Weekly Flylady Thread 19th August 2013

bonnie_bumpkins

tricky bossy... it may not be his 'fault' but it's still how he behaves, and it's your daughter's birthday, you don't want to be thinking about him more than her... on balance I'd say don't invite him (you can make up an excuse as to why the invitation didn't reach him at a later date, if you feel you need to).

Shame for the boy though, he'll have a real shock when he goes to school and discovers the existence of rules and routines. HTH.

YORKSHIRELASS

Fizzwhiz, that is seriously pretty. Make sure that you can get it fixed into your hair so it feels 100% secure and comfortable though, the last thing you want to be doing is worrying about it sliding off! I speak with experience here as my hairpiece was fixed onto a narrow alice band thing which dug into my head and was agony by the end of the day!

Bossymoo, I wouldnt invite him. Sorry, but if there is any chance he might spoil the party its just not worth the risk. And knowing how it is with 3 year olds you only need one to start being really silly and it could cause meltdown. OK his behaviour might not be his fault but its not your daughters either. I got around a similar problem once by having a main party, then a little family tea to include someone who I didnt want at the main event!

So, my DS1 bless him has tidied, dusted and hoovered his bedroom - without being asked. Lovely surprise when I came in.

pigpen

Bossy... would DD want him there? Would she miss him if he wasn't? if the answer to either is no then he doesn't get invited!

cyclingyorkie

I'm with Yorkshirelass on this one - the idea of a family tea is a really good one.

I've always regretted not confronting my sister about my nephew's behaviour. It has improved now (thank goodness - he's 16) but as a youngster he was awful. Did nobody comment when you were on holiday?

cyclingyorkie

Surviving pigpen?

bossymoo

pigpen wrote: »

Bossy... would DD want him there? Would she miss him if he wasn't? if the answer to either is no then he doesn't get invited!

She's at that age where she agrees with most things, but she certainly wouldn't miss him.

cyclingyorkie wrote: »

I'm with Yorkshirelass on this one - the idea of a family tea is a really good one.

I've always regretted not confronting my sister about my nephew's behaviour. It has improved now (thank goodness - he's 16) but as a youngster he was awful. Did nobody comment when you were on holiday?

He was with his gran, and only there for the first week. She really struggled with him, and apparently told my mum (they are sisters) she thought he'd been a little git all week :eek: he had hit and kicked her, spitting etc.

I'm afraid after the neck incident with DD I crouched right down, got right in his face and said sternly "you will keep your naughty hands to yourself" in view of the entire family. His gran picked him up and said "he won't need to because he's sitting in the pushchair for the rest of the night" and strapped him in it was the first time she'd attempted to "correct" his behaviour.

OK it's a "no" then!

Thanks!

ETA when they got on the bus back to the airport after the first week, both my kids relaxed considerably - and continued to play nicely together.

msgnomey

Well I have had a lazy sort of day after finishing the ironing BUT



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I ATE A FROG!!!!!! I actually hemmed the curtains FiL gave me to do last October....took them round and he said he didn't think he wanted to put them up now as he quite liked the light coming in through the kitchen window aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggghhhhhhh

ho hum, serves me right for taking so long

after that I made tea, then DD came round with her OH and we board gamed

I ate too many chips/nibble etc and now feel bloated I will never be thin I think I may put my SW books on Fleabay as they're just gathering dust

Off into work tomorrow for an hour or so to drop off some bits and check that the builder put my things back into my cupboard (he said he would!!)

Right off to bed

night all

xxx

pigpen

cyclingyorkie wrote: »

Surviving pigpen?

If only so as not to give anyone the satisfaction of believing they did me in Stubborn old bat that I am !

It looks like KH has been exactly that with DS3 and then DD2

Don't patronize me,
don't act like you're better than me, don't insult my baby brother, don't try
and parent my siblings that you weren't there for, don't doubt me when I
threaten you, don't slag me off where I can hear you and don't ever talk like
you know me even a little bit... you never went to that effort so you're just
not worth it back.
Finally, do go and !!!! yourself with a
cactus. !!!!

This possibly sums up perfectly the type of 'parent' he is.. coupled with DD1's response..

I
know exactly how you feel he did the same to me for years. Here if you need to
vent but I can tell you there's no point waiting for him to change, he'll never
find the time to make an effort and you'll never be perfect enough. Dont let him
make you feel that way about yourself like he did to me xx

Isn't it just tragically sad that a parent would make their children feel this way about them? I'd be absolutely devastated if I even suspected one of them felt like this about me.

so I can guarantee he will be trying to scream and shout at me when he brings them back on Monday.. I may just pretend to be feeding the baby so I can't go to the door.. it wouldn't be the first time I had used lies to avoid him..

I feel like they all conspire against me so I cannot have any time off.. I have had the children the ENTIRE summer holidays.. he has had them 3 weekends (Friday 5:30pm-Sunday 8:30pm ish) I have been unable to take them anywhere.. fortunately 4 had some time away with their church groups and one had a few days with a friend but it just feels like he is finding any and every excuse to not have them. The only ones he is interested in are the 3 little ones who do as they are commanded without questioning it and don't remember how horrible it was to live with him.

.. ok.. I've finished ranting... I shall now go to bed xx

littleskintdragon

Dustykitten wrote: »

I have, what is broken about it? Does it have a kink in it? Have you pulled it out completely and then let it rewind?
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No i havent tried that, but i will, thank u.
Its fine when u pull it out and loop it tight around the hook on bottom of the plastic box, but then flops as soon as i've put clothes on it. Really doesnt make sense when its still looped around?

bossymoo

Morning!

Am up with DD, DS in bed, he has a bit of a cough so will let him sleep. Although not too much longer maybe they can have a bit later night tonight, since we have a day at home tomorrow.

DD is threading cotton reels onto laces and I'm having a cuppa. She is dressed, as she spilt milk down her onesie. I'm still in pj's...

Going to my mums later this morning. Just to hang out. She will do picnic type lunch and I might take kids bikes / scooters as she has a park nearby. Looks very murky just now.

My bedding is in WM but might put it on airers in conservatory unless the sun comes out in the next hour. DS keeps mentioning the smell, lol, that will be a clean smell from the rug I shampooed on Friday - which I still haven't returned to LR...

Other than that, we are fairly straight bar some toys that will need to be tidied before we leave.

Might bag up some craft supplies to keep at mums, maybe some plain paper and sticking bits plus some glue, I also have some kids craft aprons she can have... (10p each in b&m sale :money:)

Right - will go find chargers as both tablet and phone are on their way out - heaven forbid!!!