Neighbour being a pain and stirring

gettingready

I have not seen her because I avoid her and have been avoiding her for absolute ages with great success.

Why the note then?

gettingready

southcoastrgi wrote: »

wait until she is drunk then push her down the stairs, everyone's problems solved

She is pretty good at damaging herself without anyone's help - she broke the shoulder when drunk. Same with other injuries.

BUT her insinuating I "let the dog loose" to harm her in any way is totally untrue and completely out of order.

barbarawright

gettingready wrote: »

I have not seen her because I avoid her and have been avoiding her for absolute ages with great success.

Why the note then?

It's a note. It's not like she's pushing fireworks through your letterbox. Just continue avoiding her and problem solved. Or try talking to her. There aren't really many other options

delain

gettingready wrote: »

I have not seen her because I avoid her and have been avoiding her for absolute ages with great success.

Why the note then?

She wants attention and she wasn't getting it!

gettingready wrote: »

She is pretty good at damaging herself without anyone's help - she broke the shoulder when drunk. Same with other injuries.

BUT her insinuating I "let the dog loose" to harm her in any way is totally untrue and completely out of order.

She wants a reaction and is (imo) unlikely to actually carry out her threat. She most likely knows you won't get permission for seven animals and is provoking you so she will wind you up, you'll. Do something silly and she can be all 'oh poor old me, nasty neighbour shouted at/was abusive/whatever to me' i've had a fair bit of experience with functioning alcoholics and I'd advise you to ignore it.

barbarawright wrote: »

It's a note. It's not like she's pushing fireworks through your letterbox. Just continue avoiding her and problem solved. Or try talking to her. There aren't really many other options

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Don't reward her with any attention whatsoever.

I would sort out the breach of tenancy though. What would your animals do if they evicted you?

cgk1

This to be is half and half - you both seem pretty anti-social in your own individual ways.

gettingready

Next time she pushes another note through my door - will simply push it back (unopened) through her door. Yes, they are in envelopes.

She does not know how many cats I have or how many I have a permission for. She thinks I have 3 cats as only 3 go out every day and can be seen from the window. Woman living opposite her has one dog and one cat, a black cat. This crazy cow was on to me before about MY black cat making mess on her doormat - sent her to her "friend" opposite where the cat belongs to. My cats are NEVER on the staircase alone, only with me when I walk them down and up.

I wish I ignored that note. I will any more she may push through the letterbox again.

Antisocial? Yes, I guess I am in a way but my being antisocial does not cause anyone a problem - I chose not to waste my time on people I have nothing in common with and the little time I have, I spend on things that matter to me.

Not sure about it being half half as I simply avoid her and stay completely out of her way exactly NOT to give her a reason for any digs. And she has no reason for any.

Talking to her is not an option. You give her ANY attention and you will have her on your doorstep several times a day/night at all hours.

I am polite and get on with all my neighbours but she pushed me too many times in the past and there was no way I was going to let her continue so the only option was to start ignoring her completely.

I guess I will just have to keep on ignoring her.

con1888

I admittedly have ony read half way through this thread ( it's late)

However I have myself in a slightly similar situation. My next door neighbour is a miserable, old, alcoholic ( he would deny this) who has driven away his wife and (grown up) children through his bullying.
He obviously decided to start on me... complaining about the silliest of things ( dog hair in his garden, music on late at night (untrue), our cat going in his garden, our dog just.. being there.., us burying our deceased dog in our garden ( which we OWN but also gained councils permission to do so)... and the list goes on.

Anways it was getting to the point I was losing my temper and not wanting to go into my garden as he kept causing hassle and/or staring at me! So I called the police. They came out and chatted with us and then him. He was not best pleased and was rather rude to the police but *touch wood* I have had no hassle since.

So maybe worth contacting them if it carries on ? Although she is not commiting a crime as such she is behaving antisocially and this they will respond to.

meritaten

sounds like she may have mental health issues - but its nothing to do with you is it?
hun, try to accept that in HER world insects are buzzing in her walls - dogs and cats are out to maim and hurt her and her human neighbours avoid her.
Do you know if she has a social worker? perhaps a word in their ear might help? in the meantime keep your calm and 'yes and no' her.

paddypaws101

For those of you who express concern over the state of cleanliness and, err, aroma of GR's flat........
I would like to state that I have been lucky enough to be invited round there a couple of times and can report that she keeps a lovely, clean, fresh and welcoming home. Her animals are kept in wonderful conditions and are a pleasure to meet.:D

gettingready

Paddypaws, thanks for that xx