Nice People Thread Part 9 - and so it continues

neverdespairgirl

lostinrates wrote: »

Thanks.

Chickens didn't notice I'd gone, horses I didn't think had but now its clear they are ignoring me. Cats climbed up my legs to scream in my ears and now are ignoring me, dogs were just delighted to see me.

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Including the huge mouse who arrived yesterday and is living behind the cooker. I'm going to lock the cats in there all day in fact, in the hope mousey can be dealt with quickly.

Dogs don't hold grudges, they are just happy to see you. Cats, on the other hand, can hold a grudge for a very, very long time.....

Are you sure the cats didn't bring the mouse into the house?

My Dad's just been diagnosed as a Coeliac, like one of my sisters - after 20 odd years of thinking he had indigestion, etc, and just ignoring it. He feels a lot better now!

fc123

chewmylegoff wrote: »

I know, on some levels we're lucky to get anything given that it's not exactly life threatening / essential. OH is not pleased though esp. As one of her friends got an appointment within a month of seeing the GP at the same hospital only a couple of months back. I expect NHS cuts somewhere have lumped an extra burden on this hospital.

I have cheered her up by booking a holiday to Mexico. Also encouraging her to go to GP and see if she can get it changed to somewhere else / ask about what the future consequences of going private now are. Hopefully the GP can refer her to the hospital where she actually works instead but nothing is ever that easy!

At 1st I thought this was about your low blood sugar......but I remember now the other thing. ...I think
I'd see where you get with NHS first and give it a cut -off point of 12 months say? Then look at private but the costs could be huge and what with you buying a house and all that......

neverdespairgirl

lostinrates wrote: »

Tbh, I thi they are lucky I flinch and don't reflex slap, I do indeed hold my hands so worried am I that I might try and push them away

Funny the things that we all react to isn't it. Anyone else have eyeclinic, I am guessing my tests and drops are much like ones for diabetes or stuff......

I've never been to an eye clinic, but I can imagine it's very hard indeed not to flinch / punch when someone's doing things like that.

When I was in labour with mini-one, I used gas and air some of the time. It has a curious effect of removing any inhibition in what you say, so if you think something, you just say it. So I told my darling Mama (sewing a baby basket lining in the corner) that she looked like one of the women knitting around the guillotine in the French revolution, and told an anaesthetist that she was really nice, far too nice a woman to be involved in sticking needles into people.

silvercar wrote: »

Judge from others on the market. Incidentally I have noticed that rightmove and zoopla seem to show far more rentals than a couple of years ago.

While we are on topic, views on living on the third floor with no lift?

Here if you want to comment on the thread.

WOuldn't bother me at all, unless I had a small child and pushchair to worry about. THen I wouldn't be as keen.

fc123

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Dogs don't hold grudges, they are just happy to see you. Cats, on the other hand, can hold a grudge for a very, very long time.....

Are you sure the cats didn't bring the mouse into the house?

My Dad's just been diagnosed as a Coeliac, like one of my sisters - after 20 odd years of thinking he had indigestion, etc, and just ignoring it. He feels a lot better now!

Poor Dad but guess he can get the correct treatment now....does he have to change his diet too?

My mother got her diagnosis last week and she has very bad Crohns with a faulty liver duct (which will need an operation).
Her diet is now even more limited but having felt dreadful for a long time, hope she will recover a bit so she can enjoy her life a bit more.
She is now fretting over the operation as she is 74 and never had one in her whole life.

silvercar

fc123 wrote: »

I know what you mean but then there is the problem of 'calling wolf' too. They would feel awful if she complained about something and they dismissed it...then she dropped down dead of it.

The main issue is she has no hobbies and a limited social network....so her day to day life revolves around her various soaps and shows, going to the cafe to natter to some similar souls and looking around the charity shops.
The rest of the time is spent on FB commenting on the grandchildrens posts (they have asked her not too) + posting up loads of those postcards with meaningful phrases and then gossiping about all the news/issues in the family (which is big).

She is a shopaholic too but is very good at keeping it within her budget....she alone could keep the poundshop in business I think.

What issues do you have with yours?

Mine hasn't enough to keep her busy. Social network is OK I think, but hasn't got back into her hobbies and doesn't use the internet much (I suspect the main purpose is to google her ailments). She has a number of minor health issues, but she is a born pessimist so a consultant only has to say he is showing a colleague a scan for a second opinion and she decides he has seen something major. She is also now massively underweight and this is causing back ache and knee pain and a lack of energy and other debilitating things. Main problem is she feels very alone and is insecure. The post sends her in to a tizz in case she can't deal with something that arrives. She also worries about what-if scenarios.

lostinrates

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Dogs don't hold grudges, they are just happy to see you. Cats, on the other hand, can hold a grudge for a very, very long time.....

Are you sure the cats didn't bring the mouse into the house?

My Dad's just been diagnosed as a Coeliac, like one of my sisters - after 20 odd years of thinking he had indigestion, etc, and just ignoring it. He feels a lot better now!

Oh, I am certain the cat probably did bring the mouse into the house. Or he could have walked through the big gap that should have a back door in it :Dand under the one that is my kitchen/utility door that has a big gap to allow for floor (we don't have a floor yet just concrete...)....plenty of room for mice, and yes, probably rats:eek:, to get in. I blocked this gap up last year with a rolled up turtle rug. Which I haven't actually got around to washing yet so that I can put it back:o. There should be a back door soon too. By that I mean, I hope to put in an order with the joiner next week and ask him to hurry. It should only take him several months. :rotfl:

lostinrates

DH is all stressed again. Sigh.

He's missing his family a lot.

Ihe's not got much holiday left but I suggested that he take what he has a Christmas and fly out and see them ( its the only way he could do it really, using the bank holidays etc).

He's saying he doesn't want to leave me and the smallies, but I want him to see his dad and be happy.

zagubov

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

What about Belorussia? That's a pretty troubled place, AIUI.

Only place in Europe (IIRC) where the government (the public servants) can still kill their paymasters, the taxpayers.

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Sounds horrible, and deeply stressful. Have an NP <hug>.

Exercise is supposed to really help lower BP, I think?

I'm sorry to hear about your helath problems bugslet (and everyone else). I'd not be rushing to do vigorous exercise until pills got the BP down first and the doc OKs it. Andrew Marr was on a rowing machine when he had his recent health episode, and being in my 50s I'd only be very slowly working gentle exercise into my lifetyle.

lostinrates wrote: »

Aha, so it's not just me who wants to fight back? . I never do I hasten to add, its just I want to. They won't do the trickle in thing, and always tell me off 'that's not sterile' they say. But then, they also look at me like I am the daughter of Lucifer for wanting to flinch.

Ugh. Drops in the eyes. it's like the old saying "I'd rather stick pins in my eyes" Too much like it.:eek:

neverdespairgirl

lostinrates wrote: »

Oh, I am certain the cat probably did bring the mouse into the house. Or he could have walked through the big gap that should have a back door in it :Dand under the one that is my kitchen/utility door that has a big gap to allow for floor (we don't have a floor yet just concrete...)....plenty of room for mice, and yes, probably rats:eek:, to get in. I blocked this gap up last year with a rolled up turtle rug. Which I haven't actually got around to washing yet so that I can put it back:o. There should be a back door soon too. By that I mean, I hope to put in an order with the joiner next week and ask him to hurry. It should only take him several months. :rotfl:

Can't you just buy a door and fit it, rather than worry about joiners?

lostinrates wrote: »

DH is all stressed again. Sigh.

He's missing his family a lot.

Ihe's not got much holiday left but I suggested that he take what he has a Christmas and fly out and see them ( its the only way he could do it really, using the bank holidays etc).

He's saying he doesn't want to leave me and the smallies, but I want him to see his dad and be happy.

But he'll want to see you and be happy, too. Can you invite his Dad over for Christmas? Or go yourself, by train, ahead of OH, to meet him there and avoid flying?

zagubov wrote: »

Only place in Europe (IIRC) where the government (the public servants) can still kill their paymasters, the taxpayers.


I'm sorry to hear about your helath problems bugslet (and everyone else). I'd not be rushing to do vigorous exercise until pills got the BP down first and the doc OKs it. Andrew Marr was on a rowing machine when he had his recent health episode, and being in my 50s I'd only be very slowly working gentle exercise into my lifetyle.

The only place where they may, rather than the only place where they can, I fear?

I agree about the exercise - I didn't mean to suggest rushing out and doing a lot straight away, sorry if it sounded that way.

Andrew Marr is a prize pillock, though. An absolute nasty piece of work, and a hypocrite at that.

lostinrates

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Can't you just buy a door and fit it, rather than worry about joiners?



But he'll want to see you and be happy, too. Can you invite his Dad over for Christmas? Or go yourself, by train, ahead of OH, to meet him there and avoid flying?



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Glad someone feels like I do about Marr.

No, coming here won't work.

ATM there is no room for any of them, but even if there were, Step mil has a daughter she wouldn't leave, who has a father she wouldn't leave, and dh's brother and his partner and baby won't want to fly over here, and fil will want to spend the time with them. And tbh I do agree those times of year are pretty much best when there are little kids. I think they'd be hard pushed with other parts of their family to come over here even if they wanted to, and step mil will not want to. Which is fine, the idea doesn't thrill me! :rotfl:

I'm perfectly ok with the idea of him going there. I mean, obviously, I'd rather be with him, but most of all I want him happy. I wouldn't suggest it then sulk, . Not my style, and its always, IMO, easier to make these sort of 'big date gestures' than have them suggested to an unwilling self, I'm proactive defensively, lol. What I cannot do is watch DH suffer something that could be given relief.

But yes, DH wants to see me and me to be happy too. Well, you cannot have a cake and eat it, I cannot go to New York, but I can be here, and be content with the decision, . We can see each other week end before Christmas and afterwards. If he doesn't go then (or thanks giving) he won't see his brother, and the new niece in person and brothers partner. Thanksgiving is going to be difficult for dates with work, and of course, four days including the flights is that bit shorter a trip.

I cannot go, its New York. No train option! And I simply cannot leave the animals at that time of year, even if I were prepared to risk my health. Cover would be too hard to get here. . I'm a grown up, and i see him every other weekend of the year. I could either spend the day with one of my parents (others away for the day), go to friends locally, have local friends here, or hole up with the critters. I've done a voluntary Christmas before, and if I were guaranteed well I'd see if I could do a few hours of that in the middle of the day, its a good option IMO.


Re door......nope, sadly not. Size on this one would be ok, its small standard size, but its exterior and subject to the listing. Last year we screwed board up over the hole, ( don't want to put a frame on till boiler has gone because once a door frame is in I think boiler is stuck in here:rotfl:)