The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

kidcat

MrsLW - well done you

SQ - Thank you, I am blushing, I am just a mum who has had to fight alot and been lucky enough that others have shared their experiences with me

Fuddle - I have a huge great big dryer and wouldnt be without it, yes I dry on the line when possible, but when its not if it goes in the dryer then its put in the dryer, the rest goes on the pull up hangy thing whose name escapes me next to dryer!!

Its finally tree day - OH has come home early and they are going into stands at this point then we get to decorate them whoop whoop! Only I have been out all day and much rather go to bed!

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It's a SHEILA MAID!!!

VJsmum

Due to a very distressing event at DS school recently (not involving DS), I now know that I really don't understand autism. Not judging, please don't think that, I just can't seem to get my head round the thinking that happens inside their brains.

I take my hat off to anyone who works with autistic children / people or who parents them. My friend has two autistic boys and they are so different - I have never seen them have a meltdown, though DS was in a class with one of the boys so he has. This boy was badly let down by the school system and now goes to an internet high school - he is so much happier. "What about his socialisation?" opined the school he left, "I don't think much will change" said his mother "given that you've had him in isolation for the last 8 weeks" :mad:

kezlou

Kidcat your a star!!!!

!!!!!! welcome and please don't go sweetie

Mrs l brilliant, you'll be warm all year round

Fuddle hey nowt wrong with a dryer! Once I get sorted with, the rent, thats the, next thing on, the list.

stiltwalker

Evening all - my what a good haul Mrs LW, that should help the cause this winter.


Kidcat - a wise voice as always, think you and me would get along in RL! You are always so ready to offer an encouraging word and some good info.


My hat definitely comes off to all you mums of auties - my two have a rare genetic disorder that can have some neurological commonalitites with autism so we do have some meltdowns and sensory issues - mainly at times of high stress and when there are other changes occurring, expecting some over the next few weeks while DD works on her walking skills as when she focuses on one area she struggles in others. Will be worth it in the long run though!


DH is doing really well with his diet, he's lost half a stone already!! but I don't mind admitting I'm deeply fed up of all the weighing and recipe following!! - It's just not the way I cook but will continue as it is doing him good and hopefully once he has lost what he needs to he'll be so used to the smaller portions that I can start cooking more again and actually having leftovers to freeze/do something else with without DH finishing them off as seconds!! I'm doing well and not losing weight (only just got to a reasonable weight after years of being way under, so had to be very careful to sneak extra calories when he's not looking so he's not jealous) and my mum is taking me out for a lovely calorific lunch on Friday as a treat before I have a nightmare weekend doing a flying visit down South to visit DH's family before Christmas. DD isn't great at travelling (one of her triggers) so will just have to drive as far as we can before she starts screaming , stop and calm her down and then set off again - it's going to take at least 3 'jumps' so going to be stressed even before I have to be nice to the outlaws. Wish me luck!


Hugs to all who need or want one - X

kidcat

Stiltwalker - good luck with the nightmare journey - I do sympathise we have had similar problems with DS9 since birth, he doesnt sleep in the car which always made it harder. I have to say since he got his tablet and ds he has been incredible. We still cant be stuck in traffic without major issues but if we keep moving he copes really well now.

Well we have managed to decorate one tree, get the other in its stand and the lights on and I have now given up until tomorrow. The dining room needs rearranging before I do any more and I lack inspiration. Another mad day tomorrow, I did lunch at DS9 school today and then attended the play for infants (governor duty) and shopped in between.
Tomorrow I have to pop back to shops as I forgot stuff today and then its off to DD7 school to be an escort on a walk to church, will then dash for DS15 and back to do the return walk.
Its also DS9 school fayre after school so it does promise to be an incredibly long day.

monnagran

Oh, my. Loads of love and hugs to all of you struggling with school, travelling, and lots of other issues. You are all marvellous and I cannot think how you all cope. It makes me ashamed of the petty wittering on that I manage to produce. All I can say is that things generally sort themselves out in the end and life does get different. Not necessarily better, alas, but certainly the stresses change as the children get older. Never, never, never beat yourselves up over things that you cannot change. All we can ever do, is what seems right at the time. That's all we can ask of ourselves.

A bit of wittering on now. Today I have peeled, parboiled, part roasted and frozen 20 kilos of potatoes and made 7 dozen mincepies with my boozy HM mincemeat. Yep! Tomorrow is the church Lunch Club's Christmas dinner - for 70 people. I'll be next door in the church kitchen from 8.00am till I crawl home at about 4.00pm.

I bet you all wish you were me.

x

cornishchick

Gosh mon I wouldn't want to see another roast potato again after That!!!

meg72

monnagran wrote: »

Oh, my. Loads of love and hugs to all of you struggling with school, travelling, and lots of other issues. You are all marvellous and I cannot think how you all cope. It makes me ashamed of the petty wittering on that I manage to produce. All I can say is that things generally sort themselves out in the end and life does get different. Not necessarily better, alas, but certainly the stresses change as the children get older. Never, never, never beat yourselves up over things that you cannot change. All we can ever do, is what seems right at the time. That's all we can ask of ourselves.

A bit of wittering on now. Today I have peeled, parboiled, part roasted and frozen 20 kilos of potatoes and made 7 dozen mincepies with my boozy HM mincemeat. Yep! Tomorrow is the church Lunch Club's Christmas dinner - for 70 people. I'll be next door in the church kitchen from 8.00am till I crawl home at about 4.00pm.

I bet you all wish you were me.

x

20 killos :eek: Oh My I have just peeled 2.5 killos and my hands are aching, so admire your marathon.

fuddle

My little old lady (sorry! Kick me in the shins ) new neighbour is doing the same monnagran at her church lunch... 'cept she's on turkey slicing. Sorry Monna and I know you're ageless and fighting fit but all those potatoes - can you not get the younger folk to man up to the tattie knife! I hope at least you have help. You had better!

It is a busy time of year for parents but enjoy it! I saw eldest DD's performance this morning and remembered the feelings of guilt at missing out in sharing in her acheivement when I worked full-time in her first few years of schooling. I know lives are busy, mine too now as I have 3 miles from one school to the next and have 15 minutes to find spaces and drive through town - it's difficult but we should rejoice that we can have the opportunity to share these times. When I worked I always wanted to do the school runs, the chatting on the journey, meeting teachers and seeing interaction between friends. Being a full-time worker for me was awful in that I was missing out of really important parts of her growing up/our relationship as all I did was collect her from the childminder at 4.30pm, no chat a everything was just lost because school ended over an hour ago.

It doesn't matter what we're doing, what circumstances we find ourselves in we will be stressed and torn and rushing because we're mam's with children and umpteen priorities. Like so many of us I rise at 6.30 and don't stop till around 9.30 just to get the children to school. It's my job and I'm thrilled I can do it.