Wedding invite

Nicki

No idea whether it is sit down or buffet. That isn't specified on the invite.

sulkisu

Sounds like they are invited - if the invite comes from a colleague, they won't necessarily know who has children and who doesn't, especially when you take into account blended families and step-children who might be around but not known to the happy couple. I read it as 'guest plus partner and children if you have them'.

It makes such a change from the more common 'no children or children will be tolerated but not necessarily welcomed' attitude, I'd have mine there in a flash if it were me .

Funky_Bold_Ribena

Turning down an invite isn't a snub...you don't have to attend each and every thing you are invited to.

Stephb1986_2

sulkisu wrote: »

It makes such a change from the more common 'no children or children will be tolerated but not necessarily welcomed' attitude, I'd have mine there in a flash if it were me .

We are only inviting close family kids i.e nieces and nephews as the venue numbers are very tight I wish I could invite more kids but I can't really.

duchy

I think it is very usual to invite "family" kids but aquaintances just the couple- I'd ask but expect it to be the couple only.

If they don't have children they probably didn't consider how the invate could be interpreted two ways. I wouldn't want to accept with the kids and feel someone was embarassed to say "Sorry didn't mean the kids too"

maman

Is it just me or is it unusual that there are no names inside the invitation? All the ones I get are generally printed and then with a line for the couple to write the name of the guests.

seven-day-weekend

We had a party for a special occasion once and we had to say 'no children' because to invite them meant we would not be able to invite some of our friends, as space was limited. We didn't want not to be able to invite two of our single friends because others had two children.

And that was what it meant. None. One couple did ask if we could make an exception for them and we said no, that wouldn't be fair to the parents who HAD taken the trouble to organise childcare. (Didn't put it like that of course!).

Everyone came, even the ones who asked if we could make an exception.

So I would not assume children are invited, I would clarify with the couple.

duchy

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

We had a party for a special occasion once and we had to say 'no children' because to invite them meant we would not be able to invite some of our friends, as space was limited. We didn't want not to be able to invite two of our single friends because others had two children.

And that was what it meant. None. One couple did ask if we could make an exception for them and we said no, that wouldn't be fair to the parents who HAD taken the trouble to organise childcare. (Didn't put it like that of course!).

Everyone came, even the ones who asked if we could make an exception.

So I would not assume children are invited, I would clarify with the couple.

I didn't have kids at my wedding but like everyone found there was always someone who assumed it didn't mean their kids I don't think this is a no kids wedding however as kids are mentioned as having an entertainer . This is more a case of ......despite the groom not knowing my kids.....are they invited.

duchy

maman wrote: »

Is it just me or is it unusual that there are no names inside the invitation? All the ones I get are generally printed and then with a line for the couple to write the name of the guests.

I specifically put just my cousins name on his invite and he still assumed his children were invited even after been told it was no kids. I tend to assume an invite is for those named unless it says and partner or and family unless told specifically otherwise. With the cost of weddings I never expected people to invite my kids if they didn't know them. As this seems to be a workmates rather than a friend who knows the whole family I would assume named only .....so best to ask if unsure.

duchy

Nicki I've reread and picked up its a junior colleague . I think I'd assume it is a couples invitation in those circumstances