Moving house and area after 22 years- help please

love_lifer

I've only had a dog 18 months. I've lived in the area over 20 years. I shop and live as in socialize and take part in events locally. It's not all about the dog. I thought that might be clear? I obviously haven't explained myself very well

ash28

love_lifer wrote: »

Thanks ash, yes you've explained it really well, there were some bits I didn't get but that makes sense. I have accepted I need to travel out to walk him but I had a knee op and cant drive so I've been going local last few weeks.

I am not religious and find it hard to accept people put so much trust into whats essentially just their faith. No-one knows who if anyone has it right. But treating people who have different beliefs like !!!! to me is abominable. That's why I need to move. I love secular diverse society.

Britabroad thats also really useful, thanks. If I was ignored, as I often have been that would be fine. It's the unpleasantness I abhor. You sound content. Which is all anyone can ask for. Maybe I need to emigrate? I'm not sure I'm that brave

Muslims believe dogs are unclean and if they come into contact with bodily fluids - saliva - a wet nose or a wet coat, they have to go through a ritual cleansing....washing 3 times.

If a dog comes into the house the carpet would need the same ritual cleansing....the car, the same ritual cleansing.

Obviously not all muslims are the same and some (a minority) will have well loved pet dogs.

I don't know what I'd do to be honest....we have a dog too and she is a well loved part of our family...in fact I slept downstairs with her last night because she was wreck due to the stormy weather - she's not allowed in the bedrooms.

Only you will know if staying in the area has or is becoming untenable - and I don't think you should have to move, you should be able to go about your daily business (including walking your dog) without being subject to abuse.

Some of the arrivals halls at Heathrow must be interesting places with the sniffer dogs running around.......

moneyistooshorttomention

You put things very clearly Ash:T

But, if OP isn't just experiencing problems re her dog, but is being made to feel unwelcome generally in her own area, then it goes a lot wider than that by the look of it.

I feel for her, because she wants the cultural diversity aspect, but also wants to feel at home in her home. It would be so much easier for her if she wasn't bothered about cultural diversity etc and felt okay about a monocultural area (being only her own culture this time). Trying to have both aspects is understandable, but a more difficult proposition to arrange.

Dimey

I relate to how Britabroad feels although I'm in Kent. But same principle.

I have no connection with the people I've lived amongst for 30 years but I'm happy here living fairly anonomsly, quietly doing my own thing. In fact I prefer it.

I know that in about 10 years I'll have to leave my home as the garden will be too big to manage and if my neighbours get any more unpleasant then that move will be sooner rather than later.

At that point I will do as Hermoine did and Lovelifer is doing. I'll be willing to move anywhere that is peaceful and safe.

I'd like the highlands of Scotland but couldn't cope with the cold windy weather. I too am drawn to Devon or Cornwall but wouldn't want to live in a heavy tourist area. I like the sound of where Davesnave and Hermoine live. Are you able to say where you are near?

Davesnave

Dimey wrote: »

Are you able to say where you are near?

I'm pretty much in the middle of the county, roughly half way between Exeter and Barnstaple.

EmmaHerts

Dimey- There are some lovely peaceful parts of Kent.. I should know, I live in such a place!

Dimey

Thanks Davesnave. Yes I know the area. I worked in Tiverton many moons ago so I'll keep that in mind.

Yes Emmaherts, I agree about parts of Kent. I do like Romney Marsh area. But don't like towns like Maidstone, Ashford & Canterbury, nor the coastal towns, nor Medway.

Given Ashford's plan to double the population I just wonder what knock-on effect that is going to have on the county as a whole. The M20 is a nightmare already with lorries parked overnight in country lanes and their drivers leaving their pee in bottles on the wild flower verges.

I sound terribly picky don't I? Don't mean to. Just sharing what goes through my mind. As I look out in my garden now I can see the beauty of Kent.

carolbee

I live in a coastal Kent town, not big and brash but quiet with lovely sandy beach, just back from a swim in fact. Aren't we lucky to have such a diverse choice of places to live in the uk?

coldcazzie

We're in Bradford too. There are still some nice areas of Bradford, but some areas are horrendous and the OP is right that the council seems to be unable to deal with them.

We have issues with some of our neighbours, who do happen to be Muslim, but the fact that they are Muslim is totally irrelevant to the situation. The problem is that the family are knobheads. The fella's sister lives further down the street, and her family are just the same. The other Muslim families on our street despair of them because their behaviour is "un-Muslim and paints the rest of us in a bad light". The rest of the neighbours are great. But the attitude of these two families is shocking, and basically summed up with "it's my f***ing house yeah, so I'll do what the f*** I like in it!" (direct quote from next door after my hubby asked them to keep the noise down when they were having a screaming swearing row at half past midnight) The problem is the attitude, not the colour of their skin.

All the talk about areas is exactly what is going on with us here - the neighbour problems that we have are simply the icing on the cake in terms of us wanting to move. The problem is, first and foremost, that this is not our comfortable home area. Our comfortable home area is where we used to live, and as a result of us realising that we are looking at houses in that area with the intention of moving back there.

It's not a pleasant situation to be in, but your mental health has to be the first priority, and feeling safe is a big part of that. I really hope, OP, that you can find somewhere that you are happy to move to, and feel safe in.

makeyourdaddyproud

carolbee wrote: »

I live in a coastal Kent town, not big and brash but quiet with lovely sandy beach, just back from a swim in fact. Aren't we lucky to have such a diverse choice of places to live in the uk?

Yes, there are some nice coastal towns in Thanet and Broadstairs. We will be moving to a 6 bed period house for the same money as our pokey 3 bed terrace in Reading.

You're welcome to your boxey shire county newbuilds. Most of these Thames Valley shire towns are dragged down by fake house prices, a$$h0le neighbours, chavs and a generation of feral no-hopers.

Thanet wins my vote.