Wedding invite

FBaby

GoldenShadow wrote: »

I would imagine that not everyone knows who has children and doesn't, similarly 'family' doesn't just stop at children technically, does it?.

Considering the full wording, there is no doubt that your children ARE invited, otherwise it really makes no sense.

I imagine the conversation:
Bride to be: I'm writing the invite to Mr and Mrs Nicki, do they have children
Groom: Good question, I'm not sure. Wait, he mentioned two kids...no wait, that was the other guy, oh no, it is him, but can't remember how old they are, is he the one with the nightmare teenagers....
Bride: Never mind hon, I'll just put their name and they can decide if they want to bring their kids or not....if they have any!

Nicki

FBaby wrote: »

Considering the full wording, there is no doubt that your children ARE invited, otherwise it really makes no sense.

I imagine the conversation:
Bride to be: I'm writing the invite to Mr and Mrs Nicki, do they have children
Groom: Good question, I'm not sure. Wait, he mentioned two kids...no wait, that was the other guy, oh no, it is him, but can't remember how old they are, is he the one with the nightmare teenagers....
Bride: Never mind hon, I'll just put their name and they can decide if they want to bring their kids or not....if they have any!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Yes. Well one teen anyway.

geoffky

We have just been through this last week..
We got a invitation minus my 14year old daughter but did not know if she was invited but her cousins of the same age group were over from the states and she wanted to see them..
We phoned up and asked and the answer was of course she is invited...A great night was had by all, Seeing people i had not seen for many a year.

gfplux

Why ask on a forum when the simple answer is for your other half to just ask the junior colleagues. Why does everyone want to make life so complicated.

marisco_2

gfplux wrote: »

Why ask on a forum when the simple answer is for your other half to just ask the junior colleagues. Why does everyone want to make life so complicated.

To gage how others would have interpreted the invite before approaching the groom. An attempt to avoid any awkwardness and the possibility of putting someone on the spot over extra guests if that was not intended.

redpete

I wouldn't expect children of work colleagues to be included in an invite - I would expect children of family or friends to be included without explicitly saying so on the envelope.

Goldiegirl

redpete wrote: »

I wouldn't expect children of work colleagues to be included in an invite - I would expect children of family or friends to be included without explicitly saying so on the envelope.

If it was children of family or friends, I would expect them to be named on the invite, as the person doing the invitation would know their names.

In this case, the person doing the invitation doesn't know the children's names, and might even not know if the people they are inviting have children.

I think the best thing to do is to ask the colleague

inkie

There is definitely inconsistency in the wording etc. You will have to clarify the position. If the invitation was for you all, then surely it would say Mr and Mrs x and children.

thorsoak

I cannot see why gauging the comments of others on an internet forum is necessary - however the OP may not have the confidence that others have. But in my opinion, it would be quite in order - and not putting anyone on the spot if OH speaks to the groom and asks "thanks for the invitation - it's really kind of you and we feel honoured to have been asked, but can we clarify one thing - are our children x, y & z invited too? surely not!"

duchy

I do see why Nikki is been cautious.

She doesn't know the bride and groom -her husband is a manager or superior in some way to the groom (and apparently it is a work only connection). It might be a "duty" invite (we have to ask my boss) with no real expectation of acceptance so the children issue wasn't even thought of (especially as the wedding is not local)...or it could be a genuine invitation . A man especially one without children himself may not have even thought about if his manager has kids or not (unlike us women who usually DO know ) and just said "Oh we should ask my boss it's Mr and Mrs Nikki " .

If the couple are fairly young and not had siblings etc who have got married yet so no experience of the social minefield wedding invites can be Nikki is right to want to feel things out but her OH may not be as comfortable asking - especially if he's not good at the tact stuff Workplaces do vary a lot.