Awful neighbours keep asking us around to barbeques and similar.

aileth

I have to say, I dread good weather for very similar reasons. I'd love to sit in my garden with a glass of wine and a good book and relax, but that's not really viable when listening to hollering, swearing and really loud music. Some people think that sunny weather is a licence to be as loud as they want.

On a side note, something I've started noticing a bit since the good weather is how a lot of people seem to be allergic to their back gardens? The houses in our estate have very decent gardens, but instead people just set up deck chairs on the kerb? Am I missing something?

In fact a neighbour up the road put a kid's paddling pool on their front lawn instead of the back and there was a load of semi naked/naked children running around the road in front of cars!!!!

Loz01

aileth wrote: »

In fact a neighbour up the road put a kid's paddling pool on their front lawn instead of the back and there was a load of semi naked/naked children running around the road in front of cars!!!!

We must live in the same road :rotfl: some new neighbours up the road just done this the other day, a paddling pool on a tiny front lawn and kids chucking water over everyone's cars :eek: glad I live down the opposite end of the road

paulineb_2

Ive had awful neighbours for a long time. I don't think social services would get involved for someone swearing at their kids. Social services wouldn't get involved with a family I know whose dad was mentally abusing both kids to the point where the oldest didn't want to see him, they are going through a separation.

It isn't easy to get anything done about noise nuisance even when the noise is after 11pm, Ive been dealing with various anti social issues from certain neighbours for years now.

Also, even when social services are involved with a family, which they are in one family who lives near mes case, they cant be there all the time.

Someone having a bbq before 11pm at night, I don't think the council would do anything about that even if it were noisy and if noise levels got very high, the only other solution would be to call the police.

Its not easy when you have nightmare neighbours and I do know what that's like. And its harder to get anything done if the family own their own property

Environmental services might also be an option.

System

I think i'd be just grateful i'd been invited. However, I doubt if i'd have gone. Screaming abuse at kids is something I'd rather not have to listen to.

antw23uk

There is nothing wrong with being a snob and wanting to keep your distance from chavvy scum like your neighbours. Don't feel guilty or like you have to make excuses, just say no thanks and say you hope they have a nice time and close the door.

Having lived in a housing association flat for a few years I didnt tolerate any scummy behaviour and had my block well trained in the end So i certainly wouldnt tolerate it now I pay a mortgage :mad:

rosierosierosie

Hi Lou,

I'm so sorry to hear this! I was in a similar situation when I lived at home with my parents - the woman next door was always screeching at her kids to "SHUT THE F*CK UP!" etc and it was incredibly grating. It only started to improve as the kids grew up - doesn't seem like much chance of that in your situation if the children are already having their own children too..!

I would honestly say the only option would be to move. If you are renting this should be easier, but the upheaval will be worth the sleepless nights and ill-health caused by your raucous neighbours. They honestly sound awful!

In the meantime I wouldn't hide, but just politely decline their invitations. Eventually they should stop asking, and then hopefully by then you can move house too.

Good luck!

warehouse

How's this one for an idiot neighbour...

Our neighbour has a dog that barks, a big dog. It barks when they're not there, it barks when they are there, I've spoken to them about it and they haven't taken the hint, now the dog barks constantly. They bang doors in the middle of the night. The row outside at 2am when the windows are all open. The park over the drive so that it's a !!!!!! to get out. They are a bl**dy nightmare.

Today someone parked a car outside my house, and to avoid parking over the drive they parked quite close to the neighbours car. The neighbours car wasn't boxed in, there was absolutely no problem with the parking.

The neighbour has left a note on the car asking them to be more considerate in parking next time, (note they didn't put their house number on it). I have taken a photo of the note and EVERY time they cause an issue I'll be pinning it to heir front door after crossing out the word driver and inserting the word neighbour.

Tw*ts.

Lou67

rosierosierosie wrote: »

Hi Lou,

I'm so sorry to hear this! I was in a similar situation when I lived at home with my parents - the woman next door was always screeching at her kids to "SHUT THE F*CK UP!" etc and it was incredibly grating. It only started to improve as the kids grew up - doesn't seem like much chance of that in your situation if the children are already having their own children too..!

I would honestly say the only option would be to move. If you are renting this should be easier, but the upheaval will be worth the sleepless nights and ill-health caused by your raucous neighbours. They honestly sound awful!

In the meantime I wouldn't hide, but just politely decline their invitations. Eventually they should stop asking, and then hopefully by then you can move house too.

Good luck!

Thanks rosie, and thanks to everyone else too. Today, 4 kids were around next door, (and 4 adults,) and there has been nothing but racket all day since 10am, It has literally ONLY just stopped! My daughter and I went out at 1pm til 5pm, as we had had enough of the loud music, kids screaming and shouting and crying, and the mum and her sister and her adult daughter yelling loudly all day...My other half is on nights this week and got up at 12.30pm as the noise was unbearable.

We are in private let, and are thinking seriously of moving now. This summer is nice so far and it looks like there's no end to it, as the weather peeps have predicted hot weather for at least 2 weeks.

Yes, it's possible they may be inviting us out if politeness - as apart from these invites, we have nothing to do with them, except for polite 'hellos' on the drive occasionally. And I am guessing they weren't devastated that we didn't go, but they still keep asking!

We live in a road surrounded by 4 bed houses, so families with loads of noisy kids are in abundance, so next time we move, it will be to an area with only 2 bed homes, so we'll be near people with mostly one child families.

We are such a quiet family, quiet telly, quietly spoken, music turned down etc... I just don't 'get' why people are like this. So loud and aggressive and sweary and shouty! I literally can NOT be around people like this. My friend has a theory that it's because they are big families, and big families are sometimes more loud, as they are always fighting to be heard/fighting for pole position etc... Don't know if that's anything to do with it.

365days

Get out and don't look back. You are in a better position as you are renting.

Take a look here. The recomendation is always move if you can.
http://www.nfh.org.uk/

Scrapaholic

I also think that they're just inviting you to go so that you won't complain about the noise . Don't feel bad about not going . At least you do have the option of moving and renting somewhere else . Would have been awful if you couldn't sell a property because of the noisy neighbours . I think you're doing well to still be civil to them when you meet . Must be a bit stressful hearing the noise when all you want to do is have a bit of peace .