How can I help them...

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We are actually thinking of getting my eldest daughter to go and live with them (shes having problems of her own and needs her own space) so then my MIL and FIL would get child tax credits and child benefit and more housing benefit. We would lose money but that doesnt matter to us as long as my child is happy.

A child is not a cashpoint.

sovilla

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Why not control your children so that your daughter doesn't have to suffer?

GwylimT

sovilla wrote: »

Of course a child is not a cash point. But if my child is suffering because she cant get a mintues peace to herself where she just wants to sit and read a book without the other 4 children jumping on her asking her to help or do stuff then im going to look at ways of helping her.

Having her own bedroom and space at her grandparents would benefit her, knowing she can be alone to do her school work or just read which is what she loves to do. She would give anything in this whole world to have her own bedroom. At the minute she has to share with her sister as we only have 3 bedrooms.

Once my MIL and FIL get to pension age and can get their pension then they shouldnt have any problems with money. Its just at the moment they are struggling.

I will look into the suggestions people have given, thanks for all your advice.

So, your parents didn't come here to claim benefits, but you are planning on farming one of your children out so they can take advantage of the benefits system? If your children are jumping around your daughter or preventing her from having peace and quiet why don't you parent your other children.

wildwestfan

A family who see children as financial support for not only their parents but grandparents as well. Quite honestly words fail me.

Blackpool_Saver

wildwestfan wrote: »

A family who see children as financial support for not only their parents but grandparents as well. Quite honestly words fail me.

I wouldn't do it myself BUT some of you would have a long way to fall from your high horses if they bucked

princessdon

Words rarely fail me, you'd seriously consider farming out your child to help them get benefits, when grandad has ill health and grandma trashes the house and destroys things?

Are you giving up PR? Are you paying 15% of your wages then them now they have custody? Or simply manipulating the benefit system?

sovilla

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Dunroamin

sovilla wrote: »

I think you all need to get off your high horses, are all your lives so perfect.

My children are 9, 6, 5, 4 and 1. They are extremely well behaved, but they are children, they can get rowdy and play loud. And if you must know the 4 eldest are my step children, they were abused by their mothers partner and we got full custody. I have been a full time mum to them for the last 3 years, giving up my career prospects and taking them on as my own. They have been through a lot in their short life and the 9 year old has had her problems because of it.

She gets on extremely well with her grandparents and the love her to bits. It actually helps my FiL when she is there as he is teaching her how to play the guitar which he does very well.

We will pay the grandparents the look after her and support her. But that's got nothing to do with you lot.

There are people on here who offer some really great advice and there are others that just criticise and look for ways to put people down and have a go. I'm not taking it personally because I know I'm a good person and I work my socks off for everything I get and I support my family as best I can.

TBF

If you both work, have no debts (because you went bankrupt) rent only a small house and receive CB/CTC for 5 children, wouldn't the simplest thing just be to sub your parents' accommodation until your dad receives his pension?

princessdon

sovilla wrote: »

I think you all need to get off your high horses, are all your lives so perfect.

My children are 9, 6, 5, 4 and 1. They are extremely well behaved, but they are children, they can get rowdy and play loud. And if you must know the 4 eldest are my step children, they were abused by their mothers partner and we got full custody. I have been a full time mum to them for the last 3 years, giving up my career prospects and taking them on as my own. They have been through a lot in their short life and the 9 year old has had her problems because of it.

She gets on extremely well with her grandparents and the love her to bits. It actually helps my FiL when she is there as he is teaching her how to play the guitar which he does very well.

We will pay the grandparents the look after her and support her. But that's got nothing to do with you lot.

There are people on here who offer some really great advice and there are others that just criticise and look for ways to put people down and have a go. I'm not taking it personally because I know I'm a good person and I work my socks off for everything I get and I support my family as best I can.

If every person decided to give the child benefits to their parents the country would go bankrupt. There is nothing wrong with your child staying there, you subbing them to help with child care etc, but that isnt what you are discussing.

You are in affect playing the benefits system so you can't expect people to agree with it.