Husband ran off with another woman,how do I protect family finances

Poppy9

You should document and pass onto the police all the threats from him and his girlfriend to you. A restraining order may then be made meaning he cannot come within so miles of you and this will prevent him entering your home.

I would apply for a court order as well to change the locks meanwhile as you feel vunerable.

Take his name off any joint accounts you may have. If he has credit cards on YOUR accounts, cancel his cards, but keep yours. If you have a joint safety deposit box, empty it. Drain any joint bank accounts except for the minimum to keep them open or close them. Open an account in your name only for your money, and get a safety deposit box of your own to protect any sentimental items if you cannot leave them with a family member.

Apply to freeze all assets. Is the car in your name? He may have taken the car but it could be yours!

Good luck and stay strong.

tonycottee

If you have two entrances into the house, could you not change the lock on one door and "accidently" leave the key in the lock on the inside of the other door?

sulkisu

Padstow wrote: »

That's not strictly true as the OP also has a right to privacy under the Human Rights act, may be article 6, can't quite remember which one.

Change the locks OP, I wish I had. He is entitled to force entry but must repair any damage he does in doing so.

Applying the same logic, what if her husband did the same thing - i.e. change the locks to keep OP out, citing a right to privacy? As far as we know, he has as much right to be in the marital home as she does.

Whatever your personal view, you do OP no favours advising her to break the law and possibly make things worst for herself in the process, based on your own personal experiences.

clearingout

the locks thing is a nuisance - my solicitor eventually told me to just change them because my ex was causing me so much stress and we would deal with the fall out if there was any. I didn't change them when it came down to it - I was able to add a lock so he couldn't get in as long as he didn't have the key for it. He never asked for it.

Whilst he does have a right to enter, you also have a right to feel safe and secure in your own home and whilst he owns the property, he has given it up as his 'home'. If he takes to entering and taking as suits him, you would, I think, find a judge sympathetic - it is reasonable he is allowed entry to collect items but he should be doing it with notice and giving you the opportunity to get together whatever it is he wants and give it to him at the door. With any luck, an appropriately worded solicitor's letter will get him to back off.

you will find good quality advice and support on wikivorce.com which will save you a fortune in legal fees asking simple questions of your solicitor.

Guest101

clearingout wrote: »

the locks thing is a nuisance - my solicitor eventually told me to just change them because my ex was causing me so much stress and we would deal with the fall out if there was any. I didn't change them when it came down to it - I was able to add a lock so he couldn't get in as long as he didn't have the key for it. He never asked for it.

Whilst he does have a right to enter, you also have a right to feel safe and secure in your own home and whilst he owns the property, he has given it up as his 'home'. If he takes to entering and taking as suits him, you would, I think, find a judge sympathetic - it is reasonable he is allowed entry to collect items but he should be doing it with notice and giving you the opportunity to get together whatever it is he wants and give it to him at the door. With any luck, an appropriately worded solicitor's letter will get him to back off.

you will find good quality advice and support on wikivorce.com which will save you a fortune in legal fees asking simple questions of your solicitor.

Just stop it, that's bad advice. Because he is entitled to be there at ANY time he chooses. Some people may be agreeable to arrangements as you have suggested, BUT the judge may look unsympathetically to the OP for denyng entry! He could quite literally turn up at any point to live there. He has as much right to be there as the OP - Legally!

I too am surprised that he was arrested, however was this arrest to prevent a breach of the peace? That's the only thing I can think of..

You can apply to the police, to assist in obtaining a temporary order. Will post more advice once kids in bed...

Poppy9

Guest101 wrote: »

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I too am surprised that he was arrested, however was this arrest to prevent a breach of the peace? That's the only thing I can think of..
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Just asked OH - ex officer, and he said he was not trespassing so not burglary unless he took something that she could prove was hers then might be theft.

He queried whether he was really arrested or whether he was just asked to replace items obviously not his and to leave without causing a scene. OH did point out that we are only hearing one side of the story, no offence OP!

He did say personal threats are taken very seriously in domestic incidents and that they do not require the co-operation of the victim to deal with the matter.

neverdespairgirl

Padstow wrote: »

That's not strictly true as the OP also has a right to privacy under the Human Rights act, may be article 6, can't quite remember which one.

Article 6 of the European COnvention on Human Rights is the right to a fair trial.

Article 8 relates to private and family life.

But these are rights enforceable against public authorities, not individuals, on the whole.

securityguy

Padstow wrote: »

That's not strictly true as the OP also has a right to privacy under the Human Rights act,

If she's married to the government, that's right. Assuming that, like most people, her husband is a person, not a public authority, the HRA is entirely irrelevant.

pooh

sulkisu wrote: »

I am surprised at this part TBH - i.e. that he was arrested for removing items from the marital home in the absence of a court order preventing him from doing so. Nevertheless, you will have to brave leaving the house to seek professional legal advice - there are so many factors complicating matters.

No it was not to do with items he removed from the house.I believe it was drugs which then led the police to raid the place he is living at with his girlfriend.
Not long before he left me I asked him why is he drug dealing when he has a wife and a child and his reply was maybe because I want to.

Dimey

OMG. You've got to protect your daughter. Tell your solicitor about this.

Edit:-
Were the drugs actually in your home?
Did you know?
What if your daughter had found them and taken some?????

If you knew - did you go mad and throw them away and tell him to grow up or report it to the police or do something to make him understand he's crazy and you want nothing to do with it?