Nice People Thread Part 9 - and so it continues

lemonjelly

Nikkster wrote: »

Ah, that counts me out then. I'm not into sharing

There's enough jelly for all!:D

LydiaJ wrote: »

Nor me. I watched a documentary a while ago about polygamy in Utah and Arizona - fascinating to learn about, but not something that appealed to me. :eek:

Jelly - is your heart set on a harem? It may make it more difficult for us to find people to put in your queue.

Not at all.
I'm only brave enough to try on the internet anyway...:)

chewmylegoff

Not within scope of bupa unfortunately.

vivatifosi

silvercar wrote: »

Your view point is interesting; my view was she needs to gain confidence in dealing with these things.

I don't know about your mum, can only judge what my parents are like. They've had mobile phones for years, mum is a wizz on a tablet now she's got one, but they think bills are something that come through the door and that get paid with cheques. Nothing I can do changes that viewpoint - odd! And don't get me started about how they hide money in strange places. Technology is seen as something that advances and gives them mobile devices, banking is seen as something safe, old and stuffy. Ne'er the twain shall meet.

misskool

chewmylegoff wrote: »

Not within scope of bupa unfortunately.

Get a repeat test done a few months later.

lemonjelly

Spirit wrote: »

It would not get through the filter.


At a team building event a couple of months ago, amongst the many challenges we had to complete, was one where two of us were picked to tell a joke that made th invigilator laugh.

I was picked and told mine. As one observer said of me afterwards ,"classy lady";)

Oh Come On!
Now you've GOT to!!!

vivatifosi wrote: »

I wonder if this is a man thing? NP men, what do you think? AIUI polygyny has been practiced in far more societies historically than polyandry.

I think most other NP have [STRIKE]avoided[/STRIKE] answered the question. Interesting that the NP ladies suggest that they can't share, & i hope I'm not putting words into your mouths, but it is implied that the ladies are too possessive to allow sharing/being shared? Would that be a fair assumption?

FWIW I don't think I could tolerate it either. But I'm trying to work out if that is because I'm to possessive, or because it would hurt any self esteem I had if I wasn't deemed sufficient/equal to said partner.

michaels wrote: »

Why would anyone want a second wife?

:rotfl:

lostinrates

chewmylegoff wrote: »

Not within scope of bupa unfortunately.

Worth seeing the specialist first instance self funding? Then rejoinging list ? At least getting in the system trying something and mind at ease? Women's bodies are funny.....we work better when at ease...I mean....its just a bit of the house budget and the saved deposit really.

vivatifosi

lemonjelly wrote: »

I think most other NP have [STRIKE]avoided[/STRIKE] answered the question. Interesting that the NP ladies suggest that they can't share, & i hope I'm not putting words into your mouths, but it is implied that the ladies are too possessive to allow sharing/being shared? Would that be a fair assumption?

FWIW I don't think I could tolerate it either. But I'm trying to work out if that is because I'm to possessive, or because it would hurt any self esteem I had if I wasn't deemed sufficient/equal to said partner.

I gave the matter great thought while stuck in traffic this morning. I decided that

a) I have no need for more than one trouser snake in my life. It would just double the amount of headaches that I get.
b) If I had to share my man with another woman, I would be more concerned about sharing my house with her and her using my mascara, or borrowing my clothes. For which she would receive a nutting.

Therefore not planning any sharing in either direction. QED.

lemonjelly

bugslet wrote: »

Is this the time to mention that I used to be a semi-pro bellydancer ( emphasis on the word used - think younger and thinner!).

:drool:

bugslet wrote: »

For some reason it's very busy at Bugs trucking, I think it could be everyone coming back off their holidays and catching up, maybe it will continue. Skived out of the office yesterday for a nice amble up to Barrow in a small van - I tell you, it's not real work:p.

Yesterday was the first time when I was unsure if Mr Bugs recognised me or not. He is undoubtedly getting worse in terms of the dementia and we are waiting for a CT scan appointment as there is a strong suspicion that the cancer is moving up a gear.

Good luck!
Remember to look after yourself as well as Mr Bugs. To give him the best care & support, you need to make sure you're in tip top order too.

LydiaJ

silvercar wrote: »

Your view point is interesting; my view was she needs to gain confidence in dealing with these things.

That would be the best thing for her, of course. But first she needs to be willing to learn how to do these things and then get confident at doing them. It sounds to me as though her helplessness is part of her grief. Learning to do for herself the things that her husband used to do for her may feel (irrationally but nevertheless powerfully) as though she's making out that she never needed him, and by extension that she didn't love him, or not enough. If so, she will resist any "solution" in which she either copes by herself or accepts help from anyone other than her late husband (or you if unavoidable), and there will likely be no progress on the practical front until she's ready emotionally.

chewmylegoff wrote: »

I get to do a "don't quote pls, will delete".

How distressing for her. I am so sorry. I am glad she has you to be there for her while she gets her head round it all. Hope things improve soon (with treatment or of their own accord).

lemonjelly wrote: »

There's enough jelly for all!:D

Not at all.
I'm only brave enough to try on the internet anyway...:)

I suspected as much.

lostinrates

lemonjelly wrote: »

There's enough jelly for all!:D



Not at all.
I'm only brave enough to try on the internet anyway...:)

No real life flirting Lj?

You are so charming....its a shame to waste it all on us. Not that I'm complaining.

Only I can only terrify you so far with threats to take you up on it as you know that fir's prohibition on sharing makes the threats hollow......:p


Still....he banned putting kiwi pics up and I did that the other night ....