Awful neighbours keep asking us around to barbeques and similar.

Robisere

After reading this, it brought back my old pit village, which became a haven for "Problem" families after the pit closed and lots of good neighbours moved out. On the corner of our street, which lay at the top of a steep hill and on a bus route, lived a real, 100% tart. She had 2 former husbands and at least 3 'Partners', 3 children by who knows which actual fathers. The oldest girl. a lovely little blonde lassie, was made to play out on the street and look after her 2 siblings, whenever an "Uncle" called. The inevitable happened and the 7 year old was hit by a car, breaking her hip. We neighbours had to call an ambulance and then knock on her mum's door to get her away from "Uncle".

The child was in hospital for her 8th birthday, which they brought her home from to have a party. What a child's party that was: Beer & spirits stacked up against the wall, one of her husbands and 3 'Partners' attending. The inevitable result was first a fight. Police were called and all the party goers fought with them. Finally, there were 4 police vehicles, 2 ambulances and every single male there was arrested. 2 police officers were injured, one seriously.

Social Services took away the children, but returned them all after the tart used her benefits situation to get free legal aid and go to court. We sold our house at a loss and moved counties, for 13 years we have lived on a quiet street in a lovely village with great neighbours who have all become friends.We look now upon the lost house money, as the price for living here. We would have paid that and more to get away.

A few years ago, I met the girl who was injured. She had left home at 17 and made her own life, was now married and had a lovely little boy, she was nothing like her mum and actually shuddered when I mentioned her mum. She had determined not to live like that and not to be the kind of mother that her own mum had been.

My advice - MOVE! Do it ASAP, don't hesitate, you have your lives as a family to consider. If you can find the right place in the right area, look on anything you lose with the move, as the price of a better life.

Racheldevon

The behaviours you mention in regard to the children and the way in which they are related to and spoken to is a significant safeguarding issue - one which needs reporting (I work within social care/child protection), i'd recommend you call your local children's services and report the incidents you've described here - safeguarding is everyone's responsibility and once you become aware of this you have a duty to follow through so that an assessment of their needs can be considered and appropriate safeguards put in place