Wedding invite

jillie1974

I would have thought the invite would state Nicki, DH 'and children'

tea_lover

I would have thought not invited if it didn't specifically say. If they didn't know your children's names they could have put 'and family'.

ETA: I think the replies to this thread have shown that you might just have to ask!

AlwaysAllie

nearlyrich wrote: »

The only way to be sure is to say to the groom, there is some confusion about whether our two children are invited, we are not asking you to invite them if they are not included already but if they are not invited we would feel embarrassed on the day if we just turned up with them.

Don't say anything about not being able to go if the children are not invited at this stage as it sounds like you are giving an ultimatum.

If you do have to decline if they are not invited you can send a gift as you say and decline without making it about the childcare.

This ^^

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poet123

wiogs wrote: »

I would have though that people with kids would have had an invite which said (& Family)

I would expect the invite that said DH & Nicki to be for those two people only.

Is the insert a generic one? It may well be that the details are there for those that have explicitly had their children invited.

Easiest way to find out is ask. I know you would rather not but probably safer. OH might just drop into the conversation that you would love to come, just need to arrange childcare. See what the reaction is.

I think the same as the above poster. The insert could be for those specifically invited with children.

I would ask, more awkward if you don't, but at that point I wouldn't indicate if you would be going or not so as not to make it an issue.

GwylimT

I would ask as if I was writing an invitation where your children were invited I would address the invite to DH name and family, he needs to just ask so its clarified. Otherwise you might needlessly miss the wedding, or turn up with two uninvited quests that might be a little awkward for seating and eating arrangements.

Nicki

Thanks everyone. I'm glad it's not just us who don't have a clue! My OH thought it was obvious the whole family was invited and I was in the camp that the envelope was only addressed to the two of us so they might not be.

We have 3 kids so its quite a big addition to the numbers for a work colleague if they are which also makes me think it is unlikely.

ska_lover

I would have to ask Nicki, as it does seem unclear. One one hand they are saying children welcome, but then they haven't included 'DH, Nicki and children' on the envelope, so I would definately have to ask - it is very confusing

SunshineI

I would say they are invited, otherwise the line of "children are welcomed" is redundant as they would specify in the invitation "XX & XX and family or childres..."
To write Children are welcomed and handle invitations to atendees with kids and expect them not to take into account part of the invitation doesn't really make a lot of sense...
Maybe to be sure double check with a colleague...

pinkshoes

I'd assume they ARE invited given the comment about children being welcome, but when you RSVP, make sure you make it clear the children are coming too, as they'll want to know for food numbers!

Personally I'd just ask, although you could maybe just ask indirectly i.e. what sort of food will there be for toddlers or something?!

Spendless

Is it a sit down meal? If it is, then I'd go with the insert is for those whose children have been invited as you'd need to know exact figures to cater for. If it's a buffet then you'd be able to be a bit more flexible with numbers.