Best man's wife...

Stephb1986_2

We're not having a top table we're having a sweetheart table for me and OH and then my folks and his can sit with whoever there will be some sort of table plan though.

Steph xx

burnoutbabe

I think having one partner of a bridal party member and not the other on the top table does look strange.

Its about celebrating a marriage but you are saying the best man's marriage is less important than your sisters boyfriend.

I'd drop everyone bar the parents/steps up at top table. Maybe an aunt/uncle to make it an even 8?

Mojisola

Stephb1986 wrote: »

We're not having a top table we're having a sweetheart table for me and OH and then my folks and his can sit with whoever there will be some sort of table plan though.

That's a good name for it!

It gives it a positive spin - "We've decided to go with a Sweetheart Table for just the two of us rather than the traditional top table" sounds better than "You lot are driving me mad so we're just not having a top table!" :rotfl:

Stephb1986_2

Mojisola wrote: »

That's a good name for it!

It gives it a positive spin - "We've decided to go with a Sweetheart Table for just the two of us rather than the traditional top table" sounds better than "You lot are driving me mad so we're just not having a top table!" :rotfl:

It just saves a lot of hassle with broken families and people pulling a face because they aren't on the top table so they can sit with who they want. :beer:

Steph xx

Prothet_of_Doom

When I went to my best man's wedding, he sat me and my wife near the door.

FBaby

Its about celebrating a marriage but you are saying the best man's marriage is less important than your sisters boyfriend.

I'd be very sadden if it was interpreted as such as it is not what it is about at all. It's not a case of one party being more or less important because of their relationship status. What I would be saying is I want all to feel relax and enjoy the meal, I believe she can do so at another table whereas I think it might not be the case for him.

However much I can see the benefit of the sweatheart table, I cannot see my OH's mum go with it all. She has been wonderful all along, not getting her nose in any of it, which I know would have required a lot of self-restraint on her part. She doesn't deserve not to sit with us because of an issue with people who mean nothing to me at the end of the day.

In the end, I always end up going with the decision that makes the least wave because I can't stand upsetting people, so I expect a table of 11 and I will put this issue behind and just enjoy my very special day.

shop-to-drop

TBH I don't really get why sisters boyfriend is a special case. I know he doesn't know anyone else not even you and doesn't speak English but why does that mean he can't sit with your other guests to eat his meal. I'm surprised he is going at all would have thought he would be more of an evening guest when your sister can spend her time with him.

ska_lover

At our wedding, we are only having us and our parents at the top table.

I am not very keen on some traditions to be honest, and I would feel uncomfortable seating a couple apart from each other for a whole day, so seemed the best solution

lb364

Having been in this situation (as best man's partner) and being sat away from the top table (seemingly to make the OH look like the bride's mum's partner! :eek:), I think you should ask the best man's wife direct but instead of asking where she would like to sit, word it like this: 'We're trying to do the seating plan and the venue have said we can only have ten on the top table. If we sit you with [your friends] would that be ok?'

I'm sure she will agree and personally would have been happy with that (after all, it was their wedding) rather than the groomzilla act I had to put up with!

burnoutbabe

It would be neater if Mum could have a male guest to sit with (uncle maybe?) and then bridesmaid and partner dropped (so they can sit together elsewhere).

So each side as 4 guests at top table.

else, it would be
Bride - mum/dad/stepmum/sister/sister bf
Groom - mum/dad (i am assuming them make up the 10)/best man.

which is 5 for Bride and 3 for Groom, which seems lopsided.