What is your take on "I love you, but I'm not In love with you"

bylromarha

You've turned into my brother/sister. The Phwoah has gone.

Saying that, I think you can recapture the Phwoah if both people give it their best shot. The humdrum of life can wear people down and its so important to give space to renewing the Phwoah regularly in your relationship.

Date night is a priority in this house and has been for the past 14 years.

miss_independent

Lol are you reading I Heart New York?

My take is that it's when you care about someone deeply and would never want to hurt them but you feel there is something missing in the romantic or sexual way. You can still love someone (i.e caring for them) but not fancy them anymore. And more so, I think when you feel that way there can be a sense of feeling like maybe it could be better with someone else. When you LOVE someone on the otherhand, that's it, they are your world and you can't imagine it getting any better. You don't want anyone else.

DKLS

If its said by a man it means:

I am bored of having sex with you and tbh its not worth the hassle anymore, now where is that door?

FBaby

'I love you because of all the things we've shared with each other, but now you've let yourself go and aren't fun any longer, I am not in love with you any longer'

neneromanova

miss_independent wrote: »

Lol are you reading I Heart New York?

My take is that it's when you care about someone deeply and would never want to hurt them but you feel there is something missing in the romantic or sexual way. You can still love someone (i.e caring for them) but not fancy them anymore. And more so, I think when you feel that way there can be a sense of feeling like maybe it could be better with someone else. When you LOVE someone on the otherhand, that's it, they are your world and you can't imagine it getting any better. You don't want anyone else.

lol, you've read it too. I'm just re reading all the series. A very feel good series

Thanks everyone. It nice to see how people interpret things

loulou26

Do you think you can get it back once it has gone?

onlyroz

Sounds like a load of ball-cocks to me. Yes, there are different varieties of love, e.g. sexual, brotherly, etc, but I'm failing to see the distinction between the verbs "to love" and "to be in love". Surely they are the same?

hgotsparkle

To love: I see that as more of a family type love, like motherly love or brotherly love etcTo be in love: I see that as more of love and lust combined, to love romantically and sexually

FBaby

onlyroz wrote: »

Sounds like a load of ball-cocks to me. Yes, there are different varieties of love, e.g. sexual, brotherly, etc, but I'm failing to see the distinction between the verbs "to love" and "to be in love". Surely they are the same?

To me 'to love' is the result of a process. You don't love someone until you've built something strong with them. It is 'habit' (by that I don't mean bad habit, just that you've become used to, in need of, familiar with etc...) that means a level of emotional commitment that becomes love.

Being in love is to me more a question of being attracted too, not just physical, but to someone's status, state of mind, intelligence, values, standing, attitude, vision of life etc... if suddenly you don't share these any longer, you don't feel the same attraction.

You might still love that person because you are bounded to them through the past and the things you still share, but not in love any longer because of the things you don't share any longer.

picklekin

Oh dear, I found that book in my office break room and am nearly finished reading it on breaks.. its so bad! I guess its a silly read if you want cheering up though