Am I going crazy?

Gemma__3

I think my boyfriend would laugh if I asked about it blowing over. I think I make it worse as I watch motorway cops etc and see what happens on the motorways.

meritaten

stop watching them!
Gemma - its a legitimate concern and you should explain to your boyf you are worried when he drives overseas. I am sure he would reassure you! I don't know if you have travelled in Europe but I know that in Italy they warn of crosswinds and put up wind barriers on known bad stretches of roads - honestly - the roads are much better than here!

peachyprice

Netwizard wrote: »

Will just be a standard artic and trailer probably. Just go with him. Company doesn't need to know. Obviously going abroad would be tricky without telling them, but go with him in the UK first

Worst bit of advise in this thread, HGV drivers working for large companies are NOT allowed to take unauthorised passengers in their cabs, her OH will get sacked if they find out.

What self employed drivers choose to do is something else entirely.

Gemma__3

If I was ever to go in his cab, I'd want all the permissions, He works for a courier so when he gets to the depot at either end they'll ask who I am. so I'd need permission.

A thing I admit does scare me, What happens if theres a crash, I'm really scared that I'd never find out due to data protection or something. That would kill me My boyfriend said they'd let me know but it scares me I won't find out

peachyprice

Gemma_ wrote: »

If I was ever to go in his cab, I'd want all the permissions, He works for a courier so when he gets to the depot at either end they'll ask who I am. so I'd need permission.

A thing I admit does scare me, What happens if theres a crash, I'm really scared that I'd never find out due to data protection or something. That would kill me My boyfriend said they'd let me know but it scares me I won't find out

Tell him to write your name and contact details in the section of his passport or keep a note of your name with his driving licence.

Gemma__3

peachyprice wrote: »

Tell him to write your name and contact details in the section of his passport or keep a note of your name with his driving licence.

Wouldn't his company let me know?

I'm already written in his passport. Ive even put me as an ICE number, but would a European police officer take notice.

Gemma__3

What happens when he is in the UKand something happens

I can't stop working myself up.

cod3

Do you want to marry him? Perhaps not being his next of kin is eating you up?

Counting_Pennies_2

Get him to put you on their next of kin sheet at work.

That way you will be sure they will contact you if anything should happen.

Also get him to put your number under Next of Kin on the mobile.

Stop watching the cop programmes, they will freak you out. They are freak events which make the programme watchable, but if you watch too much it will have an effect on you

You have to trust that he will work carefully, but if you put too much of your fears on to him, it will start to play on his mind too.

He is going out to work, you need to get on with what you are doing in your life. When he comes home you will then have a healthy relationship doing fun things together, not you worrying about worrying about him, and him worrying if you are worrying.

marisco_2

Gemma_ wrote: »

What happens when he is in the UKand something happens

I can't stop working myself up.

The police would notify his company that one of their vehicles and a driver had been involved in an accident. The company or the police would then inform your boyfriends family, and most likely anyone else who he had listed as a contact in an emergency. You do seem to be extremely distressed and worked up at the moment. Might it help to go and talk over how you are feeling with your gp and see if there is anything they can do to ease things for you? To carry on in this way will do you no good.