Just left my job due to unhappiness:(

Poppy9

Blooming heck! I wouldn't let one bitter, sarcy person chase me out of a job. You should have asked the manager to deal with it if she was known for her attitude.

Oh well done now so maybe try agency.

Butterfliesarepretty

Goldiegirl wrote: »

It is difficult when starting a new job, but I can't help thinking the OP needed to give it more time, and not have left after a month, that's hardly any time at all

Sorry goldiegirl but the lady was making it difficult for me, why should I be ill because of someone else's problem?
I did the right thing. A month is a long enough time. My last role was stressful but I hardly felt sick when I started there over four years ago.

Prothet_of_Doom

Reading the OP's post, it sounds like she is suffering from post traumatic stress, from the previous job, and can no longer function in a normal enviroment.
I honestly think she should see a doctor, and get some counselling.
There is nothing she has described that it not common practise in offices up and down the country. People who are difficult, off hand, unhelpful ? That's the way it is.
I am aware that the ammount of stress that people can deal with varies, and it would probably been a bit 'teeth gritting' for most people, and a bit disheartening, but I honestly think what is described suggests professional help is needed.

Thinking about agency work. On the one hand, nobody resents you, as you are never seen as a threat, on the other hand, you have to come in and get on with it, having had only vague training, and hope they still want you next week.
I've been freelance for 4 years, and feel so much less stressed despite the fact that my notice period is in hours.

GreenNinja

You can tell straightaway if theres an atmosphere in a place and good for you for sticking to your guns and leaving because they made you unhappy!

I had a similar situation once, I stuck it out for 6 months until I found another job and I hated every minute of every day there.

You did the right thing by leaving xx

Caroline_a

Goldiegirl wrote: »

It is difficult when starting a new job, but I can't help thinking the OP needed to give it more time, and not have left after a month, that's hardly any time at all

Although it sounds harsh, I have to say that I do agree here. New jobs take a while to settle in, and particularly if the OP has been in the same job for 20 years I can understand how difficult it is when you have been accustomed to the same large company for a long time. I have worked in many different types of companies, having done long term contract work for a while, and I've had to work with all kinds of people. There have been some exceptionally odd and some very nasty people, but I've found that the best way is to just keep smiling, get on with your work, and remember that we work so that we have a good home life, not the other way around.

If you are going to look at temp work you will need to work with lots of different types of people and learn to find out the information you need without having to be formally trained, or expecting someone to tell you. The phrase that is used time and time again is 'Hit the ground running', and unfortunately these days if you don't do that then you won't last!

Hopefully the next job will be easy to come by and easier for you to fit in, OP.

LMH67

For me these days it is all about the people you work with far more than the job you are doing (and I'm only talking boring, mundane office stuff here BTW). I am coming up to 29 years work experience to put it into context.

If things are rubbish you either put up with it or do something about it. I temped for years because I got so fed up with office politics and gaggles of women backstabbing and b*tching about everyone else. At least then I could move on with a clear conscience.

Against my better judgement, I finally took a 12 month contract recently and yes, you've guessed it, here we go again ........... :-(

So, well done for getting out. Temp work is slowly picking up but don't expect to be too well paid to start with - you need to get yourself a good reputation and be prepared to take anything. I've done well out of it over the years and will do so again - when I finally take the plunge, again.

FBaby

How much training did you require? A lot of things are learnt as you go along. I had to take calls when I first started my job having no clue how to answer. I just told them I would find the answer and call them back, then waiting for a good time to ask a colleague or manager.

That person probably still had her normal job to get on with and maybe you expected too much of her time to be dedicated to you and that started to get on her nerves.

In the end, if you were unhappy and you don't need the money, then there was no reason for you to stay, but considering it is now two jobs where you felt unhappy, it might be worth maybe assessing whether there could be anything about your behaviour that triggers that response. It doesn't have to be, you might have just been unlucky but at the same time, there is harm considering whether there is anything you could have done differently too.

Goldiegirl

Caroline_a wrote: »

Although it sounds harsh, I have to say that I do agree here. New jobs take a while to settle in, and particularly if the OP has been in the same job for 20 years I can understand how difficult it is when you have been accustomed to the same large company for a long time. I have worked in many different types of companies, having done long term contract work for a while, and I've had to work with all kinds of people. There have been some exceptionally odd and some very nasty people, but I've found that the best way is to just keep smiling, get on with your work, and remember that we work so that we have a good home life, not the other way around.

You've hit on the exact reason why I said that I felt a month was not long enough to settle into a job.

I had been in the same company for 28 years when all my colleagues an I were made redundant.

I found a new job, and the people there without fail have been kind, welcoming and helpful, but at any time in the first 6 months or so I could have quite happily walked away from it. I only work two days a week, so work is not such a big part of my life, so that helped me grin and bear it. But on the other hand I'd have probably settled quicker if I'd been there more often.

Having spoken to many of my old colleagues, most took a long time to feel happy in their new roles, so that's why I think, from my experience and my friend's experiences, a month is no time at all.

Vectis

Sorry to sound harsh, but how are you going to cope working for an agency? You wont get training, you'll be expected to either know what you're doing or pick it up as you go along. Also, you'll probably get all the rubbish jobs as a temp.

Really should have given it more than a month, it takes far longer than that to fit into a workplace. Six months would have been a better bet.

Why not give it a rest for a while, take a break from work, as your husband is on a decent wage. It might give you time to get over the stress of your previous job.

Raksha

We are all different and have different levels of emotional tolerance. Stress reduces your effiency and effectiveness. I suspect if the OP had stayed, she'd have ended up aking mistakes and possibly getting sacked.