The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

grandma247

We don't have a spare bed any more but I have been known to sleep downstairs. I miss the memory foam mattress so I would rather be in my own bed.

Pooky

If anyone is being kept awake by OHs snoring, get them to the GP for a sleep clinic referral. DH had to wear a monitor over night to see what was going on and he was stopping breathing around 80 times an hour for over 10 seconds each time. Sleep apnoea is really dangerous as it causes a lack of oxygen to the brain, makes the person tired and irritable and sleepy and is something you have to notify DVLA about. DH now has a CPap machine and mask that keeps him breathing properly all night. It sends a steady stream of air down his nose and if he stops breathing the pressure will increase to force the airway open. I only get woken once or twice a night now with his machine blasting at him, give him a nudge and he'll be fine.

Don't put up with snoring!!

Lecture over

lobbyludd

DS doesn't need as much sleep as his contempories, never has, but DD really needs a great deal - we have stories that I play them on audible - they've heard the same ones over and over so it's not "new" and captivating, but does send them drifting off if worried or overtired as it occupies their minds. I don't allow reading in bed, because I would read until 3 or 4 in the morning as a child, holding my eyes open, desperately tired, but wanting to know the next bit, and the next, and the next.....

or making up really boring stories works for DD, but they have to be incredibly boring, and involve people yawning, a lot and breathing slowly and steadily (try working that into a story!).

kezlou

mine don't sleep, never have. But once they both in a deep sleep you can't them up. I've tried all sorts and nothings worked.

cornish what a fab birthday! so glad you all enjoyed yourselves

jem the school sounds awful, i personally wouldn't send my children there. Phone up Parent Partnership, you just click where you live and it will come up with details for your pp

http://www.parentpartnership.org.uk/about-us/

possesion sorry to hear your hubby didn't get the job.

byatt, nutty and fuddle thank you all so much, i have a meeting with cab soon so going to have a chat with them.
I'm in the middle of opening up a new account just in my name.
I have debts which i am slowly paying off but its getting to much for me. I'm more concerned about OH but i think because were not married it shouldn't affect him to much.
Its not a n easy way out, by any means i'm just trying to find the best solution for us both.
fuddle don't apologise! its for other debt which we have accumulated over the years but i've transferred it only over to my name. so now its my debt, has been for a couple of years.

Haven't heard anything back from the council, i'm sure they will have received the letter by now. Just not sure what to do now, its waiting to hear back from them.


I miss my mum (she's my nana but adopted me at birth) at Christmas, we used to have massive parties where all the family would come over. The whole place would be completely filled to the brim with decorations and things. Sadly since she died we done anything like that.
SDG ((hugs)) they always there with us, if not body but in spirit

Oh and fuddle need your new address hun for your card! xx

DS2 is off school, poor thing was coughing all night. So we've been chilling out at home, my migraine is slowly easing off but i feel very nauseous.

jem132

Thanks kidcat I have contacted pp and had a lovely lady from there helping me but she's left now .

In Leeds where we are there is only one school suitable to meet his needs and the head there is saying she can't meet all his needs on his statement .

But it appears we don't have a choice as I have been told today that to send his to a school out of area would mean I would have to get him there myself witch I can't as I no longer have a little car of my own and dh is never around to help so we are stuck with a school that can not meet his needs .

Now what ......

And to top it all off ds9 is refusing to go to school so I am literally making him go .he had a massive melt down today when I took him witch resulted in him calling me every name in the book and thrashing about throwing tables up he threw me across the room and I banged my head off the table .

I don't feel I can take him any more he's so distressed ,I don't know how I move forward from this he hates me for taking him there .

mardatha

I'm sorry but if any kid of mine ever hit me it would very nearly be the last thing they did! :eek:
I had mine before all these "syndromes"... my daughter was hyperactive as hell and slept only 2 hours a night. My eldest son was so withdrawn and shy he hardly spoke until he was 5, and both him and the younger son were severely dyslexic and had probs at school - but they all knew bloody well what they could get away with and what they couldn't , and they all had respect for their mum and dad.
I think parents now have massive problems with the lack of any sort of control in schools, and all the tv ads and experts who chunter out a load of rubbish. I am so glad I'm past that stage but really really your kids should know not to ever hit you or call you names !

mugwump79

hello long time lurker here,


I'm sorry but if any kid of mine ever hit me it would very nearly be the last thing they did! :eek:
I had mine before all these "syndromes"... my daughter was hyperactive as hell and slept only 2 hours a night. My eldest son was so withdrawn and shy he hardly spoke until he was 5, and both him and the younger son were severely dyslexic and had probs at school - but they all knew bloody well what they could get away with and what they couldn't , and they all had respect for their mum and dad.
I think parents now have massive problems with the lack of any sort of control in schools, and all the tv ads and experts who chunter out a load of rubbish. I am so glad I'm past that stage but really really your kids should know not to ever hit you or call you names !


as a parent with a child who has autism, I have to say what has just been posted has broken my heart a little, my child does know not to hit or call me names, but he cannot help it.
I guess he has this "syndrome" and I don't feel it is he who has the problem but those who judge him and others like him for the way he acts.
Very upset and saddened by this comment

kezlou

Jem its hard to advise, is there a unit he could go to.We have one quite close to us where children go when they are no other options in place.

Has his current school offered any other kind of assistance?

i have to admit i have threatened to smack both of my boys for hitting me, i scared the heck out of them. You ever do that to me again and i'll hurt you back. Never done it it since. DS1 came close recently recently and raised his fits, but then he realised what he was doing and apologised immediately.
I won't have any of it.

but everyone is different and everyone reacts in a different way. I remember in September i had to physically pick ds2 and carry him into school, it was awful, he was kicking out so much i got bruised. I let him off with that as he was petrified over the witches taken him away from school.

mardatha

Sorry you're upset !!!!!! but I can give my POV just the same as everybody else in here. Am allowed to speak even though I'm old and unfashionable lol. We all see things in our own way eh.

fuddle

The SEN labels are all really quite new aren't they. As diagnostic methods become better more people are being labelled and I think Mar has a point so far as more and more children are seemingly entering education with special educational needs.

There were 'non' in the 90's in my comprehensive (where there non or were the children expected to confirm or get out to 'special school' and behaviour units) and in the early 00's I went back to that school as the first support assistant they employed. I supported a handful of children across the school. Nowadays the school has a myriad of support assistants.

Mar, your only crime was to not know the PC surrounding SEN. You are indeed allowed your opinion.