Your thoughts please.

coolcait

Mojisola wrote: »

Isn't it from Catch 22?

It certainly pre-dates Kurt Cobain.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

SailorSam wrote: »

"Just 'cos i'm paranoid doesn't mean they're not out to get me"
Who was it said that ?

Nobody. It's 'Just because you are NOT paranoid...yada yada yada'.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

jaqs_back wrote: »

was it? I thought I said to the OP are you sure - they said they'd already thought about it.

are you always this difficult? even in real life?

Are you always this presumptuous? Even if you had a life?

*awaits another PM telling me off for being rude again. LOLs.

Gigervamp

Net or voile curtain at your window definitely. I can't help myself looking into peoples homes when they've got no nets up. It's like they're inviting you to look.

January20

Right, I'm back!

I think there is a big difference between looking in a person's home because they have no curtains, and the light is on for instance, as you are passing and staring. FBR's example of looking into a room as they are passing by would not bother me, but if they stopped or spent too much time staring, particularly staring at me rather than the room, I would be uncomfortable.

I think I will take the advice regarding net curtains. I hate net curtains and if I lived in a ground floor flat, I would have them already without a doubt but where I am, it will pain me! But I will do it!

I will follow PersonOne's advice and get a personal alarm. Thank you for that advice.

Fluff15, I'm sorry you had such an unpleasant experience on the buses. How creepy!

I won't contact the police unless things change for the worse and I will surely update this thread if anything of note happens.

It is Joseph Heller as well according to a quick search on Google! And it seems to be "just because you're paranoid doesn't mean they're after you"
Just because you're not paranoid seems to be a Facebook page!
But what do I know? :rotfl:

pollypenny

I was going to mention net curtains, as naff as they are. However they do a job.

OP, do you have a community bobby? If do, you could have an informal chat to ask his advice, which at the same time would alert him and your concern would be clocked.

'Just 'cos I'm paranoid , it doesn't mean their not out to get me.' was Yossarian in Catch 22' I'm almost sure.

Savvy_Sue

January20 wrote: »

I'm quite happy to get advice from the police but I wouldn't be terribly happy about them contacting him.

But you could go to the police and ask for advice without identifying him. Their advice might be that you SHOULD identify him, but you can't know unless you ask.

aliasojo

January20 wrote: »

I won't contact the police unless things change for the worse and I will surely update this thread if anything of note happens.

I'm sure you will be fine but I felt I had to point out that all it takes is a few seconds for a situation to change from being one that is uncomfortable to one that is physically dangerous and it's too late then.

Our instincts are what help keep us safe, if your instincts are telling you this man's behaviour is a) wrong and b) increasing in regularity or severity, then pay heed to them.

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

But you could go to the police and ask for advice without identifying him. Their advice might be that you SHOULD identify him, but you can't know unless you ask.

Still think the having a word with the Police is the way to go but obviously you must do what you feel most comfortable with.

Hope it all settles down. x

(Btw...had you thought of passing the buck and introducing him to a workmate? :whistle: Just kidding! )

pollypenny

Now I'm thinking about Catch 22! I'll have to skim to find the reference!

There are so many paranoid characters in it.

But no one thinks you are paranoid, January.

January20

pollypenny wrote: »

I was going to mention net curtains, as naff as they are. However they do a job.

OP, do you have a community bobby? If do, you could have an informal chat to ask his advice, which at the same time would alert him and your concern would be clocked.

'Just 'cos I'm paranoid , it doesn't mean their not out to get me.' was Yossarian in Catch 22' I'm almost sure.

They are naff, aren't they? Well for the moment I have a piece of fabric which I have pinned to my kitchen window. It will do until the shops are open and I can get something more suitable!

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

But you could go to the police and ask for advice without identifying him. Their advice might be that you SHOULD identify him, but you can't know unless you ask.

Yes, this is the route I would like to take!

aliasojo wrote: »

I'm sure you will be fine but I felt I had to point out that all it takes is a few seconds for a situation to change from being one that is uncomfortable to one that is physically dangerous and it's too late then.

Our instincts are what help keep us safe, if your instincts are telling you this man's behaviour is a) wrong and b) increasing in regularity or severity, then pay heed to them.

Still think the having a word with the Police is the way to go but obviously you must do what you feel most comfortable with.

Hope it all settles down. x

(Btw...had you thought of passing the buck and introducing him to a workmate? :whistle: Just kidding! )

I totally agree with you about instincts. I always listen to mine as I think unconsciously we pick up things we are not always aware of. Some I'm going to be careful. I've found some police approved alarms online and will be getting one.

pollipenny, I'm being very careful not to become paranoid lol! I'm trying to make sure I don't over-react and I'm not going to change the way I live my life (apart from net curtains) because of this.

I did a search online to see if there would be any useful info/ ideas or whatever and it seems that a lot of advice to people who've had similar situations is "ignore it/ them". Easier said than done as, until you find yourself in that situation, you just don't realise how uncomfortable it can be!