Husband ran off with another woman,how do I protect family finances

Poppy9

pooh wrote: »

No it was not to do with items he removed from the house.I believe it was drugs which then led the police to raid the place he is living at with his girlfriend.
Not long before he left me I asked him why is he drug dealing when he has a wife and a child and his reply was maybe because I want to.

Why didn't you kick him out when you found out he was a drugs dealer?

I'm guessing you told the police about his drugs after he entered your home?

pooh

Bless you all.I am going to read through all your replies.Never in a million years did I ever think this was going to happen to me.He was my soul mate but since he has been with this low life and trust me she is,he has turned into a monster,it is as if the 24 years never happened.

pooh

3. All savings and assets - including the matrimonial home, anything left of your inheritance, and his compensation - fall into the marital 'pot' and the starting point is 50/50. But from that adjustments are made according to what the court would consider to be just and equitable. You are the PWC of a young child so there is every possibility that you will be allowed to remain in the house until the child is 18.

4. School fees are also viewed separately from child maintenance. Where possible the court will seek to maintain the status quo, at least until the child finishes primary school. If the NRP is a sufficiently high earner, he may be ordered to pay school fees in addition to CSA. Alternatively it is possible for the cost of the school fees to be accounted for by allocating a greater share of the joint capital to the PWC. Or it may be decided that the financial situation is not sufficient to support continuing to pay for private education (but this depends on the income and assets of the parties, and avoiding the need fr the child to change schools would be an important consideration).

The above comments are just for information, you really need good legal advice.[/QUOTE]

Ah right that is useful to know.He is only earning £19600.

Dimey

Pooh, maybe you should think of him this way in your head.

The man you loved and lived with all those years is dead. Mourn your loss.
The man you are dealing with now is an acquaintance. You don't know him well enough to trust or love.

By separating the two people you'll be stronger for what you have to go through.

pooh

He actually left not long after the drugs came to light.He was smoking pot at a friend's house with my blessing because of the pain he was going through after an accident at work.
But it now transpires he was not just going to the house I thought he was and was starting to deal drugs and going to other houses to do so and this is where he met this tramp.

pooh

Dimey wrote: »

Pooh, maybe you should think of him this way in your head.

The man you loved and lived with all those years is dead. Mourn your loss.
The man you are dealing with now is an acquaintance. You don't know him well enough to trust or love.

By separating the two people you'll be stronger for what you have to go through.

God bless you yes.You are so right

Poppy9

pooh wrote: »

........and this is where he met this tramp.

don't focus any hate on her. She didn't steal him, she is not to blame for this mess. Your ex is the only person at fault. Stay focused and keep remembering this as slagging her off only makes you look bitter and jealous. You are well rid of him.

princeofpounds

I understand you are wary about leaving the property whilst he still has access rights.

One thing you can do is move all necessary documents and precious things to a separate secure location. Then if he does enter it will not be such a big deal.

Then your aim will likely be an emergency occupation order. If you are the parent with child and he has already fallen afoul of the police them you stand a good chance. Your lawyer can do this for you. This ensures your right to be in the property and can exclude him. This will be temporary until a settlement but then you may well get occupation until the children reach their majority.

As pointed out you can clear and set aside joint accounts. Also make sure any further transactions require your authorisation so he can't, for example, take debt out in joint names.

The idea is not to then hide the money, but to protect it pending settlement.

CSA has already been mentioned. Temp custody is also necessary to sort out. Good luck!

Dimey

How are you getting on Pooh?

GM11

forget all the 'he has rights etc nonsense' change the locks, simple reason he is not a happy bunny with you and has access to your home, he has made threats, he is a DRUG DEALER! now just imagine for a moment he tried to make things awkward there is nothing to stop him keeping a few baggies in your house hidden and getting you reported to police anon like telling them where YOU keep YOUR stash......... get straight to a legal eagle go for an injunction (with powers of arrest i think it is), then the lock thing becomes irrelevant.
yes by the letter of law he does have rights etc BUT after the threats he has made and the drugs does anyone realy think a judge would consider what you did as unreasonable? i doubt it. on the other hand if you were ever stitched up and there was any doubt about who the drugs in your house belonged too you could end up with very uncomfortable interviews with social services. ok maybe all a bit strong but protect yourself and child change locks get injunction and protect yourself.

very best wishes J