Son dumped on

Pixiechic

My point about paying £8 a week for his child being the least he could do was based on the fact that it is and looks responsible.

He can prove that he is contributing to bringing up his child and also trying to maintain contact.

This would look positive in his case regarding access if he needs to take it further. He is trying to be in his child's life and contributing financially.

I think that that's a good thing.

FBaby

Just because he's on JSA the *rules* don't change!

Just because he is on CSA doesn't mean the baby costs any less either.

squirrelchops

If new partner applies for a step parent adoption, the birth Mother does NOT have to relinquish her own parental responsibility anymore.

This used to be the case but nowadays the new partner can apply for the step parent adoption to the local authority and birth parent retains their PR throughout.

lindsaygalaxy

As someone who has a horrid ex partner, who was/is controlling and a complete [EMAIL="a@se"]a@se[/EMAIL] when he doesn't get his own way and pays as little as he can, I still would not stop my children having a relationship with their father, even though my partner is a wonderful man, much better than their dad.

Wilma33

If she has a new man and baby and she wants to play happy families then it seems very odd that she insists your ex's contact is in her home. Are you sure you know the full picture?

kazz3105_2

Wilma33 wrote: »

If she has a new man and baby and she wants to play happy families then it seems very odd that she insists your ex's contact is in her home. Are you sure you know the full picture?

Yes, this does seem odd even to me, but unfortunately this is the case. You would have to know her, while he is there she can keep her eye on him with her newish fella.

kazz3105_2

Thanks for all the advice some of which is very helpful, son is off to courts and uni tomorrow.
Thanks again.

Dunroamin

mum2one wrote: »

Its unbelieveable but right, as for the "step parent to adopt", the mother haD to give up her birth mother rights then she becomes the adopted mother - even thou she is one and the same person. Whether this has now changed don't know.


x

Surely a birth mother's rights are exactly the same as an adoptive mother's rights? Some people are talking as if adoptive parents are second class when it comes to parenting.

clearingout

Valli wrote: »

When my ex was unemployed, living with a new partner and no kids to support there (at his new home) a year or so back I was getting £5 a week from him, for two teenagers.
The mum should also be getting CB for this boy.
So yes, £8 is not a lot. But we don't know the ins and outs of her other household income.

even if the mother is a millionaire in her own right, the father has both a legal and moral responsibility to make a fair contribution towards the upbringing of his child. At the current time, assuming he is unemployed because times are hard and work is difficult to come by for everyone but he is at least out looking every day, he is making a fair contribution. But for a mother on benefits, or who is reliant on a new partner, or who is working her backside off to pay for her child, £8 a week is never going to feel 'fair'.

I am a lucky single mother. I own my own home, I earn a professional wage, albeit at the bottom end of the scale. Tax credits help out. I am able to make my money stretch and we do OK. Not a great life, but it could be far worse. By your 'rules', that we are doing OK means that my ex shouldn't contribute towards the upbringing of his children?

clearingout

kazz3105 wrote: »

Thanks for all the advice some of which is very helpful, son is off to courts and uni tomorrow.
Thanks again.

how is he claiming JSA if he is a student?