The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

fuddle

Good to hear from you Burtha. A tree is completely insignificant - it's the Christmas crafts with the little ones that matter

I'm about to write a cornishchick list for the days chores. There's a fair bit. DH managed good childcare, baths, hair wash and dry (although they tell me this morning he hoovered their hair into a bobble! Seen it on you've been framed apparently. They said he sucked all the hair up the Hoover so that the bobble he had on the end of the hose pinged off and into a pony tail. I shall be having words! Lol don't you adore men!) meals and homework while I was on my shifts but seems he is blinkered to washing, ironing, dishes, bin emptying etc. house is a tip! He'll get there.

Just about to set a sausage and bean casserole off in the slow cooker. Can I ask will a tin of cannelloni beans cook fine on low for 8 hours? Going to brown off sausages too.

I agree with Lyn Monnagran - leave it! It's years of helping others. What kind if a rev and rev propper upper, mum, grandma, meal cooker, housekeeper, magazine editor, good friend, homeless helper, event organiser, fundraiser and that's the things we know about, would you be if you had to clean and tidy all the things that doing those jobs require you accumulate? Hmmmmm house proud missy and dare I say it, maybe a bit shallow? I like clean, tidy and immaculate if I can but it doesn't define me. Looking back on my life and thinking 'yes, I kept a clean house'. Piffle! continue to be busy with what matters.

But Monna - You move in 8 months. I fink you should start packing Jan 2nd! Just saying

PRINCESSX87

Morning all.

Seems I cannot shift this cold that I have. So I’ve decided to cancel counselling this week and stay in. I think maybe heading out in the cold continuously isn’t helping either. Yesterday I managed to make something to eat & dry some clothes and that was me well and truly knackered.

I’m going to try and crack on with my “to-do list” today before my mum pops around for a coffee and catch up.

I feel like I constantly have little or no energy. Any idea’s on how I can increase this? I don’t think its down to anything medical, But it seems like my get up & go, Has got up & gone.

I hate moaning about the silly things in my life, Compared to others who clearly has far much more to be concerned over. But its these little things that is holding me back.

Mon, Don’t worry yourself. Is it urgent? If not, It can wait. Xx
CC. Hope your OH feels better really soon xx

Off to get the kettle on and make a start on the list. Have a great day all and stay safe x

fuddle

Are you sleeping well at night princess? Maybe dreaming a lot? DH is suffering the same so he's on a strict bed time and get up, even on weekends. It's to get his sleep pattern back so that his body knows what is expected - apparently. He then has no tea or coffee after 7pm. TV off at 9.30 but read till sleepy. From what he's learned he's waking feeling more tired than when we went to bed because he's not getting enough of the deep sleep.

It could well be down to depression too. It's good that you see it and recognise it. I imagine you have a whole host of issues whiring around in your head, some you share and some you don't (if you're anything like me and I think we are quite similar you know ) Princess your issues are massive because they belong to you. You are a determined fighter. We can all see that and when you post of a cold I think it's fair to say that we understand that it's not just a cold. You're run down with things that are happening around you that effect you but you cannot control. Not just a cold Princess. You're down and that matters to all of us. x

savingqueen

Good morning everyone,

Thanks CC for making me laugh, I am the queen of lists! I can't add anything to others' posts except to say you and your OH sound such a lovely couple intent on making the very most of your time together and creating wonderful memories. I wouldn't worry about crying in front of your OH - sometimes we cry because we are happy as well so you can always say you are full of emotion spending time with him and how much you love him if you don't either of want to dwell on the darker feelings. I hope that makes sense. We are all right beside you every hour of every day silently holding your hand.

(((Princess))) Make a list of absolute priorities and nothing else - intersperse the tasks with something restful like a cuppa and just do stuff very slowly. Please don't feel guilty about being unwell, just accept it and know it will pass and few things are that important that they can't wait a while. I also feel the same way and not beating myself up about it.

We all had a rather boring weekend, boys and I still not that well and tired. DH revised for an exam (tomorrow) the entire weekend and is pretty stressed as he has struggled with the course from day 1. It took me all weekend to do the basics though did bravedthe shops to (very nearly) finish Xmas gifts (got some bargains still more special food to buy but that can wait for now. Sunday eve boys were suffering severe cabin fever so took them on our first Christmas walk (going round local streets to see decs/lights) and not long left the house and it poured down so had to head back as we all have colds still.

Washing machine, dishwasher and our only ancient fat screen TV all on last legs. Dehumidifier packed up recently but replacement arrived Sat as that is essential in our house (very happy about that and is much quieter than the old noisey and heavy monster!) and the food processer also packed up yesterday. Are all our appliances protesting? Are I am working them too hard?! Fingers crossed they last til the new year at least. We will manage any road, only gadgets.

Today is carol service for DS9 and I am planned to go with a fellow parent friend and also DS7's nativity dress rehearsal (in front of rest of school and parents with pre-schoolers). YUCK ALERT DS7 threw up in the car just before we left. I think the vomit is just due to phlegm as he still has a cough/cold and will sniff rather than blow yuck sorry! Hoping he will be ok for the nativity tomorrow - he is Joseph no less and this year is our last to see him in a nativity and DH's first for infants. I will feel sad if he has to miss it.


edit: hoping that it isn't anxiety for DS7 today, pretty sure it isn't.

I have missed last posting for Ireland so will have to fork out on the super-duper delivery cost as soon as I can get out of the house to send a parcel. Oh well can't be helped.

Anyway I am not moaning (much ha ha) just rambling so ignore my waffle about petty stuff. At least I am in the warm and dry, have DS for company and can write some (all?) Xmas cards.
off for another cuppa and then to tackle the kitchen..... wish me luck... its pretty bad in there....
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Olaf piggy had his last check up at the vetty persons place this morning and he's a clever pig as when we took him on Wednesday last he weighed 714 grams and today he weighed in at 843 grams because he's been eating for england, what a good piggy!!! We have to finish his medications and then the rest is up to him. The ladies on the reception desk have taken rather a shine to him and asked today if they could take some photos to put on thier facebook page for the practise so he's going to be a christmas PinUp Piggy, woohoo!!!

PX87 you must look after yourself properly lovie, and make sure that you get your nutrition right, that will give you more energy and make you less exhausted at the end of the day. Make sure you aren't skipping meals due to stress, if you don't feel like eating then a cup of milky drink will keep you fed. Things like Horlicks and Ovaltine are very nutritious if you don't mind the taste but even hot chocolate made with milk would do the job. If you can't face full meals then have little bites at regular intervals through the day. Not sleeping well is something I can sympathise with, a warm shower/bath followed by an hour relaxing and then some reading time snuggled up in bed seems to help me, and I found that getting the bedding right for the temperature of the room helps immensely. When I added a light blanket I slept much better and I hadn't realised I was getting cold. All little things, but it's the little things that make the difference in life isn't it pet? not the big clonkers that we can't do much about, Lyn xxx.

kidcat

MrsLW - wonderful news, a fat piggy for Christmas all hale and hearty

Monnagran - vicars dont notice these things in my experience, they have a different outlook on things depending on their "vision" we had one once who refused to enter the house even to look because the garage wasnt big enough to house his two classic cars and a bike!! It takes all sorts

Fuddle - I am intrigued by the hoover technique for hair, I suspect OH would find a way to mangle the hoover in the process however. Very enterprising though

I have not slept, have cried shaken and basically got myself into a terrible state at the idea of this morning, which was ridiculous, I am a grown woman for goodness sakes. I did however get everyone to school and then visit the head, where I handed her my resignation letter and when she opened her mouth I said, I am not going to change my mind. WE discussed recent events which she is unaware of, and therein lies the problem no one is watching, and she said I know you have been considering it and I wont try to stop you but I am distraught you are leaving. She thanked me and I said I just cant carry on, and she hugged me and said she understood, and I left a free woman.

ANd that is exactly how I feel, free. I realise they will still be on the yard and things but I am happy to ignore them and rise above as long as I dont have to deal with them any more

Thank you all for keeping me sane while I go through this

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KIDCAT good on you girlie, well done for standing firm and not wavering from your decision, now enjoy FREE and enjoy christmas too, your wings are back in full working order so soar up on them and smile again, because you're worth it!!! Lyn xxx.

Broomstick

I know I'm really only a lurker on this thread but, kidcat, I just wanted to delurk to say a huge 'well done' for 'feeling the fear and doing it anyway'! :T Enjoy the new found freedom.

B x

nan2many

Well done Kidcat. I can't write as Mrs. LW does but my heart goes out to you. Now just concentrate on you and yours. Bless you.
Nan2many

mcculloch29

Kidcat, well done! I'm so glad you got that hug too.

CChick, your posts are wonderful, the absolute affirmation of the joy of life.

The songwriter Ewan MacColl (Kirsty 'Fairytale of New York' MacColl's Dad) wrote a song called 'The Joy of Living' nearing the end of his life.
He could no longer climb his beloved mountains and this realisation grieved him, but he celebrated that he had been able to do so.

Your posts are so much in the same vein.

I spent hours looking at toys online for DGreatNieces... Amazon vouchers are so much easier. GN 1 nicked GN 2's birthday present that I sent and is devoted to it, so rather than waste any more time trying to prevent another occurrence it's voucher time.