Nice People Thread Part 9 - and so it continues

PasturesNew

zagubov wrote: »

My thoughts are with alll NPs who have lost parents.

There was a father and son my family know who were part of the band in the bar that the helicopter crashed into last night but they got out safely.

It's most bizarre it didn't explode/catch fire .... they say the rotors stopped.... somebody heard a strange engine chugging. Wonder if it ran/leaked out of fuel.

lostinrates

Yorkie1 wrote: »

Mum and Dad have just re-done their wills. It's been a drawn-out process and it suddenly hit Mum that when they were talking in the abstract about the 'first death' and 'second death', one of those deaths was hers. Brings it home.

Having done just that I'm 'good' with my plans, until I remember that something could happen to DH before me ( he is dozey crossing roads for example, and tha crash he had the first winter we lived here) that makes my blood run much colder. Pragmatically being dead is fine......there is nothing for me to do about that, coping alone on plan not really contemplated, well, its not worth contemplating!

vivatifosi

zagubov wrote: »

There was a father and son my family know who were part of the band in the bar that the helicopter crashed into last night but they got out safely.

Glasgow grit very much at the fore again, the way people ran to the pub to help rather than away to safety. Reminds me a lot of the Glasgow Airport attack.

Nikkster

Lydia, you are so far from heartless. That is definitely not the reason. It is great that you can think of your mum with sadness but mainly love.

PasturesNew

michaels wrote: »

Despite having done more than my share of plumbing in my life I can never remember which way the valves go

They should put the numbers and a mark on the top in a huge black font.

It feels that clockwise to turn on should be correct; anticlockwise feels wrong.

Nikkster

vivatifosi wrote: »

Glasgow grit very much at the fore again, the way people ran to the pub to help rather than away to safety. Reminds me a lot of the Glasgow Airport attack.

I thought the very same thing, viva.

lostinrates

PasturesNew wrote: »

From what I saw, my advice to people now is "Go fast and go first". If you go fast there's no pain; if you go first the other person has all the problems and stuff to deal with .... one that goes first doesn't then have to carve out a new life, alone.

Well, I'm not going to hasten things at this point!:rotfl:

LydiaJ

PasturesNew wrote: »

It's all very well doing wills..... but if there's an error you don't know until it's presented after death. We had several errors and poor choices. [1] Both wills were identical, except swapped names - except on dad's they hadn't swapped the names, so he left everything to himself. This meant the will was technically invalid/same as dying intestate, we had a chance to go for an amendment (forget the special word)... which, luckily, we did. [2] His half of the house money, if sold, was to go into a trust for 3 of us - nuisance and pointless. As we're all financially independent there's nobody on benefits, nobody going bankrupt, all this has done is tied up that money for years, with us having to administer it. Interest to go to mum - except she won't benefit from it (as such) as it'd just pay her home fees, but as she's got half the house money she'll be paying for years yet. [3] Also, all cash went from dad to mum - we had no idea he had that much; thought they were just rubbing along - so now that's all gone into the pot paying mum's home fees.

It'd have been easier/cleaner if we'd inherited dad's money and half the house money, clean and simple ..... none of us would ever see mum go without by doing this. He wrote the will "to protect mum" from being robbed/abandoned by us .... in his bizarre way. No need, none of us are crooks or leading strange/extravagent/feral lifestyles.

Dad wanted us to have it, it's how he was brought up/his belief .... it never entered his head [1] he'd go first [2] mum'd go into a home and fees would eat it all up. That wasn't on his radar... he'd be spitting feathers and blowing a gasket if he knew what's happened.

PN, how long is the trust to last for? Until your mum dies? Or some other length of time?

LydiaJ

Nikkster wrote: »

Lydia, you are so far from heartless. That is definitely not the reason. It is great that you can think of your mum with sadness but mainly love.

Awww thank you Nikkster. :)

PasturesNew

Turned off the heating now, all toasty until it cools down