The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

PRINCESSX87

Warning!! My advice is not grown up! But…

Kez, After everything this so called women has done, I personally would give her a solid & hard smack! << see, I told you not grown up at all. But this person has / is making your life a total hell hole. No one, ever so be a victim in any way. I cant believe even with your card & pin nothing can be done because you didn’t give “it” the right to take the money.

Like I said to you before, Don’t worry about social services, Your clearly a amazing mother therefore SS time is wasted.

Sorry to other posters. I don’t think you should use violence anytime, but, a bully only understand when you turn the tables!

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[Deleted User]

KEZ, what a difficult situation for you to be in, do you think she deliberately set out to drive you out of her group because she knew you were bound to find out what she had done? It seems a likely explanation for her agressive behaviour and attitude towards you earlier in the summer that upset you so much. It might be that you didn't do anything to warrant it, but that it was all driven by her having stolen your money??? It might pay you to take legal advice to see if there is any way in which you could stand a chance of recouping your money, such a horrible thing, she is really a very deplorable person isn't she? Lyn xxx.

Nargleblast

Burtha - so now you know. And the truth was not as bad as it could have been. The condition is manageable and treatable, you have been given a new lease of life with that news. So pleased for you, and hope things stay good.

Kezlou - words fail me. Well, no they don't - it answers a big question - why was that person so nasty to you? Answer - they were shystering you big-time and either gloating about it or expressing their underlying guilt. Either way this person is scumbag pondlife and deserves no concern from you or anyone. You were an idiot for giving your card and PIN to another person, you know that now, and will be careful in the future. Heaven knows, we have all done stupid things at some time or other. Well done for reporting it to the police - ok, they may not be able to take action but by reporting it you have put that person's name on their files, and that sort of person never changes their ways so she will appear on police records again and again until she eventually gets caught out and dealt with. You have dealt correctly in a mature and adult way with the council and Argos, and can make arrangements to repay what's owing in a manageable way. You have been wise to set up a proper payment system for your rent that you can control. This has been a horrible learning experience for you, but you will come out of it stronger. And it makes sense that all the time certain people were being horrible to you, it wasn't you being in victim mode that caused it, it was the fact that they had a hidden agenda going on that you were unaware of.

The best revenge anyone can get is to lead a good life. Onwards and upwards!

PRINCESSX87

Feeling rather nervous lately, I’ve just heard of another house in our road being broken into in the last 6-8 weeks. Before this time it happened to a neighbour of mine. They ruined her home and destroyed her childrens toys, ect.

Its nearer and nearer to our door number. Everyone keeps telling me its fine because I have the 2 dogs here, But our neighbour had a dog too! It didn’t stop them. Furthermore, I don’t want my dogs to get hurt or hurt someone & risk loosing them!

I will be having a word with OH tonight and contacting the estate agent to find out how to make our property more secure.

FairyPrincessk

Kez, all I've got to offer is very big hugs. It is a lot of money, but in the grand scheme of things I think you'll come up far, far better in the end. Whether she was stirring things up to cover her theft or theft was a part of her stirring things up, I doubt anyone but her will ever know. It does sound like she is a very masterful manipulator and you shouldn't blame yourself for that.

[Deleted User]

PX87 it is a known fact that a burgler would always rather not enter a house with dogs in, it is much easier for them to get inside quietly if fred and fido aren't barking thier heads off even if it is only because they want to play!!! I would think you'd be close to the bottom of any burglars list with your poochies so don't worry too much, Mans best friend isn't called that for nothing you know!!! Lyn xxx.

FairyPrincessk

Oh Princess, that does sound worrying! Perhaps try contacting your local police/community support officer. We had a break in about a year ago and they did give us some helpful advice on prevention. Our landlady agreed to fit a better lock on our back gate, but that was the extent of it. After that we were very careful about what we put in view of windows. We don't have anything that most thieves would want, but I'd never want to tempt them in and then have them angry at not finding anything--esp. if I had pets!

EstherH

PRINCESS: agree violence isn't right, but my thoughts were can't someone go round and duff her up.
KEZLOE: you are definitely not whinging (or whichever expression you used- cant remember now.). So glad you are able to share which will help you a little bit.
KIDKAT: hugs to you. I don't know how you do it all!
Esther x

FairyPrincessk

Kidcat--that sounds exhausting! Are there any easy meals in the freezer you can pull out? I can't remember your kids ages--would they take well to a quick freezer dinner and then a film while mum "rests" with her eyes closed? I wish I could be there to lend a hand.

Possession

Kidcat, sorry I missed your post. (((Hugs))) and hope you're feeling better soon.