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What I didn't know until I had children
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when they sell trampolines, they should chuck in a pack of pads for mum!!
“Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no matter what. If you don't listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little, they won't tell you the big stuff when they are big, because to them all of it has always been big stuff.”0 -
Okay lets get the negatives of what it is like to be a parent out of the way first. Every man and his dog will have an opinion about your baby and what is best for it from the minute you start to have a visible bump. This can be somewhat overwhelming and irritating. Just smile sweetly as others shower you with their well meant advice, take from it what you think applies and then ignore the rest and do as you see fit.
Prepare yourself that for the first 3 years or so, as you try to enjoy all the wonderful milestones your little one reaches in their own sweet time, there will be a 'lets compare what our kids can do, joe public' airing their views. This tends to wear off as they start pre-school.
Accept that apart from close friends and family you will only ever be known as *insert child's name* mum from here on in. This can feel a bit strange at first and at times you will feel like you are losing your own identity. Hearing someone refer to you by your first name is wonderful when it barely ever happens any more.
As for the positives, you will be glad to know that they are endless. Sure children are hard work, you would be a fool to expect otherwise, but the sheer joy they bring to life is utterly priceless. They find so much pleasure in life's simplest things and it is incredible to be around them and see life through their eyes. A little like being able to revisit your own childhood again. This keeps you sane as you run yourself ragged doing school runs, taking them to and fro for clubs, doing sleepovers for their mates etc. If you wait to have children till you are absolutely ready for that level of commitment and life change, then it is one of the most rewarding and life enhancing experiences you can ever have.The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own, no apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.0 -
I never knew complete silence could be so pleasurable.0
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Accept that apart from close friends and family you will only ever be known as *insert child's name* mum from here on in. This can feel a bit strange at first and at times you will feel like you are losing your own identity. Hearing someone refer to you by your first name is wonderful when it barely ever happens any more.
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I remember when I had my ds (9 years ago tomorrow....oh yea, time flies like !!!!!!y once you have kids), the HV rang me and asked to speak to Joes mum. I told her she had the wrong number. I was genuinely confused...who the hell was Joes mum??“Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no matter what. If you don't listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little, they won't tell you the big stuff when they are big, because to them all of it has always been big stuff.”0 -
mucklebones wrote: »I never knew complete silence could be so pleasurable.
yet so very worrying!LB moment 10/06 Debt Free date 6/6/14Hope to be debt free until the day I dieMortgage-free Wannabee (05/08/30)6/6/14 £72,454.65 (5.65% int.)08/12/2023 £33602.00 (4.81% int.)0 -
mucklebones wrote: »I never knew complete silence could be so pleasurable.
Or worrying :eek:!Debt: 16/04/2007:TOTAL DEBT [strike]£92727.75[/strike] £49395.47:eek: :eek: :eek: £43332.28 repaid 100.77% of £43000 target.MFiT T2: Debt [STRIKE]£52856.59[/STRIKE] £6316.14 £46540.45 repaid 101.17% of £46000 target.2013 Target: completely clear my [STRIKE]£6316.14[/STRIKE] £0 mortgage debt. £6316.14 100% repaid.0 -
I once read that however squeamish you are, once you become a parent you will hold your hands out to catch your own child.s vomit - I'm a believer now!
Seriously, before I had my own child I had no idea how I would cope with nappies etc but you just do.
I second everything said above about unconditional love and MILs, just go with your instincts - lionesses are not given any parenting advice and that is EXACTLY how you will feel ifyswim.0 -
How funny they are.Reason for edit? Can spell, can't type!0
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That you would never appreciate being in bed by 10pm to sleep.0
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That much to your regret - you will become a 'parent' - as such you have no other identity apart from 'XXXXXX's mum. you will spend your time chained to the house and only allowed out to ferry your child to childminder/school/grandparents/activities/work and supermarket!
you will be called 'mum' by your childs teacher (my response to that was 'call me mum one more time and I will tan your backside').
and you will love it! cos its worth it!0
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