Nice People Thread Part 9 - and so it continues

vivatifosi

I have mucked about on here a bit tonight. Just wanted to send my best wishes to bugs and mr bugs, silver and chewy. I have no answers, but thinking of you.

chewmylegoff

lostinrates wrote: »

Worth seeing the specialist first instance self funding? Then rejoinging list ? At least getting in the system trying something and mind at ease? Women's bodies are funny.....we work better when at ease...I mean....its just a bit of the house budget and the saved deposit really.

I suggested that but we will need to find out how it all works as if we self fund but then have to go back to the start to get anything on NHS that may be counter productive and delay further. Will have to see. Hopefully the ludicrous 15 course tasting menu tomorrow night will cheer her up. Hopefully it will also fill her up by the end of course 4 or 5 so I can eat most of her food too.

lostinrates

misskool wrote: »

they went here

http://www.smudge-free.co.uk/

one only had half brows and it made a vast improvement.

I have been ploughing through the gallery to find brows like mine. None really. The woman at the bottom of this page is the closest

http://www.smudge-free.co.uk/gallery-eyebrow-page-8.html but I have more than her. The outer part / half of my brow is pretty much gone, odd stray hair. First part is good. The after of those would be too heavy for me.

LydiaJ

Chewy, the holiday is a great idea. It's so very very hard not to get stressed about it, but stress will only make things worse.

Years ago I had the same problem. I spent months monitoring it, but there was nothing. I decided to forget about the monitoring while we were away on holiday. The holiday was great and I relaxed. Shortly after returning from the holiday it became apparent that no further monitoring was going to be necessary!

lemonjelly wrote: »

I think most other NP have [STRIKE]avoided[/STRIKE] answered the question. Interesting that the NP ladies suggest that they can't share, & i hope I'm not putting words into your mouths, but it is implied that the ladies are too possessive to allow sharing/being shared? Would that be a fair assumption?

FWIW I don't think I could tolerate it either. But I'm trying to work out if that is because I'm to possessive, or because it would hurt any self esteem I had if I wasn't deemed sufficient/equal to said partner.

:rotfl:

Why are you so hard on yourself? You're just fine being the kind of guy who doesn't want to share. Why do you restrict yourself to such negative reasons for not wanting it? I see my reasons for not sharing in a much more positive light.

When I was married, and if I am ever married again, I expect to invest my time, my thought, my effort and my attention into that relationship in a way that, sure, leaves space in my life for work and friends and God and kids and fun and interests, but certainly not enough time, thought, effort and attention to do anything remotely approaching justice to a second romantic relationship or life partnership. And I would want the relationship to be a partnership of equals in which he was investing in me in a way that similarly didn't leave time, thought, effort and attention for another woman "in that way", although I would obviously want him to have freedom and space for work and friends and God and kids and fun and interests, etc.

I get it that there are other people that don't regard marriage that way, but I absolutely do not accept that my regarding it that way implies any dysfunctional possessiveness or deficiency of self esteem in me.

lostinrates

chewmylegoff wrote: »

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Hmm, it doesn't usually send you back to the beginning if you swap back into NHs now. That's what I did with neurology last year. ( don't see why bupa should pay the horrid person when equally awful and keeps referring me back into NHs for tests anyway! ) in fact....had I been doing it for that reason, it would have jumped me the queue. So....maybe pick up the phone tomorrow and speak to a few consultants secretaries? See what the protocol would be if you want to refer back into NHs?

This is a big difference I am finding this time round from previous years about integration with NHs private, and not sure if its a local trust thing or what...but personally, I'd get the firsts appointment under your belts.


As you might remember we were there a while back umming and ahh ing, that sort of treatment, we were clear for us where we stood on that, but options to be parents, and it takes a lot of thought this can take when its something you both wanted.

Edit...caveat...you need to see a consultant privately who treats NHs too to do what I am suggesting might be an option.

silvercar

misskool wrote: »

Get a repeat test done a few months later. Not all women ovulate all the time.

Definitely. A friend was told she had this problem. Given some meds to help her. Within 6 weeks she was expecting quins! She then had to go through a reduction to bring the number down to a singleton again.

LydiaJ

lostinrates wrote: »

No real life flirting Lj?

You are so charming....its a shame to waste it all on us. Not that I'm complaining.

I read it that it's the sharing bit that he's only brave enough for online. No reason he shouldn't be enjoying some RL flirting with one woman at a time.

Nikkster

Lir -Think I might have mentioned before, but I know someone who has used this lady: http://www.lasting-beauty.net/page/80/Testimonials.htm

Think she has a base somewhere closer you're way too, though can't find the link at the mo

lostinrates

LydiaJ wrote: »

Why are you so hard on yourself? You're just fine being the kind of guy who doesn't want to share. Why do you restrict yourself to such negative reasons for not wanting it? I see my reasons for not sharing in a much more positive light.
.

Exactly.

I've said it before and I'll say it again. Its not a competition. Its not cooler/sexier/bigger to be a particular sexual type or orientation. Its only right to be who you are at that time IMO.


Interestingly I look at my own history in a mixed light. I don't regret it one bit, its an intrinsic part of the me that I am. I do think I might have been a different me if I had been around different people at a certain time in my life. And that would have been ok too.

I enjoy my monogamous life. Its the most emotionally fulfilled I've been. Its sexually fulfilling, (be better if he were home more of course...). Me being me I like having something to compare it to. But all things considered, age, emotions etc etc, I'm glad I did it the way round I did, not the other way round....oh dear, now that sounds dirty.

vivatifosi

lostinrates wrote: »

But all things considered, age, emotions etc etc, I'm glad I did it the way round I did, not the other way round....oh dear, now that sounds dirty.

I don't think it sounds dirty, I think it sounds considered, rounded and grounded.