Nice People Thread Part 9 - and so it continues

lostinrates

vivatifosi wrote: »

I don't think it sounds dirty, I think it sounds considered, rounded and grounded.

I just meant 'the way round ' bit really. Made me chuckle anyway.

Its Friday!

Despite lots of window shopping I still feel good today and I'm trying to decide what to do. Realistically I know the answer is 'sweep'. One of the nice things about putting a manège (not m!nage people, fir doesn't share:D) is it will get rid of some of the concrete surface here!

misskool

lostinrates wrote: »

Worth seeing the specialist first instance self funding? Then rejoinging list ? At least getting in the system trying something and mind at ease? Women's bodies are funny.....we work better when at ease...I mean....its just a bit of the house budget and the saved deposit really.

sorry, if it's regarding that, DO NOT do that. Most PCTs won't let you rejoin the NHS list if you have self funded a private one before. You lose your free NHS place. Guessing where chewy is the rules are quite strict

start here: http://www.infertilitynetworkuk.com/niac_2/ccg_details

bugslet

silvercar wrote: »

Many discussions were started, but she won't make decisions on anything. I have now got frustrated with it all and told her that choosing not to do anything is a decision in itself. So I am no longer accepting that she is where she is because she can't decide on anything, but that she is where she is because she has decided to be.

What seems to happen is that something goes wrong and the decision gets made for them because there are no options.

FWIW, I think you have the correct approach. You will meet yourself coming back if she cannot or will not make a decision and as long as it's down to her, you may as well get all zen about it.

Spirit wrote: »

That is some talent. If we have a NP meet up, you could offer to be the entertainment.
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Hmm, I can still do it Spirit, but whether anyone would want me to, is a different matter. Probably have to sew two costumes together to make one!

Nikkster wrote: »

I really admire a lot of people on this thread. The things everyone else deals with really helps keep the smaller trials and tribulations of life in perspective. But at the same time, I know I can always share whatever nonsense is bothering me, so thank you

I agree, even being a relative new NP.:)

I know the NHS doesn't always live up to expectations, but we haven't had anything but excellent care and organisation from them. The only negative would be that it took so long to get Mr Bugs diagnosed with dementia. Last night he was whisked into an assessment suite, beautifull clean and calm, where they ran bloods, took X-rays and monitored heart beat. At the end of which they were perplexed because everything indicated he was healthy, though very obviously not. He got into a ward at 9 last night and they are going to investigate past scans to see if they included his head or not.

lostinrates

misskool wrote: »

sorry, if it's regarding that, DO NOT do that. Most PCTs won't let you rejoin the NHS list if you have self funded a private one before. You lose your free NHS place. Guessing where chewy is the rules are quite strict

Ok, I defer to your better knowledge. Its a specifi thing I guess. I also guess a lot of people try and queue jump in that sort of thing.

misskool

lostinrates wrote: »

Ok, I defer to your better knowledge. Its a specifi thing I guess. I also guess a lot of people try and queue jump in that sort of thing.

It costs a lot of money. I can't even get a referral to get a drug that costs 37p a tablet because my PCT is so tight.

bugslet

michaels wrote: »

If she sent a bottle of this it would definitely go on eBay!

(PN make sure you are sitting down before following the link)

I wasn't sitting down, despite the hint. Fortunately I managed to reach for a chair whilst coming over all funny.

silvercar wrote: »

Only 73, so not really that old.

Mr Bugs will be 72 in a months time.

michaels wrote: »

One of our Spanish students was 33 and when she arrived she said she and her partner would definitely want kids sometime...fast forward 1 week with our 3 and she said she wasn't nearly so sure....

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

lostinrates

misskool wrote: »

It costs a lot of money. I can't even get a referral to get a drug that costs 37p a tablet because my PCT is so tight.

For. 37 pence tablet....is it not worth asking for a private prescription? Or is this same practice area and same problem...rhetorical...don't answer missk.

Before this time trying to get private and NHS to integrate was the night mare we all read about in daily mail. This time I have to admit its working quite well for me. Maybe its because I am standard bupa route rather than complicated self fund/benefactor fund and no private GP involved too? I dunno. I do not that I miss having a good GP being the lynch pin because a good GP (my last NHs GP before moving was good too) really does hold things together and hopefully join the dots.

I know the GP I was seeing ten years ago would be horrified by my trying to patch together the things happening now with skin and new symptoms and stuff ...if I had even the tiniest change she'd flip if I didn't tell her (I remember a dressing down for a skin break out) because it might be 'hormones' but it shouldn't be if things were working right, but it also might be the beginning of a new problem which would be better halted in its tracks than allowed to develop. (I didn't pay for her, thank goodness...she was like a dog with a bone)

Anyway, the huge amount of money spent on the best specialists available at that time through her referral sit in files and the NHs did!0n't want to look at them or read them or anything. They didn't want test results that would save them money years later, or answer questions, nothing.

Now they seem keener to take notice. And the interaction particularly between gasteroenterologist and my NHs notes is seamless.

No idea what's happening with eyeclinic, they see a. Bit out on a limb...funny for eyes.

As for neurologist...well. DH and I have been thinking if I come and se a rhematologist in London (as seems likely now) I might swap and see a neurologist in London too instead of continuing with this one I hate here. That might be a harder interactions because it will be out of local area as well as private. Not sure I'll bother changing though, better the devil you know and all that....

bugslet

vivatifosi wrote: »

I gave the matter great thought while stuck in traffic this morning. I decided that

a) I have no need for more than one trouser snake in my life. It would just double the amount of headaches that I get.
b) If I had to share my man with another woman, I would be more concerned about sharing my house with her and her using my mascara, or borrowing my clothes. For which she would receive a nutting.

Therefore not planning any sharing in either direction. QED.

With you on the sharing. Sharing the ironing is about as far as my sharing would go;)

lostinrates wrote: »

Exactly.

I've said it before and I'll say it again. Its not a competition. Its not cooler/sexier/bigger to be a particular sexual type or orientation. Its only right to be who you are at that time IMO.


Interestingly I look at my own history in a mixed light. I don't regret it one bit, its an intrinsic part of the me that I am. I do think I might have been a different me if I had been around different people at a certain time in my life. And that would have been ok too.

I enjoy my monogamous life. Its the most emotionally fulfilled I've been. Its sexually fulfilling, (be better if he were home more of course...). Me being me I like having something to compare it to. But all things considered, age, emotions etc etc, I'm glad I did it the way round I did, not the other way round....oh dear, now that sounds dirty.

I've always been as long as you don't frighten the horses kind of girl, be with whoever makes you happy and if they don't, run a mile. So, I agree with lir, jelly.

And then you end up thinking like lir, where you have been makes you who you are.

lostinrates

bugslet wrote: »

With you on the sharing. Sharing the ironing is about as far as my sharing would go;)



I've always been as long as you don't frighten the horses kind of girl, be with whoever makes you happy and if they don't, run a mile. So, I agree with lir, jelly.

And then you end up thinking like lir, where you have been makes you who you are.

Also, I think society STILL. Has a hangover expectation that men might be raunchier, more highly sexed and somehow more experienced than women and that these three are requisite to make them good lovers. Its not true.....

GDB2222

silvercar wrote: »

Your view point is interesting; my view was she needs to gain confidence in dealing with these things.

When the father of a friend of mine died, his mother was totally at a loss when it came to finances. She did not even know how to write out a cheque! He goes round once a week to deal with her finances, but they both live locally.

In your case, even if your mum does not want to move to near you, you can still help her with finances, but it needs practical organisation. For example, she needs a fax machine or scanner, so she can send all the worrying correspondence to you. Perhaps she can give you a power of attorney or at least make you a signatory on her bank account?

You should bear in mind that it would be very hard for her to move at the moment, as her home represents security. She has suffered one loss recently. If you can save her the further trauma of moving, that would be good.