The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

cornishchick

Hi all just a quick post.
Hubby had his transfusion, and we managed to got out in time to get to our nephews Christmas play. Foundation stage. Lovely and featured a mid wife who cracks jokes about waiting for 1 king and then 3 turn up at once.. oh and Steve the donkey as well.

Then home for food and hubby managed to wack the sight of his growth with a cupboard door and blood every where. Sigh. Cleaned it up and put a dressing on it, hubby was upset but got him laughing by saying that we need to squeeze this lot in a glass, cos we've only just topped you up, ...
Thankfully mac nurse is visiting tomorrow so she will check it. X hugs all. So much to do so little time.. ahhhh

ginnyknit

Oh Cornish there always something isnt there sit down and be good to yourself, I seem to be recommending this to everyone lately but a quick break with a cuppa gives you a chance to process everything and breathe calmly ready to attack the world again. Right am off to turn up dd's curtains as they certainly wont do themselves and I have a lot more interesting things to play with like new air drying clay and cutters - bargain cutters from Wilkies and clay from hobbyc - saw it on create and craft and saved myself £20 by using my head.

lobbyludd

I got some air drying clay years ago (white) and we've made christmas decorations every year since (it's birds this year, was stars last year) one of the best buys i've ever made, I wrap it back up in cling film after each year - and it's great fun, enjoy playing!

maryb

Hello all,

Feeling very thankful to be home safe and sound. We went to see Les Mis tonight for DD's birthday at the Queen's theatre, right next to the Apollo in Shaftesbury Avenue. There was a torrential thunderstorm with massive lightning flashes as we were walking to the theatre - I see in one of the papers they think the roof of the Apollo might have been struck by lightning. A theatre manager came on stage at the interval to tell us what had happened because no one was allowed to leave the theatre. We were right up in the upper circle near the front and as we went back in for the second half everyone was looking at the elaborate ceiling and the huge chandelier. It doesn't bear thinking about, just praying there are no deaths - none reported yet. As we came out at about 10.30 through an exit in a side street we could see so many ambulances screaming past us, they must still have been working to get the injured out. Prayers for everyone there and those worried about them

Cheapskate

Morning everyone

Been MIA for ages, so many pages to catch up on! Lots of love and hugs, for whatever reason, for all the news I've missed.

Last few weeks have been manic here, too much to bore you with, but I'm looking forward to this afternoon so much - school finishes, I should have finished shopping or doing related to the littlies, one of my extra tasks ends today, all the cards are posted, just food shopping to do..... :j

I've been referred to counselling, been twice so far, and hope that I get something out of it as I can't feel much worse than I do - any improvement would be welcome! :rotfl: without wishing to pry, has anyone else had counselling and how did it help, or not?

Have a good day, keep safe in the weather, see you all later today.

A oxxxo

lobbyludd

Hope you are OK CK.

I've had counselling on and off for 4 or 5 years, and it has been great. I didn't notice any good things happening in my world view and feelings for a bit, and it was hard at times, I would come out sobbing, but slowly I have been able to see much more joy in the world and have got rid of some core beliefs I had about myself (lot of which I didn't realise I had), which have allowed me to thrive in a way that wasn't possible before. It gave me the strength to leave an abusive marriage with an alcoholic, helped me weather the storm of the divorce and gave me tools to keep my depression and social phobia under control (when I went I found even passing people in the street enormously stressful because I hated myself so much and felt my presence near other people was damaging to them). I now go from time to time to talk through a specific problem in a neutral environment. I "clicked" with my counsellor, some people don't first try, which is just one of those things. Good luck (()).

mardatha

This is so sad to read LL - nobody should ever feel like that. To those of you who are depressed, have you ever thought of spiritual healing? or self healing with colour? Maybe google some good sites on that. We're all connected, all sparks of the one fire. Try this for starters -
Take ten minutes at night to sit in the quiet and light a candle, then in your mind, wrap up all your worries into a bundle and flush them down the toilet.
Then make more bundles, this time of colour. All the beautiful colours you can think of. A bundle of pinks, another of greens, one of blues, violets,reds oranges etc etc. Then one by one, picture yourself throwing them as hard as you can up into the sky.
This is you giving out healing light and colour to the universe, to all the other wee sparks And what goes up has to come down - so if you do it often enough it will fall back down on you.
And in the very act of helping and thinking of others, you help yourself.

PRINCESSX87

Morning everyone.

I haven’t posted for a few days as it seems yet again I’ve managed to let everything get on top of me. I cancelled counselling this week as I’ve still got some sort of flu / virus and just I just haven’t got the energy.

I feel like many I suppose, That I’m fighting a loosing battle time after time. Its got to the stage where my thinking has approached the “why bother” attitude.

It seems that life is playing many of you a cruel card at present, This is why I’m hating myself for coming on here & going on about my minor troubles when you are all facing real life issues.

Anyways, Some positives:

Today: Youngest brother coming down for the holidays!

24/12, I have my consultant appointment at the dental hospital for my work. I’m terrified, But at last the end is near! Having a tooth ache for over 18 months but my fear being more over whelming made this more painful that actually sitting in the chair itself.

30/12: OH has his appointment at the dental hospital for his work too

31/12: My mum has finally received her appeal date through. New years eve! I’m hoping that this will give her a fabulous new year.

I’ve also started in 2, Yes two new hobbies. One is acrylic nails. I used to do this when I was younger, I finally have my new kit (Bargain on the world of E) so that will give me something to focus on.

Secondly, I am looking to get poppy into a assistant programme for mental health. I have found some information online and her training with me starts in the new year. Once we’re refreshed in working together, Training will start when we get a place on the programme!

As you can see, I’m trying really hard to make changes in my life. Considering I’m usually the odd one out, Looking for the negatives in life rather than the positives.

Right better leave it there, Hugs to everyone xx

candlelight_2013

MAR that is beautiful what a lovely way to heal yourself.

I am lucky I haven't suffered with depression, but when I had cancer things were difficult and I would have loved to have known that technique.

After Himself had a heart attack he needed counselling and he was told to put his worries into a cupboard and lock it. The Counsellor also played music to him during the sessions of waves lapping round the sea shore.

I never asked him what went on because it was private to him but he told me just a few things. It certainly worked for him.

Candlelight

ginnyknit

Lobbylud, so good to hear how you have made life better for yourself. You must be proud.

Princess, another positive post - brilliant :j

Just been to the Gp and my chest is as clear as a bell. Wanted it checking before Christmas so now I can relax. having a quiet day of sewing and general bu**ering about. May do a little baking too, if I can find my post it note with the recipe on

Have decided to lock my cat flap, spare cat can go to his other home down the road - he certainly will be welcome, and my neighbours she -cat can go home and drive them mad with the trail of tom cats following her. I have no cat of my own and am not putting up with cats fighting all day and night in my kitchen. Last night I came down and she and spare cat were sat on the worksurface - never had cats do that - and another tom sat growling on the floor. I havent encouraged or fed her once and have tolerated her for weeks but enough is enough. I sent a message to the owner very nicely asking her to keep the cat in for a couple of days so she realised where home is but was ignored. I hate doing it but my life is complicated enough without her settling here and having kittens. I have never turned an animal away before and it is written in paw prints round my door 'soft touch lives here' but no more :mad: