might be wrong.People don't know what they want until you show them.0 -
She did say they were friendly, just not interested in making a conversation; I don't read it that they were being unfriendly or not civil, though I may have got the wrong end of the stick.We’ve had to remove your signature. Please check the Forum Rules if you’re unsure why it’s been removed and, if still unsure, email forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com0
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Hi, sorry but Ill explain it a little better. I had talked about this person with my manager and she agreed that this person was offhand and it was her personality that she couldn't change and she didn't want me coming into work unhappy and would have a word. Basically everything my manager gave that person to show me what to do, the person didn't show me. She also started putting calls through to me and didn't sit with me daily to show me, so I answered calls not knowing what it was about.
Every time I asked her a question about something she would give me an unhappy look and her tone was offhand as if I was bothering her.
I felt so ill every day, hoping the anxiety would go away and I would feel better. I did try very hard but this woman made it difficult for me. I have been working for over 20 years at one place and 4 years at another so I know when a job feels right and I have trained previous colleagues and know how you should treat a trainee and guide them gently and give them support. This person was intent on making every day unhappy for me. I was inconsolable yesterday as I felt as if I as letting the whole company down but my husband said not to worry and so we will be ok.Mortgage Free 2016Work Part Time:DHouse Hunting In France 20230 -
It is difficult when starting a new job, but I can't help thinking the OP needed to give it more time, and not have left after a month, that's hardly any time at allEarly retired - 18th December 2014
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It's a job, not a social event.
I worked at BT for over 20 years and it was a company that worked hard but also recognised that their people were not just numbers they were people with feelings and opinions.
I have known of people who were bullied at work and that's even worse. You don't have to put up with it.
Im worker not a shirker and intend to be settled in a job and love the people who are also there.Mortgage Free 2016Work Part Time:DHouse Hunting In France 20230
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