The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

lobbyludd

Kezlou,

did the money get withdrawn from your account or was it used to pay something else, because that could be a possible way to trace what she has done, and perhaps look into the small claims court.

But I think your attitude of "it's gone" is probably the only way to keep your sanity. I wouldn't confront her, or mention it to anyone in the circle at all, even if you see her pull similar with someone else - fact is unless you can prove it, she could start legal proceedings of her own. It will stir up more trouble and won't get you your money back. Best to stick with exploring the legal stuff and keep completely schtum otherwise.

but yes - her punishment is she has to live with herself, be nasty and tell lies to cover her tracks, and not have a decent person in her life - you. she'll be found out, no-one can keep this up for long.

Knit_Witch

Burtha - I'm glad the news was no worse, hopefully things can improve from now on :j

KEZ - huge hugs coming your way - not sure what to suggest except the small claims court :mad:

Kidcat - more hugs coming your way and I hope you feel better soon :A

Cheapskate

kez, what an awful shock! {{{big hug}}} Can only echo others comments, in that maybe her behaviour towards you was guilt-related in some way. I really hope you find some way of sorting it out, I would have felt sick and angry, too, to be scammed by someone I thought I could trust. I've seen something on facebook today about karma coming to get you, one of those e-card things - you know whose page I mean? - dead right!!

burtha - relieved to hear that you to have a better idea of what's happening inside your head. Was thinking of you yesterday, hope you feel a little better today. ((hugs))

Weather's rubbish here today, adult DD was kicking off last night about something fairly trivial, DH bluntly told her where to go so she's sulking big time, and between working and chasing after everyone else I have to go out after tea to buy smallest DD's birthday present (for tomorrow! :eek:), so a little stressed today! :rotfl:

A xo

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KEZ talked to a friend a few minutes ago who suggested that you try to find if there is an Advocacy Centre in your area, it is a place where lawyers give thier time for free advice for cases like yours, she felt it might be suitable for small claims court if the taking of your money was for one purpose i.e paying the rent and this was not done and the money used for other purposes, it might constitute fraud. If you can't find the address locally either the CAB or the Library should be able to give you the address of the Advocacy Centre closest to your area, might be worth a go? It might make no difference but it might just lead to getting your cash or part of it back??? Hope that's useful, Lyn xxx.

greenbee

Good advice from MrsLW.

The card/pin stuff aside, what would the reaction have been if you had handed over cash?

I still think it might be worth innocently asking for the receipts as there appears to have been a problem and Argos/LA need to try to trace the payment and credit it to the correct account. Behave as if you think it is a genuine error. But make sure you ask in a public place with LOTS of people around and friends to support you.

Pooky

Kez - I'm with Greenbee on this one, as her publically for the receipts. How dare she steal your money. But how dare she get away with it!

Can you really afford to lose £1200? What has your DH said about it?

Kidkat - hope the antibiotics kick in soon. If I were closer I'd come help x

kidcat

Thanks all - have managed a half an hour nap, and can actually hear a little better now so am assuming the tablets are working.

Kez - I know how embarrassing it may be that she has managed to do this to you, but she cannot be allowed to get away with this, I am with the others, there has got to be a way of dealing with it legally.

the_cake

Kez - quite agree with the others, don't let the b**ch get away with stealing this from you. I like greenbee's suggestion, seems to be a wise first step. Good luck. xx

alfsmum

kidcat, kez, thinking of you both, life is rotten sometimes but you are both so strong and I am full of admiration for how you cope.

Burtha, glad the news wasn't as bad as it might have been. Hopeful you can relax a little more now and enjoy life.

Hugs to everyone who is poorly or struggling.

Trying to read along if not posting as hectic time sorting out residential care for Mum, visiting her in hospital etc.

kidcat

not sure if anyone can help me -OH has arrived home and to add insult to injury I have to book and pay for his accomodation, cheap only - does anyone know where is near Morningside Edinburgh?