Awful neighbours keep asking us around to barbeques and similar.

Lou67

Thanks 365 days! I think we may have to.

Rottensocks

I'm another who thinks they invite you so that you feel unable to complain about the racket!

If in rented, I would certainly move if that's an option: this lot sound like they're in ot for the long haul!

I have the opposite problem. My next door neighbour has an adult child who likes sitting in the garden and braying to family guests about her Yah of travelling in loud, drawling, grating terms. She also knows everything about everything and thinks everyone should hear it.
By the sounds of all audience members so far, this child has been raised to believe that everyone should chuckle in a charmed fashion at her erudite and astute musings about life. I personally think that screaming "Shut the f**k uuuuup!" to her at a young and impressionable age might actually have done some good.:)

Tiglath

Rottensocks wrote: »

My next door neighbour has an adult child who likes sitting in the garden and braying to family guests about her Yah of travelling in loud, drawling, grating terms.

Didn't you know there are two types of people in the world? Those who've backpacked round India, and the rest of us

red_devil

all those who are suggesting the poster move who is to say there might not be some noisy neighbours where you move too.

I think in this case there is nothing you can do, we all live on top of one another these days and we have to tolerate things as best we can especially if they are only in the daytime.

Joons

She invites you because she doesn't want you to complain, I don't think it's for your company sorry, it's to ease her not you. They are complete chavs, you owe them no explanation, next time, say no thanks, end of, they're not giving you an inch of consideration and it won't get better, it will get worse with the sunny weather, they won't change and nor should you, I think you're right to think about moving on.

Brighton_belle

red_devil wrote: »

all those who are suggesting the poster move who is to say there might not be some noisy neighbours where you move too.

I think in this case there is nothing you can do, we all live on top of one another these days and we have to tolerate things as best we can especially if they are only in the daytime.

Do you really believe that? That the OP has to accept being utterly miserable and stressed because there is absolutely no alternative? That anywhere else would be as bad?

With the relative freedom to move that renting brings, albeit still an effort of course, I would choose to be proactive to make my life better. I would ensure I researched any house I hoped to move into vis a vis the neighbours.
I live in a very built up area, back to back terracing housing, and I don't know anyone who has neighbours like the ones described, nor do my friend's, so it must be possible.

red_devil

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Do you really believe that? That the OP has to accept being utterly miserable and stressed because there is absolutely no alternative? That anywhere else would be as bad?

With the relative freedom to move that renting brings, albeit still an effort of course, I would choose to be proactive to make my life better. I would ensure I researched any house I hoped to move into vis a vis the neighbours.
I live in a very built up area, back to back terracing housing, and I don't know anyone who has neighbours like the ones described, nor do my friend's, so it must be possible.

i dont really know anyone who hasnt experienced any sort of neighbour problem to be honest. Ive heard them all radios on while people are in the garden, alarm clocks going off early. Music, shouting etc.

Troutwrestler

If they are so awful I don't understand why you went to more than one soiree.. Or why your bothered no one spoke to you.

Tbh...they do sound a bit ott....but each to their own.

YoungBusinessman

As others have said dont worry about going you are most likely only invited out of their so called politeness and they think you won't be able to moan about the noise if you are there. Just say no thanks, remain civil. If I was you I would move. Do no one of the other neighbours go/get invited?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Some people are just incredibly noisy - not deliberately, they just don't understand that their everyday living is hard for other people to tolerate. Not forgetting, as a night shift worker, that's a whole lot different to ordinary people who don't have that much of a problem with daytime noise.

She sounds as though she's genuinely trying to be nice - not everybody is really devious and calculating - and they were hardly going to know you had a case of the sniffles when they were going to warn you about noise/invite you into their home with their family. After all, they were trying to see if you were both OK when you did go - far better than being completely ignored and left to sit in a corner, scowling at everything.


Personalities clash sometimes - I'm fortunate that my neighbours don't have a problem with a bunch of reprobates coming round every so often for rehearsals and social stuff - I wouldn't stop living my life just to keep somebody else happy, but at the same time, I still let them know if there's a problem with noise, then they don't have to feel embarrassed or suffer in silence.



I know it's obviously difficult for you, but try and see her invitations as being purely goodnatured and their noise as being unintentional - it won't change the disruption, but it'll mean you aren't stressing yourself over it.