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McKneff

Most people don't event think for a moment about their parents not being there anymore, it just doesn't occur to them. Been there, done that. my mum just went out of the house and didn't come back, simple as that.
Every single one of us is going to lose our mum, dad, maybe spouse, maybe a child.

It takes a thread like this to remind us that every single person here will not be here in 100 years time.....We should do what we feel we have to do while we are here..... we aren't here for that long in comparison to how old the world is.

Arachne_2

Awww Lizzie, that's lovely

tomdickharry

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When my Nan died (aged 96, would have been 100 this year) I did'nt cry at her funeral because I wanted to be strong for my Mum but now four years later I only have to have a look at a photo of her and I start to cry, it was a mistake to put on a front at her funeral. I've never gotten over her. The worst thing about it is the last memory I have of her alive, she did'nt know who I was because she'd had a stroke

I don't know what I would do if my Dad died, I always go to him for his opinion and advice etc. He's genuinely one in a million, he helps ppl and never asks for anything in return. He raised me and my younger bro when my mum left when I was twelve. Again, I don't think he's ever told me he loves me and vice versa but we know we both do. Try and remember all the good times mate

we all cried at the funeral, i ain't that tough.
my dad raised me from 2 and my brother at 6 on his own and been physically disabled from 1972, he genuinely had an hard life,
but i'd hope i'll make him proud if i can, but i could never achieve what he did.

meritaten

I never knew my dads mum Lizzie-anne. but I knew her sister and from my dad and their memories of her and stories about her seeped into my mind - I felt I know her somehow - and I treasure the mementoes she left behind.

tomdickharry

McKneff wrote: »

It takes a thread like this to remind us that every single person here will not be here in 100 years time.....We should do what we feel we have to do while we are here..... we aren't here for that long in comparison to how old the world is.

i actually read a post on here (i think) when i started to fear the worst, it read about a son clutching his dads hand tight as he passed away and i broke down then, i ended up in the same place, so glad he wasn't alone, but a truely awful position

meritaten

tomdickharry wrote: »

we all cried at the funeral, i ain't that tough.
my dad raised me from 2 and my brother at 6 on his own and been physically disabled from 1972, he genuinely had an hard life,
but i'd hope i'll make him proud if i can, but i could never achieve what he did.

Yes you will - because you carry his love and will pass it on. and you are your fathers son. I know that because you posted your feelings on here.

tomdickharry

end of an era.
4 weeks since i held my dad tight as he went, the pain no lesser, worse even.
so much to do since, but i finally locked his door for the last time today, close to 40 years memories there, still hard to grasp he's gone.

i can only reiterate to those who still have parents, love them, its so simple to do

marisco_2

It must have been incredibly tough to walk away from your dads home for the last time. You will always carry the happy and precious memories that were made there with you though. Grief can come in waves, sometimes the pain is less other times it is overwhelming. I hope you have the love and support of family and friends to see you through this difficult time.

I find this thread inspiring. You speak so lovingly of your dad and he clearly gave you a fantastic life. The family values that he instilled in you and the strong and positive influences he had on your life will benefit you for years to come. I expect you have a fantastic relationship with your own children, as you emulate raising them with the same kind of love and dedication as he did with you.

geoffky

My dad is 75 next week and i never ever thought he would live past 40..He was a very ill young man when i was small and us three kids had to go and live with our aunty he was that ill...
He then had three heart attacks at the age of 37 and was in intensive care for a long time...
He retired at 50 on ill health and here we are celebrating his 75th birthday and he really looks very well.....
We have been so lucky...

Today i passed a church twice and on the second occasion i said hello to my 18 yr old sister who died many many years ago and i thought Crikey i did not even give her a thought on the way past the first time...
But this is what times does for you..
It heals and your grief fades but never ever disapears because the brain can not wipe nice memory's.

Mrs_Ryan

OP, I'm so sorry for your loss x

I've always been a Daddy's girl. It was him who gave me my bottles and changed my nappies and got me to sleep when I was a baby as Mum went back to work on night shift when I was 6 weeks old. I've always been very close to him and I'll never forget my Dad, the big, tough Irishman crying down the phone when Mum had to break the news to him that his little girl had cancer. Mum told me she's only ever known him to cry twice before in 40 years of marriage - once when my Grandma died and once when my sister got married. He has COPD and he's in his 70's now and I know he wont be here forever but I couldn't bear to think of him not being there.