The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

kezlou

pooky i normally feel the same way the same as you and i honestly wouldn't have bought if i thought they weren't going to be safe.

I say "bought" but really i rescued them, they had been found in a bag half drowned and the other kittens died. These little ones are survivors and the rescue place was full and they were £10 to us for both. I thought with ds2 asking for them and they happened to come along at the same or would never have happened. I have a little bed set up for right next to radiator, so they will be cosy and warm.

The other three adults cats will be around but also separate from the kittens so we can make sure they safe. I was asked by the rescue centre to take them as i already lots of experience with stray and seriously ill cats. Two of my current ones are strays and one suffers from sickness and diarrhoea.

Honestly Pooky it took a long time to decide to take them on. I always say a pet isn't for Christmas they for life. We will also be around all throughout christmas and we aren't planning on any stress as were staying at home this year. We need it to be honest to just relax and try to re-energise ourselves.

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I've tried a couple of times to get in touch with POPS just to make sure he's alright and still going strong and both times my message didn't get through so, if you're reading along POPS I hope all is well with you and that you are continuing to enjoy your music and photography and general getting out and meeting people. I wish you the best christmas it's possible to have and a very happy and rewarding new year, best wishes from Lyn, He Who Knows and Docky Dog xxxxx.

kezlou

Jazee i used to just have plain long brown hair, took me 5 years to get ds2 to used to having a different hair style.
DS2 favourite colour is red so thats one colour he's comfortable with. Before that i was very plain and not at all unusual.

I now prefer my hair short as its so easy to manage, when it was long, past my back side long, it was just to much.

The boys are all chilled playing, house hasn't felt this nice in ages x

shegar

So sorry to hear so many of us out there have serious depression problems, as KEZLOU said you dont realise how bad it is until its very bad............I feel for everyone of you I certaintly do ....xx

3 years ago I had a breakdown, that was before I was on SS books, I was doing all the caring myself, working part time, trying to look after a disabled physically, mentally OH..........I was going downhill over a matter of time and didnt realise how bad I was getting , my diabetes got the better of me, I near enough neglected all my own health probs to look after OH, the dr got SS involved , then when they SS got involved I got a daily carer , an he goes to a day centre one day a week.........

When I went to the drs I was already on AD s but a lower level , so they were put up , but it took from the April when I was diagnosed to the August to get better...................Ive nvere ever felt so down and woerthless in my life as I did leading up to the breakdown...................

It wasnt "just depression" as alot of you know...........................

Right on to SS, well Ive got a real good caring social worker on "our case", to cut a very long story short, she has given me another weeks respite from 30 dec to 6 jan , so im very pleased to get that week in , m,ind you if I feel drained now but im telling myself , keep calm dont tire myself , and I will get to the 30 dec im not bad tempered with OH , im so tired out , and its not his fault at all, but the workload is just too much for me , ive done it for 5.5 years and its pulled me down badly ........................

Emily our case worker will arrange for OH to go in to permanent nursing care sometime in January , also there is only 2 care homes that are licensed to have him under 65 , both of those are 22 miles and 27 miles away from me............Not good for me when ive had my driving licence taken away until I can get my blood readings stabilised so that my sugar levels dont plummet , as ive lost my warning signs that im low...............................

Another long story short, ive got a private nursing home that OH has been to a few years ago that will take him in on "council rates", :T:T

So ive told emily this, good job I done some homework on all this ,( well weeks in fact) so now its a matter of getting all the councils financial forms filled in, they arnt here yet, so I expect we will be looking at at least 3 to 4 weeks before he should move in...............................................

So im just going to get through xmas the best I can , ive not done any shopping :eek:, but all the family know the predicament im in , and we are going to one sons on xmas day for a few hours , and boxing day the others for couple hours , ive put a bit of dosh in envelopes for them...........Sheila

kezlou

Fantastic sheila, great news!!!!

I'm so pleased you were able to another weeks respite!

don't think about christmas, just relax and enjoy x

kidcat

Sheila that is incredible, am so glad you were able to choose a good place you have confidence in, I am sure it will make it easier.
Good that you are going to your sons over Christmas as well, I hope its more relaxing for you, and nice for you to spend time together before any move.
Hope your diabetes is getting sorted as well.

I have blitzed places and while OH did a charity shop and tip run I managed to go shopping for regular stuff.
Am about to sit down with a Christmas movie and the kids, to just chill and maybe snooze as well

meg72

mardatha wrote: »

This is so sad to read LL - nobody should ever feel like that. To those of you who are depressed, have you ever thought of spiritual healing? or self healing with colour? Maybe google some good sites on that. We're all connected, all sparks of the one fire. Try this for starters -
Take ten minutes at night to sit in the quiet and light a candle, then in your mind, wrap up all your worries into a bundle and flush them down the toilet.
Then make more bundles, this time of colour. All the beautiful colours you can think of. A bundle of pinks, another of greens, one of blues, violets,reds oranges etc etc. Then one by one, picture yourself throwing them as hard as you can up into the sky.
This is you giving out healing light and colour to the universe, to all the other wee sparks And what goes up has to come down - so if you do it often enough it will fall back down on you.
And in the very act of helping and thinking of others, you help yourself.

Lovely post I am sure this will help a lot of folk.

Every New Years Eve I light candles and sit imagining I have a box on my lap and put in it anything that has made me sad, angry or upset during the year, I then go out to bin and dump it. Makes me feel so much better and ready to face another year.

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SHEILA that post is worth the reading love, I'm so relieved for you that your dear OH can go into permanent care in the new year and a home close enough to you to allow you to visit without difficulty. Thank heavens for a social worker who has some drive and integrity and also can get the wheels in motion for the move that quickly. I hope that now you have the decision taken and know that it will happen some of the stress you're feeling will lessen for you and life will be bearable even if it is still desperately hard for the next few weeks. Take all the time with family that you can over the christmas period, let someone else feed you and look after you both for a few hours and be with other people, that always lifts your spirits, even if it's a dark time in your life. I wish so much for you to get back what you've used up over the past few years, your health, your strength and your equilibrium and your peace, if I could give you a present for christmas it would be just that. Bless you both, I think your tunnel now has a small patch of light at the end of it my friend, and I hope the light gets brighter every day from now on. Take care of yourself, Lyn xxx.

fuddle

Evening

Mar the wind and driving rain are pretty constant round here at the moment. It's also 12 degrees. Today I've been feeling a little like the weather isn't quite like it should be. Interesting. I'm working Christmas Eve evening into night so hopefully the roads will be ok.

Sheila the end is in sight eh? Not having to carry the workload yourself wil mean you can spend time with your OH instead of... I've only been a carer for a week but I've seen a lot. I have a real understanding of what you have to cope with. It's very nearly time for you and your OH to live life

Good news about your home kez. I wish you well and canny tactics in budgeting in order to pay the rent arrears.

I've a new number cheapskate. I moved to a better monthly plan with my broadband supplier.

Christmas spirit very nearly left me today and having to go to Lidl didn't help but I've had antler upon my head, jingling in my ear, by order of the children. It's worked I guess... Or maybe that my living room is lit by candle light and cosy.

For so many christmas we've had chicken for our lunch. We were going to have it again this year until we saw a duck crown for £5.99 in Lidl. A bit more but feels like a treat. Other than that we don't do anything different than a Sunday lunch except for pigs in blankets.

Can I ask how do you store dried herb jars. I've accumulated so many now and was thinking plastic baskets - curries, home cooking and baking/sweet but that will be a lot of shelf space taken up.

I leave you with my very good news. Tomorrow is the day that I can get a tumble dryer! I'm thrilled. I need it, I really do. Phew I got there. Been here a month today. Feels like forever! In a happy way mind you.

Possession

Sheila I'm so pleased OH is going to be closer to you in a place you like. That's the best Christmas present.
Fuddle I have my herbs in metal spice racks fixed on the back of cupboard doors. My mum keeps hers in a draw but her kitchen has a lot more draw space than mine.