The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

CRANKY40

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monnagran

kezlou: I am appalled at what that besom did to you. No wonder she was so horrid afterwards. I don't know if she has a conscience at all, probably not, but I hope it troubled her and kept her awake at night. If not I am a great believer in 'what goes round comes round'. It's almost guaranteed that she is going to meet something awful and I hope you are there to see it.

kidcat: my heart goes out to you. Men like that never change, ask me how I know?
My ex's best stunt was to go off on holiday with a 'friend' leaving me with a six year old who was gravely ill. Later that day our son was rushed into hospital where he 'died' three times on the operating table. But that's another sad story - he recovered and still has the horrific scar to prove it. My ex was full of apologies when he returned a week later! It just wears you down over time until you are not surprised in the end and just accept it. Post-divorce and looking back on it all, you wonder why you put up with it. As it is I know how you feel and what it is like to be in that situation. It's too much for you and I hope you take every opportunity to give yourself little treats, even if it's only a long hot bath or half an hour with a book.

I'm trying to feel positive about our move next summer. It's not easy when you are surrounded by people who are still shocked and grieving about what has happened to the Rev. Her little boss, (little in status, stature, and brain capacity but gigantic in self-importance and egotism,) is being reviled by one and all. Pistols at dawn, if most people had their way.
Still, it has to be faced and the Rev has expressed an interest in churches as far apart as Cornwall and Solihull. We go to see the bigger boss next week, (taller in height and enormous in ambition but a pygmy in integrity) to talk about the possibilities. I've always plunged into new adventures before, but this is somehow different. I feel unsettled.

Never mind. In comparison with most of you I live the life of Riley. Who was he?

x

kidcat

Cranky - thank you

Monnagran - hugs - a forced move is always the hardest one - the diocese have forced many a move on us too. From a now settled, own my own home and therefore am safe from their whims perspective, can I suggest that firstly you will know the right place, and also that maybe its time to move, the work you have done where you are is incredible and I am sure it will continue to flourish, maybe somewhere else is suffering and your vision can make a difference to them too?

If you are looking all over the country can I recommend Cheshire/Merseyside?? you would be near enough I could offer coffee and cake when it all got too much for you:rotfl:

And when you visit the churches, ask the ugly questions - apparently the appointment committees are all being given a very strict party line to speak to at the moment - ask to chat with the cleaner, the childrens leader and the odd job man! They will be able to tell you the real story

EstherH

MONNAGRAN: the only other person I have ever heard say 'Besom' was my gran, and I think she would have called this person one too, although she was usually referring to a man.
By the way, I have often wondered, how you came to be with the Rev. Is it ok to ask? I'm not sure whether I have missed your introduction somewhere. Esther x

floss2

Monnogran, Cheshire & Merseyside will have plenty of places that need the benefit of the Rev and you to help them, I'm from Warrington so shout if you need any info.

kezlou

monnogran something will soon come up. Wherever you go, don't be worried hunni, everything will work out.

kidcat ((hugs)) my oh is the came is so selfish its unreal.

Princess scary. honestly you should be fine, generally if they hear a dog bark, they won't bother entering the property.

Well i'm not going down the legal front, i'm not in the right state of mind in anyway shape or form.

My partner doesn't know about it, im not telling him either, he has enough to deal with. Never mind his temper tantrums. He hated the witch so will kick at me for being so stupid.

She withdrew cash so no trace can be made, if she had then i the police would have something to go on. They did reassure me that although they can't go ahead her details are on the database so anything happens in the future my complaint can then be investigated.

Your right though Princess, i'm so glad we chatted back then and now. Guess who was at the conference, yep you guessed it the witches. But who else was involved only social services and the head and manager of the disability team who appoints and work with ss. They know everything that has happened over the past few weeks, someone told them and they asked me as they were concerned with everything that has happened. I'm pretty sure that if they were going to pull me up they would have by now. Lol they've been tortured by me everyday for the past two weeks :rotfl:

I went to the social thing, spent under £10, ended up getting a lift there and back. Bought a round of drinks and entry fee. I arrived just before my friend and was welcomed by people saying you haven't been for ages. How are you? Where's your eldest?
I didn't say anything to them about the witches, i just oh you know been busy appointments and things. But guess what they then went on to tell me about the witches and precoded to say watch out for them. They then saw my face,i.e i didn't look shocked and they said its you! your the one they've been calling a liar, b!tch and all sorts. Well they were bouncing, saying were expecting you next time you know, anything happens, they getting a bat. Kept saying you better not be scared, i said i'm not. My friend spoke for me saying no she just doesn't like confrontation. I asked her to come, and so here she is. So within an 10 mins all these people who have seen me twice before and that was only to say hello, have decided the witches all nasty pieces of work.

when i was chatting to a couple of peeps they were mentioning people ripping them off, so i said yeah it awful isn't it but people take the mick and steal your money. Then i said yeah but thats life theys always some scum leeching of others and you know what they say karma a biatch. Lets just say the witches ears pricked up so will get to the thief in no time. Now i've said that it will put the carp up them.
Only one witch was there today, so easy to deal with, so after the unpleasantness we all then had a good laugh. It was a good mixture of peeps and the banter was class. The other witch just sat on her own being an ignorant swine.

My friends children were much calmer this time so no meltdowns, unlike last week. Normally our children play together at a social groups so when the usual bunch weren't there the earth opened up.

I was very lucky though my friend gave me a lift back so no paying out for taxis!

kezlou

Oh forgot to say, they comeuppance is definitely coming along. They have already been told in no uncertain terms, sort yourself out or you won't be allowed to join in! Lets just say i kept a straight face but inside i was howling like a banshee when i heard this person saying it.

More a pleasent news, i received a lovely email today. Alady who i have never met but chatted through facebook. Her child has a rare illness and i managed to make her laugh and direct her to some groups with the same kind of illness. I'm really pleased as she said i really helped when she felt so low that she didn't what to do. I replied saying thanks, but i honestly i didn't do anything, i just gave you the group and you did it yourself. I said you were the one who came to me, that i said is the scariest act in itself. I hopefully boosted her confidence by saying she should be immensely proud of herself She now wants to meet up in RL and treat me a cuppa. I told her she didn't have to do that and that seeing her happy is more than thanks. eeek i'm nervous meeting people i know lol

Well OH has gone to bed, my backs hurting so going to attempt to get some sleep

night all xx

Popperwell

Morning All,
Wishing a kinder day ahead for everyone. Its early but I'm happier today, reasonably cosy, slept quite well.

I had a great night at the concert with the trio The Jaywalkers.They are classed as Bluegrass Folk but are much more. They comprise of a female bass player/vocalist, another who plays guitar, violin and sings and a male vocalist who plays guitar and mandolin. Some known and original music in the set.

They played a selection of blue grass, blues, folk and Brazilian music. Instrumental and songs both fast and slow. All accomplished musicians, engaging and open faces that showed how they enjoy what they do.

Before the concert whilst hunting sweets at a supermarket in case I started coughing, I found a date and walnut loaf that had been reduced to 25p(a friend has been praising it to me)so thought I'd try it. I haven't found my marmelade and Marmite at home so purchased some supermarket brand versions of both so I can have toast again.

And I gave in, I found a box of chocolate biscuits for Christmas(I said I would avoid special items as they are usually expensive and at £6 no way would I consider them.

However, for a limited time they are on offer for £2. So I have a box and will keep them back as a treat until Christmas or next year.

Stay safe x

PRINCESSX87

Morning all.

Went to the doctors last night as planned it again had my medication changed and upped. Hopefully this will be a turning point now & I can start making little changes. I spoke to the doc again about CBT? I think its called. Its been suggested more than once about me attending but the idea scares the life out of me. From what I’ve been reading, Its main purpose is to remove you from your comfort zones.

I have to call them today to arrange an over the phone assessment. I think a cuppa is required first though.

I also spoke to the doctor about my dentist appointment tomorrow as this is something that is causing me a lot of anxiety because of my dental fear. Doc has prescribed me a diazepam to take on the understanding that I supervised all day after taking it because I’ll liable to become “zombie-like!” for the first few hours & slightly dazed and “maybe” confused after.

Gosh, Writing this & reading this back makes it sound awful.

Anyways, In regard to the break in’s, OH has suggested that we go to the local neighbour stop shop (Police officers there for advice ect) and ask what measures we can take in order to make our home more secure. I understand the fact I have dogs is a plus, But it didn’t stop the last break in for a neighbour and close friend of mine, As she had one and they still risked it.

Kez, I would suggest that you tell you partner what the witch has done, Its not fair that he is in the dark & last thing you want is someone getting in the middle of your relationship also.

Mona, Come to Bristol. I'm pretty sure there is plenty of cake, tea, chats to be had x

nuttyp

Hi, ive finally woken up, and its nice and sunny outside. Loaded up the washing machine with all of OH work stuff.

I was at work last night and the hospital rang to arrange a date for DD operation. We only saw the consultant on Tuesday morning. They have set the date for NOV 18th Its a day case, they will take about half an hour so sort it out. The fact is when she gets a nose bleed they last for over 3/4 hours and then for the next couple of days she is exhausted.

I know some people complain about our NHS, but to be given a date the next day its unheard of.

Must get some things done, need to decide what OH and DD will have for tea.

Take care x