Nice People Thread Part 9 - and so it continues

LydiaJ

SingleSue wrote: »

We actually thought about having a 4th to try for that elusive female child (we didn't actually think about whether we could afford it really, we just knew we would somehow - we were desperate for a girl)...thankfully, my maternal feelings vanished when I went to see my newborn nephew in hospital and his cry turned me cold!

Within a year I was sterilised and within 2 years, I had had a hysterectomy, so no idea what would have happened in the years to come and our financial situation improved...we may well have gone for it.

Well, I'm glad my parents had a final try for that elusive female child after their first 3 were boys. (Actually their first 6 attempts were 3 boys and 3 miscarriages, although not in that order.)

lemonjelly wrote: »

I don't charge family, or certain friends any interest at all. I refuse to do so, even though it goes against my instinct of being tight as a ducks butt.

My reasoning is that they are friends/family, & some things should just be done.

Provided they don't take liberties, and acknowledge/appreciate it, then I'm happy with that.

In reality I also think that real friends/family don't tend to ask unless Viva's criteria applies anyway...

It depends how much it is, I think. I would happily borrow or lend a small amount to family or friends that I trusted without worrying about interest. Borrowing tens of thousands from my dad in order to buy a house, however, is different, and I am glad to be paying him interest at a rate that beats his savings accounts.

PasturesNew wrote: »

Don't quote, will delete

Oh PN. So sorry to hear that.

Spirit_2

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

As part of a sexual harrassment case OH has been working on, he's had to look at some selfies sent by an elderly boss to an employee 50 years his junior (or more). They were the sort of selfie I doubt anyone would ever want to see - of a particular part of his body. Going to be hard for OH to keep a straight face when they are produced in evidence, I think......

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I look back on the times when the worst employees might do was photocopy their bottoms as the good old days.

LydiaJ

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I don't mind what flavour this baby is, I'll be happy either way.

lostinrates wrote: »

I think that's nicest.....whatever comes comes, there's not that much you can do about it!

I said I didn't mind, but it wasn't really true. I didn't want to have gone on record saying I wanted one flavour if I actually got the other, because I wouldn't want to short-change the kid. But deep down, having had a boy first time round, I really really wanted a girl for my second. I knew I ought to feel I didn't mind, and I wanted to feel that I didn't mind, but feelings don't always do what you want them to or think they ought to. If I'd had another boy, I'd have loved him just the same, but I suspect there would always have been a gap for me. LNE definitely didn't want more than 2, so I had promised we would stop at two as long as it was all OK. So when I lost the second pregnancy I definitely wanted to try again, but when that third pregnancy produced a second healthy child, I would have stopped regardless of gender.

lostinrates

We just had a very short power cut. I'm in the sitting room with dog dog and kiwi. Big dog is in quarantine. We've been working on not sitting on sofas. When the lights were on kiwi and dog dog were curled up by wood burner. A couple of minutes later, lights came back on. There had been NO noise, but the lights came up and dog god and kiwi were each curled on a chair

Spirit_2

PasturesNew wrote: »

It's endless.... endless!!

There are so many potential hazards for the vulnerable.

LydiaJ

lostinrates wrote: »

We just had a very short power cut. I'm in the sitting room with dog dog and kiwi. Big dog is in quarantine. We've been working on not sitting on sofas. When the lights were on kiwi and dog dog were curled up by wood burner. A couple of minutes later, lights came back on. There had been NO noise, but the lights came up and dog god and kiwi were each curled on a chair

We tried to teach Avatar-dog that he was not allowed on the furniture. What he learnt was that he was not allowed on the furniture when we were there. I remember coming downstairs to fetch a book or something when we'd fairly newly got him, and hearing him hurriedly getting back off the sofa as I came down the stairs. Later, he got bolder about it, and if one of us came down after we'd gone up to bed, he would be there on the sofa, with his head down on his paws, his ears flattened down and his tail thumping, looking up at us with a slightly guilty look as if to say "You're not going to turf me off, are you? Because I'm allowed on here once you've gone up to bed, aren't I?"

lostinrates

LydiaJ wrote: »

We tried to teach Avatar-dog that he was not allowed on the furniture. What he learnt was that he was not allowed on the furniture when we were there. I remember coming downstairs to fetch a book or something when we'd fairly newly got him, and hearing him hurriedly getting back off the sofa as I came down the stairs. Later, he got bolder about it, and if one of us came down after we'd gone up to bed, he would be there on the sofa, with his head down on his paws, his ears flattened down and his tail thumping, looking up at us with a slightly guilty look as if to say "You're not going to turf me off, are you? Because I'm allowed on here once you've gone up to bed, aren't I?"

Essentially this is what dog dog believes. She believes noone will move her off a sofa if she is asleep, so she gets on the sofa then screws her eyes up tight. Occasionally she'll open one to see if we are looking and if the coast is clear open both or if she sees us looking close both quickly.


Kiwi is less Bright but equally manipulative, he believes he just looks submissive (cute) and gets his way. Sadly, this is often true. So you go to reprimand him and he rolls over immidately, or drops on to one shoulder ina show of very submissive cute ness. Also, its a difficult move from submissive on his back to getting up and getting down, so it almost becomes an evasion act of passivity to victory. One ends up phsysicallt moving him which is not the easiest tactic to overcome. All the time of course you are trying not to melt.

vivatifosi

SingleSue wrote: »

I did my own research on American websites and did it myself instead...hours and hours, weeks and weeks, months and months of intensive work but the end result was we got the speech going.

I am truly awestruck. You are an amazing woman Sue and your children are so lucky to have you as their parent, their mentor, their carer, their friend, their stabiliser, their advocate.

Astonishing.

Yorkie1

lostinrates wrote: »

Bugslet, haven't got book in but have remembered name......I think..prestigious textiles lands end. There are two colour ways. I like the sunset one over the dawn one for my house. (In an east facing window, lol)


Edit

http://www.housedecorltd.co.uk/prestigious-textiles

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lands-end-fabric---sunset-8523517-33008-p.asp

Wow that is beautiful.

(Gulp at the price per metre though :eek: )

You can see a different set of images for it here:
http://www.curtainsmadesimple.co.uk/558/Prestigious-Textiles/Life-Fabric-Collection-Roomshots

lostinrates

Dog dog is now on the furniture, watching a show about apes keeping pet dogs.